Post # 1
Thanks to everyone for your kind comments on my “Three Step Plan (and Backup Plan!) for getting engaged“!
While reading over the comments, I realized that nagging was more common than I thought. There’s something about Waiting that transforms a lot of people into naggers. Heck, marriage often does the same thing.
Before you can change though, the first step is admitting you have a problem. Are you in fact a nagger? This is a tough question to answer, because a lot of naggers actually don’t realize that they could go pro as a nag.
So I did a bunch of Google searches and pulled together a poll with 10 signs that you’re a nagger (or not). Please check off every one that applies!
Btw, I got a dinged by a few questions on my own nagging test! I have a bad habit of giving dirty looks without realizing it… sorry Mrs. Bee! Nagging is gender blind… but I’m getting better, I swear! I think it’s been over a month since I inadvertently gave a dirty look…
What’s your score on the Nag-o-meter, from 1-10? How about your SO – is s/he a nag?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I got a 3/10. I’ll get Mr. Scissors to take it when he stops snoring… so in the morning. 🙂
Post # 4
Ummmm I got 1/10… and M would definitely get four or five I think lol!!
Post # 6
2/10 🙂 I think that’s pretty good!
Post # 7
I got a 1. But J is amazing and does things without asking. 🙂 And our relationship is still kind of ‘young’ in terms that we’ve been LDR for MOST of it and are just now together (Yay!)
Post # 8
2/10 I will say that in previous relationships, my number was a lot higher. So I don’t know if that means I’ve learned how not to nag or if my husband is just so easy to live with!
I do try to make a strong effort not to nag. When I ask my husband to do something, I try to make sure I ask when he is not distracted by something else and I try to be very clear what I want/need from him. This method works pretty good for us and I don’t feel that I ever have to nag him about anything.
Post # 9
1/10. I’ve learned that my fiance responds a lot better to written requests than verbal. He simply forgets if I just ask him to do something, but if I make a list called “Stuff you could get done that would make me happy”, he’s never failed to do them all. A while back, I mentioned that his drowning-in-paper in-our-dining-room-desk (welcome to not having enough rooms in our apartment) made me tense, since I loathe clutter. His desk has been clean-ish ever since.
Post # 10
2/10 pour moi. My husband doesn’t believe me when I tell him he gives me dirty looks… I didn’t realize nagging could be nonverbal!
Post # 11
3/10. I’m a bossy boots and very organised. I organise for a living and am a big forward planner so it’s hard to understand that dear FI isn’t like that. Eeek at being the biggest nagger so far!
Edit: Cept for Miss Scissors. So I’m in good company in nag-ville 😉
Post # 12
I got 2/10, and I agree it was much higher in previous relationships. I have a really bad habit of telling hubs to do something rather than ask. He hates that, and reminds me that I’m being like my mother. I have gotten a lot better, and I remind him that if he just did things the first time I tell ask him, then I wouldn’t have to keep repeating myself
Post # 13
I don’t even need to check myself on this poll………..I know I’m a nagger. Anyone have any suggestions to brush things off easily? I have been REALLY trying since we moved in together in our First Home. I’ve been trying to let stuff slide. But I’m finding out that I am more of a perfectionist than I use to think I was…… Any Advice?
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
I got 2/10! Guess I’m not that bad!
Post # 15
0/10 so I actually couldn’t contribute although in past relationships I may have gotten as high as a 5 or 6! FI and I are a great match 🙂
Post # 16
I got 2/10. I do have to ask him to do some things more than once because he forgets. I don’t get bitchy about it though… more like “hey did you remember x?” and the answer is usually “nope! haha”
I’ll take full responsibility for correcting/doing things myself though. I’m kinda a control freak heh