Post # 1
Are you allowing your wedding party members to bring their spouse/significant other to the rehearsal dinner? We’ve decided to include our OOT guests, and of course close famiy members who aren’t in the wedding, but I’m still undecided on whether or not to include the wedding party’s spouses…what are some thoughts?
Post # 3
We’re definitely inviting spouses/SOs. We want our closest friends to be happy and I think leaving their partner at the hotel for a few hours would be uncomfortable for them. I know when FI has been in weddings I’ve always expected to be invited to rehearsal.
Post # 4
Yes, we invited spouses and long term couples together to the rehearsal dinner (and we’ve always been invited at other people’s weddings too when either of us has been in the wedding party). Spouses should definitely be invited!
Edit: If it’s a matter of space, I would actually invite the spouses before inviting OOT guests. At our wedding the majority of our guests were OOT so we did not even consider this category for the rehearsal dinner, it would have been the whole wedding all over again 🙂
Post # 5
We are and I think that everyone should. I’m not sure what the etiquette police would say about this but I thought that the BP’s spouses/SO’s were always included in the RD. I wouldn’t bother inviting some dates if it was just a “flavor of the week” type of situation but for those BP members who are either married or in serious relationships, I really think their SO’s should be included.
Post # 6
Yep we did. We’re eating up their entire weekend I felt like the least we could do is let them hang with their S/Os.
Post # 7
If youre inviting OOT guests you should also be inviting the spouses/SOs of your bridal party. We invited all of our wedding guests to our rehearsal dinner and I am so happy we did it that way. It was just an extra night that we got to spend with everyone. It was really relaxed and I had a lot of fun!
Post # 8
Yes, we are.
FI was a groomsman in a wedding last October and the bride and groom did not invite SO’s or any spouses of the bridal party. There were a lot of hard feelings (not from me, but from others).
I think in most cases, it is expected that the wedding party brings their spouse or SO.
Post # 9
@TheSoon2BeMrsC: We felt we had to draw the line somewhere so we did not include anybody we did not know AND only long term gf/bf, engaged couples and married couples. Also only did my first cousins because they are all ten and under.
Post # 10
Yep, we are it makes sense to invite the spouses especially if they OOT.
Post # 11
We are also inviting everyone that is invited to the wedding, we’re having a relatively small destination wedding though.
Also, every wedding we’ve ever been in has included SO’s in the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 12
We did, and I think it made it more enjoyable for them. I was in a wedding party once where my husband wasn’t invited to the rehearsal dinner (no one’s spouses were) and it was very awkward.
Post # 13
I’ve always thought of the rehearsal dinner as a way to honor and thank your bridal party for helping you throughout the planning process and being there with you for your wedding. I think it would be a very nice consideration to invite their SOs to enjoy the night with them.
Post # 14
Absolutely, I think it would be awkward for their spouses/SO not to be there…..
Post # 15
We did, but we had all the OOT guests. When I’m in a wedding I prefer for my husband to be there with me at the RD.
Post # 16
Thanks everyone. My original thoughts were to include the spouses/SO’s. What sparked this post is that my FI is in a wedding this wk-end, and I haven’t been invited to the RD. So I was just wondering what others are doing 🙂 I’ve been in lots of weddings, but at the time wasn’t dating, so I never noticed if others brought their SO’s or not.