Post # 1
I married an older man partially because I wanted the stability. My husband does not hang out with anyone else but me, and I rarely am with other friends myself.
The only times we are apart are when he is at work and when he is working on his hobbies in the garage or another room of the house. Or obviously if I am shopping, etc.
I confess that I really like having this kind of relationship. We both are loners somewhat who really just naturally like to be together.
I grew up having this view of marriage as well — that a married couple is together almost all the time ideally.
What about you? Do you spend most of your time together or do you have a lot of hanging-out-with-friends time?
Post # 3
@Bunny_the_Bride: DH and I are just like you and your DH. I feel like I get enough interaction with other women/people at work for 9 hours a day and don’t feel like I need to hang out without him often.
Post # 4
@Billsgirl: +1. I got tired of most people long ago. LOL.
Post # 5
We spend all of our free time hanging out with each other. Even when we’re hanging out with friends, we’re hanging out together with them. I’m not particularly girly though, so shopping, hair, nails, etc. don’t appeal to me at all.
Post # 7
Exactly the same… When we are not working we are usually together. I will say sometimes I will go to the gym by myself or shop and vice versa, but most all of the time we’re attached at the hip and we love it. 🙂
Post # 8
@Bunny_the_Bride: Hahaha!!!!!! Me too!
Post # 9
@Bunny_the_Bride: Not married yet, but living with my fiance for over a year now… we spend a lot of time together, but we are comfortable being apart. We don’t have many friends locally, and we’re both pretty big homebodies. So in a given week, we might not hang out with anyone but each other. But his job requires him to travel, sometimes for weeks or even a year at a time, and I’ve done okay while he’s gone. And I have friends and family in other states and countries who I sometimes travel to visit without him, because his work schedule isn’t very flexible.
I don’t really identify with couples who spend huge amounts of local social time apart, though. If we were spending more than one night a week each socializing alone with other people, I think I would miss him.
Post # 10
@Bunny_the_Bride: I spend most of my time with my FI. We both have friends and are close to our families but we like hanging out with each other. Most of our friends have morphed into our friends over the years, so even friend-time is couple time as well.
Post # 11
My DH works nights 2-3x a week, and 2 weekends a month, and I like to schedule girlfriend or alone time while he’s at work. I feel like I don’t get to see him as often as I’d like, so I am typically always with him when we’re both off work. Likewise, he is off work 2-3 weekdays when I am at work, so he also has free time to do whatever he wants.
Post # 12
@Bunny_the_Bride: We definitely do everything together, so if one of us needs to go to the store, we generally go together. We always show up to events together and we spend most of our time together, BUT I wouldn’t say we are attached at the hip. Like tonight I am going out for ice cream with a friend. I don’t feel the need to have him tag along. We still go other things with other people, but it isn’t often, and we generally prefer to do things with other couples.
Post # 13
We are together A LOT and I love it, but we still have our time apart with our respective friends. I enjoy having time with just my girl friends and, not to offend anyone, but I find it odd when a couple always has to be together. I just think its healthy to have relationships (and I don’t mean just talking to people while at work or school) outside of your romantic relationship. My DH and I are extremely close and honestly we are probably together more than most of our other couple friends, but that being said we are not attached at the hip. I just think I would feel a bit smothered in those circumstances :-/ There are times I just want to go out with friends, my mom, or even alone, whether it be to do errands, go shopping or have dinner (though I don’t go out alone to dinner lol). But again, we are together a lot and often I think people think of us as a ‘package deal’ haha.
The situation reminds me of Alex and Simon from The Real Housewives of NYC haha.
Post # 14
No. I need my space and could never have married anyone who couldn’t cope with that. It’s not that me and DH don’t spend plenty of time together and are very close but we also have interests that don’t always combine and it’s not unusual for us to have whole weekend apart if I’m away performing or he wants to go to a soccer game miles away. When we are both home again we have good stories to share and that’s an aspect of our relationship that we love. Neither of us would be good at feeling smothered either but then we don’t have trust issues either. It works for us, anyway, which is what matters really!
Post # 15
I guess we default to a lot of time together, but he’ll go to his homebrew club meetings once a month, I’ll run out to a movie with a friend, he’ll go to a concert with a friend, I’ll go on a hike by myself…we have a baby, so getting those things done at all without enlisting the help of a babysitter means we need to do a few things solo or with friends.
It works for us. I need my girl time, he needs his guy time, but we’re always glad to come home to each other.
Post # 16
@Bunny_the_Bride: I’d say we are a mix. We spend a lot of time together, and we generally socialize together on the weekends. But I often go out alone with my girlfriends, or he works on projects with his friends or family. We also both have a lot of activities, classes, etc we do outside the home. We’re not really introverts.
Generally we are invited to do whatever the other person is doing.