Are you an interracial/international couple?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@peonia:  SO (soon to be FI…can’t wait!) and I are an interracial couple πŸ™‚

1. I am caucasian with a strong European background.  He is Jamaican. 

2. We both speak English.  He was born and grew up here (in Canada).  Both his parents are from Jamaica, so they both have accents, but aside from that, not a thing different.  I guess his parents use some slang words?  Not really another language.  I’ve picked up on them, but we don’t use them between us.

3. When we have kids, we’ll just be speaking English since that’s the only thing we speak haha

4. Good thing about being a mixed race couple?  I can’t think of anything off the top of my head.  I don’t even really notice it.  Love him more than words πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@peonia:  me!

1. what are your nationalities? I am black, various native americans, and creole. My SO is irish and russian jew

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in?
yea cuz we are both just american

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in?

our kids will speak english, spanish, mandarin and hebrew

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family?

the things racist older relatives say and other race mixing hijinks

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is fun, I’ll play!

 

1. I am French-American and my husband is Turkish.

2. He speaks (is still kind of learning) English, as we live in the USA.  He has been in the country for about 2.5 years, and has learned at a great speed. I speak some Turkish (I studied for about 8 months total, and can get by talking to his family, and to other Turkish people, but I cannot understand conversations among natives, tv, etc.)

3. Like you, we hope for them to associate each of us with a language (likely English and Turkish), and hopefully have a Turkish nanny/babysitter (or bilingual in another language — we’d like our child to speak as many languages as possible!)  I haven’t begun much research, but I am a language teacher myself, and feel that it is likely best that the child associates each parent with a different language as then they’ll become “balanced bilinguals”.

4. Hmmmm. Some good things about being an interracial couple: Well, firstly its so challenging, but incredibly interesting!  We are not only interracial, but also international (meaning, my husband immigrated to this country recently…) The food, the culture, the language, the negotiations, the adventures!  Travel. I kind of like being “different’. We have a great story (international love affair, moving across the world for romance, trudging through the hard beginning — culture shock, language barriers, etc. Seeing the world in a different way thanks to your partner…. And I could really go on.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

1. what are your nationalities? I’m white (a mutt) and he’s black.

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each  other in? English. We’re both American, so…

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in? English. Though I really want to get them to know another language.

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family? We’re going to have some gorgeous kids. And my dad is kind of racist, and its teaching him to better accept people. He even gave my FI a hug when they met!

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Good for you to know a bit of each other’s languages!

1. I’m German, though I mostly grew up in Canada, and he’s Romanian. 

2. He speaks a bit of German, I WISH I could at least understand Romanian, because I can’t really talk to his family.. we speak English together.

3. This one will be tough. I really want them to be able to communicate with our families. BUT We speak English together, and live in a francophone province where by law children must go to school in French.  We’ll probably mostly speak English and French to them, and hope they pick up some of the other languages when they visit family. Four is too much I think! I was confused with 3 languages as a child.

4. Many places to travel to regularly!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@peonia:  

1. what are your nationalities? I’m white; FI is Mexican.

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in? FI is bilingual & I’ve learned basic Spanish, but we rarely speak in Spanish. More often we’ll just speak in Spanish at his house with his family, but English elsewhere.

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in? We really want our kids to be bilingual like he is and I will learn more by the time we have kids.

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family? I love learning about his culture and seeing things in a different way than I did growing up πŸ™‚ It has definitely taught me a lot. & like a PP said, I can’t wait to see how beautiful our kids are going to be! πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

1. what are your nationalities? I’m English; FI is Mexican (mexico mexican rather than american mexican or whatever.)

