Are you all more a family person or a friend person

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Are you more a family person or friend person
    Family always : (48 votes)
    43 %
    Friend person always : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Both a family and friend person : (37 votes)
    33 %
    Rather be with friends but family comes first : (17 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1076 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My family comes first. Always. My sisters are my best friends and therefore, they will be the only ones standing up with me on our day.

     

    NOTHING could ever come between me and my family.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I love both my family and my friends but, to me, family comes first.

    Post # 5
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Friends but I know that, if anything, family comes first. However, many of my family members are in Trinidad. I dont have a big, close family either so it works for me. My FI’s family is very close and they all live within a 20-mile radius of each other.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3355 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I rather be with friends than with family, but I know family is supposed to come first.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Family, always. I’ve seen it time and time again that they’re the only people who offer unconditional love (at least for me). 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Family till the end! <3

    Post # 9
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My friends are my family, my family is just eh.  My grandma is awesome, but my parents were awful and I don’t have any siblings.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2766 posts
    Sugar bee

    I love my family, but there has always been a lot of tension and dysfunction. Aside from a few people, I prefer not to spend great amounts of time with most of them and have put a lot of geographical distance between us for that reason. It’s always been more about friends for me, but I do still love and support and enjoy time with my family (when it’s not dysfunctional).

    Post # 11
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Depends on the family, I guess. I don’t like most of them. My best friend is like a sister to me, and I can rely on her more than my own mother at times.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    my personality is family-oriented but my parental family is kind of a let-down. I’m not a masochist… blood isn’t always thicker than water… and I’m good at picking friends… so I have some very close friends which mean a lot more to me than most family members. Going forward, FI and our future kids (and their kids one day maybe) will be at the forefront of my attention.

    There are two questions you’re really asking:

    – do you prefer many superficial relationships or a few deep ones

    – is your family worthy of being the most important people in your life.

    We can’t control the second factor, when talking about parental families. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    5351 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My parents and one brother live hours away, and my husband doesn’t really see his parents too often. So in terms of “who would we rather spend time with?” I would say friends. But as to “who comes first, i.e. in a crisis who would have priority?” it would be family. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’d have to ay “family” because I grew up with the idea of a “chosen family”. My grandmother’s best friend was my “Aunt Faye” and I didn’t know until I was in my teens that we didn’t share blood at all. I think I had thought she was my grandma’s sister or cousin.(On the other hand my grandmother had an actual sister and I never met her even though she lived in the same city as us)

    My BFF and I are practically sisters (I’m an only child and she’s not horribly close to her by-blood sisters). DH and I are friends with another couple and we go on vacations with the husband’s family and are have gotten used to calling his mother “mom” (on pain of death and no food if we don’t) and are introduced as part of her kids.

    We are god-parents to another couple’s dog (and they to ours).

    So, in short, “Family” to me doesn’t mean “related by blood or marriage”.

    Post # 16
    Member
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I have very complicated family situation going on. My parents are completely wonderful  but my siblings are completely dysfunctional and oftentimes overtly abusive. For example, my darling sister tried to run me over with her car two days before Christmas after I pointed out that her boyfriend had been inappropriate and rude to me. Not exactly someone who inspires loyalty from me. 

    Since leaving home, I’ve cultivated a close set of friends who I think of as my family of choice. I have their loyalty and they have mine. None of them have tried to run me over, either. 

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