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Thanks to everyone for your kind comments on my "Three Step Plan (and Backup Plan!) for getting engaged"!
While reading over the comments, I realized that nagging was more common than I thought. There's something about Waiting that transforms a lot of people into naggers. Heck, marriage often does the same thing.
Before you can change though, the first step is admitting you have a problem. Are you in fact a nagger? This is a tough question to answer, because a lot of naggers actually don't realize that they could go pro as a nag.
So I did a bunch of Google searches and pulled together a poll with 10 signs that you're a nagger (or not). Please check off every one that applies!
Btw, I got a dinged by a few questions on my own nagging test! I have a bad habit of giving dirty looks without realizing it... sorry Mrs. Bee! Nagging is gender blind... but I'm getting better, I swear! I think it's been over a month since I inadvertently gave a dirty look...
What's your score on the Nag-o-meter, from 1-10? How about your SO - is s/he a nag?
I got a 3/10. I'll get Mr. Scissors to take it when he stops snoring... so in the morning. :)
Ummmm I got 1/10... and M would definitely get four or five I think lol!!
I got a 1. But J is amazing and does things without asking. :) And our relationship is still kind of 'young' in terms that we've been LDR for MOST of it and are just now together (Yay!)
2/10 I will say that in previous relationships, my number was a lot higher. So I don't know if that means I've learned how not to nag or if my husband is just so easy to live with!
I do try to make a strong effort not to nag. When I ask my husband to do something, I try to make sure I ask when he is not distracted by something else and I try to be very clear what I want/need from him. This method works pretty good for us and I don't feel that I ever have to nag him about anything.
1/10. I've learned that my fiance responds a lot better to written requests than verbal. He simply forgets if I just ask him to do something, but if I make a list called "Stuff you could get done that would make me happy", he's never failed to do them all. A while back, I mentioned that his drowning-in-paper in-our-dining-room-desk (welcome to not having enough rooms in our apartment) made me tense, since I loathe clutter. His desk has been clean-ish ever since.
2/10 pour moi. My husband doesn't believe me when I tell him he gives me dirty looks... I didn't realize nagging could be nonverbal!
3/10. I'm a bossy boots and very organised. I organise for a living and am a big forward planner so it's hard to understand that dear FI isn't like that. Eeek at being the biggest nagger so far!
Edit: Cept for Miss Scissors. So I'm in good company in nag-ville ;)
I got 2/10, and I agree it was much higher in previous relationships. I have a really bad habit of telling hubs to do something rather than ask. He hates that, and reminds me that I'm being like my mother. I have gotten a lot better, and I remind him that if he just did things the first time I tell ask him, then I wouldn't have to keep repeating myself 
I don't even need to check myself on this poll...........I know I'm a nagger. Anyone have any suggestions to brush things off easily? I have been REALLY trying since we moved in together in our First Home. I've been trying to let stuff slide. But I'm finding out that I am more of a perfectionist than I use to think I was...... Any Advice?
0/10 so I actually couldn't contribute although in past relationships I may have gotten as high as a 5 or 6! FI and I are a great match :-)
I got 2/10. I do have to ask him to do some things more than once because he forgets. I don't get bitchy about it though... more like "hey did you remember x?" and the answer is usually "nope! haha"
I'll take full responsibility for correcting/doing things myself though. I'm kinda a control freak heh
I never nag. It's just not my personality. If I want something done, I just do it. And if it's something that I don't have the ability to do, and he doesn't fix it within a certain time frame, I hire someone to do it.
Now, when we have kids, this may all change. I do pretty much everything housekeeping/cooking wise, and while I don't mind it now (because I'm a neat freak and I love to cook), it could become a problem in the future. There may be an underlying nagger somewhere in me just waiting to burst out. Let's hope not!!
2/10 If you say you're going to do something - do it! I shouldn't have to be responsible for my life tasks and yours. That's my biggest pet peeve, but for real, How many times do I have to ask... ;)
Hahaha, great post. I got a 3/10 although I think R would say number of glares and eye rolls would count for extra!
3/10... not too bad in my opinion. I've defiitely chilled out over the years- another 6 years and I may be down to 1/10.... or not :)
@ Miss biner - SO means significant other!
I got 2/10 which I think is not too shabby at all :)
I'm a 2. Not too terrible! All women nag a bit unfortunately!
yesh...i must be the worst because I got 5/10. And in all honesty, Ive never thought of myself as a nag. More of, my husband is a SLOB! He leaves underwear and shoes all over the house. He spills juice and leaves it on the table/floor/counter to dry and get sticky - and then swears he didnt notice! Yesterday I can home and put my hand on a HONEY covered refrigerator door. I blame his mother...she never made him help around the house. So i ask several times - are you going to pick up these clothes? He will wash the dishes (rather than just rinse and load into dishwasher) in COLD water, so I redo them. I give him dirty looks and rye rolls and his eyes definitely glaze over when i start a sentence with "baby do you mind"...