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in? My Fi is  pretty much bilingual & my spanish is really coming along (we live in mexico so i pretty much have to learn) my understanding is great but pronunciation/grammar not so much

what language do you speak to them in? We use both to each other. and when we have kids we’ll use both. there are a lot of bilingual schools here so we’ll probably carry that on at home, with the emphasis on spanish (as theres somethign a little bit sad about kids in mexico who don’t speak spanish properly…mainly richer families who decided to send them to english only schools)

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family? 

i find the culture differences interesting. i think we’ll have lovely children though we’ll probably have messed up kids haha (fi gets hives in remotely cold weather, i cant handle heat, along with weird food things from both of us, we’re both sleepwalkers etc)

@ifoundmyprince:  are you involving mexican traditions in your wedding?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

1. what are your nationalities?


I’m American, he’s Moroccan.

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in?


We both speak English. He speaks a bunch of langauges and I want to learn Berber so I can communicate with his family and set a good example for our future kids.

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in?


English will be the primary language, but as another poster said, I want them to speak as many languages as possible–even if I won’t know what’s going on sometime!

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family?


We have learned a lot from each other. We challenge each other and being together opens door for both of us for as far as new experiences and ideas.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

1. what are your nationalities?

Im Cambodian and SO is Scotish/Irish Canadian.

2. do you speak each other’s languages? Yes I speak English,Khmer,and french  and he speaks English but knows how to speak Khmer fluently Im proud I taught him well lol

what language do you speak to each other in? English/Khmer

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in? Our kids speak the same language as us.

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family? Enjoying different types of foods and learning about the culture.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Does it count if I’m mixed and DH isn’t?

1. what are your nationalities? 

I’m half Black half Korean, DH is first generation Nigerian American

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in? 

Neither of us speak our ‘own’ language sadly.  I would love for our future children to learn Korean and his parent’s language, but they won’t learn it from us. 

what language do you speak to them in? 

English.  It’s the only language we both speak fluently. 

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family? 

From my experience, everything! I love the interplay of different cultures.  And like @allyfally said, mixed babies are gorgeous! πŸ™‚  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

double post, sorry!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We are both interracial and international. I’m Korean, he’s Irish. And I mean straight up Korean and Irish, not Korean-American or anything like that. 

I’m fully bilingual so we communicate in English. FI speaks a tiny bit of Korean but not enough to hold any kind of in-depth conversation. He doesn’t speak Irish either (he grew up in the North). His accent has softened with his years abroad so I never have any trouble understanding him, but when we visit his folks sometimes I feel like I need subtitles.

We want our kids to be bilingual. Personally I’d prefer if they had his accent (I speak American English) but that’s not likely to happen unless we move back to the UK. If we stay in Korea the kids will be bilingual, no problem – if we move to the UK I’ll have to make an effort to use Korean at home.

I can’t think of anything particularly special about being a mixed couple. I guess it’s nice that we have roots on both sides of the world, and that our children will have the opportunity to experience a diversity of cultures. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee

We are a bi-racial, interacial couple, I guess!?!?!

1. what are your nationalities?

I am half African-American & half Caucasian. He is quarter African-American & 3/4 Caucasian. 

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each  other in?

We both speak English, though I am fluent in Spanish.

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them  in?

English primarily, though I will teach them Spanish.

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family?

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

1. what are your nationalities?

I’m Chinese American and he is Turkish.

2. do you speak each other’s languages? what language do you speak to each other in? We’re both fluent in English and I’ve been taking classes in Turkish. We speak Turkish to each other occasionally, usually English. I also speak to his family members in Turkish. 

He’s been learning Chinese characters, although not seriously.

3. if you plan to or already have kids, what language do you speak to them in?

He most definitely is going to be speaking to them in Turkish. We plan to send our future kids his parents in Turkey for summer vacations, partly to gain fluency.

I’ll try to speak to them in Chinese and send them to Chinese school. They’ll have to know it to speak to my parents.

4. what are some good thing about being a mixed race couple/family?

  So much learning of each other’s cultures. I didn’t know anything about his country before meeting him and he didn’t know much about mine. Fortunately, we’ve at least been to Turkey and China together πŸ™‚

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