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I went out to eat with my family last night, and as we were all saying our "goodbyes," my aunt told me (jokingly) that I was the worst hugger. She called me out for giving the lame "one arm hug," and asked why I acted like they all had cooties or something. When I was younger, I hugged EVERYONE and did so without reservation. Friends, family, people I had just met. But now, I don't really like hugging anyone but my husband, although I still feel obligated to hug both mine and my husband's family members. I don't know what changed, but I just don't really like it anymore. I'd actually prefer just kissing them on the cheek. Or just waving at them. :)
In any case, are you a big hugger, or would you prefer the good ole handshake?
LOL I am the most awkward hugger EVER because I can never make up my mind whether I'm going to hug them across the back or around the shoulders or under the shoulders or whatever, so usually I just sort of grab onto them wherever and then do that awkward head bob to avoid bonking them in the head.
No hugging!! I actually kind of avoid it when we're leaving my FIL and FMIL's house. I wish I could just say goodbye without the hug!
I'm a hugger usually, but I can definitely understand why people are not! It's the people that try to kiss me - I am not ok with that.
I HUG EVERYONE.
Seriously, it's really bad! Girls that don't know me well have accused me of flirting because I love to hug!! FI knows this though and just laughs when he hears about my "flirting".
I love hugging FI and my mom and dad, and that's it. Not my sister, my grandma or anyone else. I do the one-armed pat on the back thing, too except with my designated hug-friendly people.
Ah! I hate hugging! I always leave a strange hugging encounter feeling somewhat violated. I'm okay with hugging close friends, family, and FI but that's IT nobody else, and I so hate it when people I barely know want to hug me. Or co-workers. Ack
@ohheavenlyday: This is so what I feel like! I don't know why it got awkward as I got older, but I hate it!
I hate being touched in general! FMIL is a touchy feely type of person and always finds a way to play with my hair, rub my arm, hug me, kiss my cheek, etc. FI has told her numerous time to stop, but she never does. It freaks me out!
I don't like to hug but both my family and FI's family like to hug! I don't feel the need to touch other people, not that I think they are gross or anything, but we just don't need to touch.
But, when I do hug I pat people on the back. I have no idea why but I have been doing it since I was a baby (seriously a baby.) People in my family pat each other on the back, but no one in FI's family does.
I was never much of a hugger, but all of my SO's friends (well the girls in the circle) are BIG huggers, every time we say hello and goodbye, there's a hug involved... so I've gotten used to it and actually like it now :)
@Meealissa: Haha sorry. I like to attack strangers with hugs. The first time I met one of my bridesmaids I gave her a huge hug. To this day she still talks about how awkward she felt when this random girl gave her a hug. ;-)
@dance: AHHHH the dreaded kissing. FI's family likes to hugg and then kiss eachother 3 times on the cheeks.
I'm big on my personal space, so I'm not a fan of hugging or kissing (unless it's my hubby or nephews!). Hubby's family is big on hugs and the 2 kisses thing, and there's a lot of them, so I always hate the "hi" and "goodbyes" at family parties.
@TinyTina: Haha! You sound like me! I LOVE hugging people (at least people I know / care about - I don't tend to hug randoms)! DH laughs when me and I BMs see one another (I live far away so I don't see them often). It always starts out with us running to each other and hugging!
I like hugging FI and really close friends only. Other than that, it just weirds me out. I ran into an ex-boss of mine a couple of months back and she went in for the hug. I did the stiff one-arm reach and pat. It was really awkward.
FMIL is a big hugger and very sweet and sensitive, so I put up with it because it would hurt her feelings if I didn't hug her back. But honestly, I don't even like being hugged by my own mother.
Strange exception: my wedding planner started hugging me hello and goodbye after a few meetings. I thought it was a bit odd, but for some reason it doesn't bug me. Maybe it's because she's a genius and making my life about 1000x easier!
I despise long hugs. Awkward!! I really only hug family. And even then, only immediate family isn't awkward! And my best friend. I don't like when old friends come up and want to hug me... I get all "lame one arm, short hug" on them. I'd rather just smile and talk with you. haha.
