(Closed) Are you a laid-back bride?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Are you a laid-back bride?
    Heck no, I am planning every last detail myself : (8 votes)
    18 %
    I'm not obsessive, but I am planning out lots of special details : (18 votes)
    41 %
    I've got a few details I care about but mostly I am delegating the decisions to others I trust : (9 votes)
    20 %
    I'm totally laid back : (7 votes)
    16 %
    I hired a coordinator or someone else to be obsessive for me, I'm not doing a thing! : (0 votes)
    I would delegate if I could, but I don't have a lot of help : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Other (please share!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’m so laid back! Probably too much! I’m not worried about all the little details. As long as my groom and I are there and we have some one to marry, it’s all good!

    Post # 4
    Member
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I love, love, love all of this planning! Its just too much fun!

    …but don’t get me wrong, it will be nice when things are "normal" again!

    Post # 5
    Member
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’m a little jealous you had so much help….

    Post # 6
    Member
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I planned everything but everyone (including my husband) kept saying how laid back I was. I felt like I could plan the wedding and not act like a chicken running around with my head cut off. Near the end, I didn’t want to make any more decisions and just let people make them on their own. Everything went off without a hitch and it was perfect!

    Post # 7
    Member
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    Honestly, there were a lot of things I cared about and some that I just didn’t spend as much time on.  My husband and I chose the venue and our food together.  I chose my dress and the color scheme.  My BM chose their own dresses and shoes.  My mom did the favors and centerpieces completely (although she showed me a mock-up that I okayed).  We DIYd flowers and just kind of played around with them until we were happy with the look.

    Overall, I think I was too busy to do a lot of the stuff I might have done otherwise.  I was working, taking classes full-time and had two different practicum placements for school.  Yikes! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    1145 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2000

    I thought I was b/c I’m choosing to simplify things  and not making it super fancy.  The problem is, I must not be that laid back because every time my mom wants to make a decision I think she’s trying to take over. She and I have different styles. I’m sure you are very grateful to have been able to plan WITH your mom.

    Post # 10
    Member
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m laid back even though we’re doing everything ourselves.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I have to say, the one thing I’ve been stressing about it our invites. I’m DIYing them so I’m very particular about. My FMIL, her sisters, and my SIL are helping out a lot.

    Post # 12
    Member
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’m pretty laid back. I don’t care about a lot of the things I see a lot of brides being into. Like I could honestly care less about my hair and care only marginally about my make-up. I have crafted some neat details into our wedding, and I’m happy with what I’ve done and can’t wait to see how it plays on the day. But on that day I have a DOC, so she’ll be doing the worrying for me!

    Post # 13
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I chose a venue that I have always liked, and they happen to do complete wedding packages. Food, flowers, cake, decorations, ice sculpture (ha ha), sound system, wait staff, the works. Fiance and I met with the guy a couple of times, tasted food and cake, gave him swatches and a list of flowers we like (and ones we just hate), and that’s pretty much it. So the reception is pretty easy.

    I only tried on about a dozen dresses, if that, and ended up with the third one I tried on.

    I told my MOH (sister) to find a dress she liked, any colour, although I reserved veto rights. 🙂 She chose a nice deep lilac which looks great. My nieces asked if they could be flower girls, and I couldn’t say no. My sister volunteered to make their dresses, but I honestly didn’t care what they wore as long as they were happy and looked cute.

    I spent a bit of time agonizing over invitations, because as a graphic designer, that’s the kind of thing I get nitpicky about. I designed them myself and it took forever, with endless overhauls and tweaks of the design. I’m also doing the programs, and I expect it will be much the same process.

    FH and I spent a fair amount of time picking out readings and music for our Catholic ceremony, because that is very important to both of us. 

    Photographer is my very talented next door neighbour, who is giving us a very good deal.

    I think I’m pretty laid back, but I do want everything to go well, so I’m starting to fret a bit now and am starting to make a lot of lists. It’s just over 3 weeks now!

    Post # 14
    Member
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

    I’m being pretty hands on for several reasons – I know where my money is going, I’m enjoying mulling over all the details, I like to be crafty!  That’s not to say I am doing it all. My parents have been a great help stepping in when I can’t be in town to take care of things.

    Post # 15
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I was both obsessive and laid back. I had a very clear idea of what I wanted for everything and did almost everything myself. I only let my husband and family help on projects I knew they’d be able to do well (and even then I still tended to look over their shoulder hehe). However, I tried to get everything done as early as possible so I wasn’t too stressed at the last minute.

    As much as I knew what I wanted, I also kept in mind what really mattered and tried not to let it get to me when things went wrong. All you can do is just try to fix what you can and beyond that you just have to brush it off (or sometimes laugh it off) and move on. My grandmother said I was the most relaxed bride she’d ever seen, despite the fact that it decided to pour about 30 minutes before our ceremony (which was scheduled to take place outside). We just moved to plan B and enjoyed our day!

    Post # 16
    Member
    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I feel like I’ve been really laid back this entire time. Now with two weeks to go I feel like my inner bridezilla is seriously about to come out. Deep breaths…

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