Eh. I dont feel bad though. I'll stop nagging when he stops shaving over the sink and leaving the hair! SLOB!
Thank goodness he has so many other great things about him... he does a GREAT job mopping the floor. LOL!!!
I got a 2! I don't really ask him to do alot, though. So maybe... that gives me more points since I don't ask him to do things, I can't nag at him? Honestly, I'm just a control freak and would rather do things myself!
@MrBee
Are you saying guys can nag too???? I thought it was a women thing. I'm a nagger (7/10 on the poll) but now I need my DH to take it to see if he nags.
I won't feel as bad if I find out he does too! LOL
Question: Does nagging count if it involves asking your SO NOT to do something???? over. and over. and over. and over....? :)
As I was reading the questions in the poll, I realized that while I don't ever ask SO to DO something over and over again, I continuously ask him NOT to do something (or to STOP doing something) over and over again.
Examples: PLEASE stop drying my bras and underwear! Those things are expensive!
PLEASE stop running the dishwasher when there are only 5 things in it!!!! Gah - what a waste of water and energy!
PLEASE stop leaving the TV on all night long even when you fall asleep in the first 5 minutes. It keeps me up ALL NIGHT - and you lay on the remote so I can't find it!
So yes, it turns out I am a nag. But he may be something worse! :)
I got 4/10 - I am a nag but I am getting better!
6/10. I'll admit it- I'm a terrible nag! But FI is also terribly lazy- so we both don't get as upset, he knows he's wrong and almost needs the nagging reminders- and does eventually do things- and I know he'll eventually do it so my nags are more like "are you going to ____" once a day. We BOTH feel better after!!!
0/10 I have lots of things I do wrong in our relationship, but nagging isn't one of them! In fact, probably both of us could handle being a little more accountable to each other, but we tend to just go with the flow :)
3/10. Where is the option of have you ever got upset through the sheer frustration of what is being asked not being done YEARS down the line? hehe That would have bumped up my 'naggery'
I fully admit I'm a nagger. My husband is a head in the clouds type, and it is very frustrating to me. I used to wonder how he does so well at work, and it made me feel like I was less important, but recently he admits he boss made a similar comment about him being spacy sometimes. Luckily he's brilliant enough to make up for it, and he's gotten better about using his fancy phone to have reminders and to do lists....awww...that's love!
oh, and DH will even admit it's nice being married to someone who "takes care of everything, so he can relax" <sigh>
I was 0/10, but voted on one by accident b/c I thought it was going to give me a score or something.. sorry I am computer dumb.
I don't have a chance to nag.. FI is extremely thoughtful and proactive about everything we need to do to run the household. So much so that I feel guilty a lot, like I don't contribute enough. He wasn't always this way, it has definitely evolved, but I never had to nag him to do anything. He clearly takes pride in helping out, I am lucky.
Like DG, it's not that I don't do anything wrong in the relationship! He is a saint for putting up with my temper tantrums :) 100% of the time it ends with me apologizing to him after I calm down.. I am a lucky woman..
pretty much a 6/10...I'm a nag. My Fi gets pretty annoyed, but he loves me anyway :)
0/10. I guess we're still in the honeymooning stage after a year, haha. But I'd rather have a happy relationship than have things my way all the time. Nagging's just not my style.
omg. are you guys really tellin' the truth? because thats great then for you guys but i feel awful. now i have to find some self help book on how to not nag.
my poor hubby. i feel bad for him. I gotta find that book before i drive him to drink.
2/10! Yeah! Usually when I think "Gods, I sound like my mother," its kinda cute. My bf thinks its hilarious, so I guess its a good thing that when I do "nag," its pretty hilarious. Gotta work on those eye rolls though, hahahaha
I got a 4/10. I'm definitely a nagger, although it's something I'm aware of, so I try to keep it to a minimum. Actually, I'm WAY less of a nagger than my mom is, so I feel like that is progress. All I need is a weekend back at home with my parents to remind me NEVER to nag my fiance. ;-)
I got a 2/10. I think that's because I have a tendency to ask him things when I think of it, so I don't forget, and he's usually doing something, so then I have to repeat myself, and then I have to go into the whole "How many times...." lol! Not bad I'd say. I have become much better about this!
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