I'd like to be more of a hugger, but I'm shy about going in for a hug unless I'm sure the other person would like to hug me back. Once I went in for a hug and the other person left me hanging. It was sooooo awkward. 
Cheek kisses will forever be awkward and uncomfortable for me. ICK! The only people I will gladly accept kisses from are my mom and my DH. I do not want anyone else's lips to touch my face.
I'm a big hugger of friends and hugger/cheek kisser for family. I wouldn't do it to someone I didn't know, though. I love getting hugged, too. My favorite (besides DH) is a friend of ours who always bends over and picks me up at the waist when he hugs me.
I hug people I really care about/love. If I don't love you, no hugs for you! {and yes that means YOU uncle joe :P]
I have no problem hugging my spouse, friends I really care for and specific family members I am really close with, but I definitely am not an egalitarian hugger. It's a somewhat intimate act to me, plain and simply.
I'm definitely a hugger to an extent. I wouldn't pull someone off the street and embrace them but if its someone that I am close with, damn straight they're getting a hug whether they want it or not. My family is very affectionate so I've been use to it my whole life.
It's funny because I used to be a big hugger. Now I give the one arm hug to everyone except my hubby and little cousins. lol Sometimes I feel that if I give my family a big hug I will cry because I know that I have to let go. I recently moved somewhere with no friends or family around (expect my hubby), so that probably why I feel that way.
I love hugs! lol. i've always been a big hugger, personally. i'm a touchy/feely person (but not to where it's creepy) haha.
I love hugs. I hug everyone when I see them, as a greeting. That's just me, I'm warm...aaahhhhh. However, the kissing thing, never really did like it much...it can get a bit too messy with the older folks and their wet mouths kissing on me...yuck!! My man and I hug each other, and I hug my little ones everyday....my extended family would look at people crazy if they stuck out a hand to shake, and they would probably say something like, "Oh no. We HUG in this family", and then squeeze the hell outta you....
I am not a hugger. I don't really like to be touched all that much.
One of the ways I knew I was falling for my husband is that I wanted to hug him. He and I were good friends and he'd hug me when we first see each other and when we left. When I started looking forward to those hugs, I knew my feelings for him were changing.
I give everyone hugs. People I see in the office every day, a friend I see on the street, people I've just met. Hugs to say hello, hugs to say goodbye, hugs in the middle of the day just because. If I'm talking to a close friend I'll probably have my hand on the shoulder or something. I'm VERY touchy-feely!
Oh I'm a huge hugger. I love a good hug. My whole extended family any time we see each other it's a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Same with my friends. I sit next to one of my best friends at work. See her every day. And yet whenever we see each other outside of the office... we hug. Luckily my in-law's are the same way the whole family does a full hug/kiss on the cheek whenever we see each other so I didn't have to adjust to a different situation.
@trugem: Since I moved to Nashville I don't get to see my friends very often. Whenever I'm reunited with them I totally cry as soon as I get them in my arms : )
I'm a hugger around my family but my in-laws are not huggers so I don't hug them.
People I see a lot outside of my family I don't really hug, but if I haven't seen a person for a long time they get a big old hug.
I always thought I was a big hugger until I met DH"s family. Those people hug ALL THE TIME! It can be overwhelming at times, especially at big family functions when I can't remember who I have and haven't hugged!
I am a hugger but DHs family really isnt. Its made me be less of a hugger!
I am SOOO hands off. My family was never really the touchy-feely type, and my FI's family hugs everytime they get together and everytime they leave. I'm so awkward at it and it makes me uncomfortable! haha.
I'm getting better at faking it, but I still hate it!
I'm definitely a hugger but I don't hug people I don't really know unless they go in for a hug (:
Soooooo NOT a hugger here. My husbands friends are all huggers though. Every time we leave, I have to hug goodbye to his friends and their girlfriends, and they aren't even MY friends. I'm a fairly shy/reserved person around those I don't know well, so it's always incredibly awkward for me.
If its family or Fi's family then yes I will hug them.. I'm a hugger but only with family and close friends..
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