(Closed) Are you as attracted…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have to admit that no, I’m not as attracted to my FI as I have been to an ex of mine. HOWEVER, before everyone starts ripping me a new one, let me explain… With the ex in question, the relationship was based pretty much just on that sexual chemistry – there was no future there or really anything of substance to the relationship that would make it last in this or any other universe. So, while I’m not as attracted to my FI as I was to said ex, my feelings for FI go so so so much deeper and are so much more meaningful that the sexual chemistry (and don’t get me wrong – it’s definitely THERE) is not nearly as important to me as the love I have for him and that he has for me.

FI is really quite sexy, though… Now I want to go home ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I am really lucky I think that my current guy is (I think) by far the most attractive guy I’ve ever dated! I’ve been with him about 2.5 years and still sometimes I look at him (especially right after a haircut!) and think wow… he’s dating me? seriously?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, I think my FI is HAWT, I still get butterflies in my stomach when he walks into the room!  And we were friends for a while before we started dating, and I didn’t find him remotely attractive. But then one day I saw him in a whole new light, and yes we’re the same, we can’t keep our hands off each other sometimes!!! I love the fact that we’re so into each other though, it makes for some very interesting and impromptu conversations and sack sessions EmbarassedSealed

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I sometimes think I’m more attracted physically to my guy than he is to me. This may not actually be true, but I definitely have the whole “I can’t keep my hands off you / I want to jump you right now” moments more than he does – maybe it’s just cause he’s more reasonable and has more self-control haha.

I think I’m more attracted to him than my ex, but I think this is mostly just because we have so much more of a deep connection. With my ex, we were in high school and were constantly plotting to get to the next point where we’d be alone and could make out or whatnot, but it wasn’t the same attraction as when I look at my guy now and know that we have our entire lives ahead together and that we share so much so deeply, you know?

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

you know what’s weird…even though i’ve always found by husband handsome (still SO WEIRD to say that btw), since the wedding i’ve been like 10 times more attracted to him.  everytime i look at him i just think (and sometimes say outloud) how darn cute, or hot, or sexy he is.  maybe it has something to do with the stress of the wedding no longer showing on his face… or clouding my perception ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m definitely more attracted to my FI than any other guy, but honestly, I think that has a lot to do with our strong emotional connection. I’ve always been that girl who can’t really fully find someone attractive unless I truly love their personality (I swear, I’m not a story book princess, either). I have the strongest connection with my FI and I think that adds to my physical attraction for him (which has always been strong, but gotten stronger over the years).

Maybe that’s the same for you ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

FI and met years ago then lost touch; even while I was married to someone else, it was FI’s sexy voice in my head, along with those blue, blue eyes. I have never met a sexier man. When we reunited, he almost didn’t come, embarrased with some weight he had gained. I never even saw it, and since I came back, he’s lost 30lbs!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes, definitely. My SO is the most handsome man I’ve ever met. I’m like Miss Chapstick, I have to love the personality in order to find them attractive. But oh man, every time he smiles… I just want to jump him! lol

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

For me, the physical attraction comes from who he is. 

Yes he’s handsome, and I’ve been as attracted to an ex in the sense that kittyachi mentioned, BUT…

FI is the sweetest, most romantic and genuine person I know.  That just throws it off the charts for me…  That and when he whispers sweet nothings in Spanish in my ear. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Easy answer: yes! =)

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m going to agree with Kittyachi on this one. I’ve been with guys that I had more sexual attraction but know emotional connction with. And I’ve been with guys that I had an emotion connection with but the sexual attraction just wasn’t there.

What makes my relationship with my fiance special is that I have both sexual attraction and a deep emotional connection with. I couldn ‘t have one without the other.

So while I may have had more sexual chemistry with someone in the past, there was no emotional connection and no potential future together. So of course, the sexual feelings were more intense because there was nothing else there.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Every day he is more and more gorgeous to me….he takes my breath away.  I’ve dated handsome men before but he is by far the most beautiful to me—in a suit, dressed like a bum, or in a t-shirt and jeans…..I love the way he looks, always!

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely more attracted to him than other guys! I haven’t dated a lot of guys with raw sexual attraction in general though. I have dated some guys where something physical about them ate at me over time and was something I was glad to not deal with after we broke up (for real reasons, mind you). Although, he paws at me a LOT more than i paw at him. One guy, in particular, was overweight and never watched what he ate and never worked out. In general, he didn’t take care of himself in regards to anything in his life and encouraged me to adopt the same lifestyle. I couldn’t do it. He wouldn’t even go to college or try to get out of his dead end job and parents’ basement.

I am definitely more physically attracted to my guy than any in the past, with a strong, deep emotional connection to boot! He paws at me a LOT more than I paw at him, though =]. He likes to reference South Park and tell me how lucky he is to have ended up with such a hottie! lol. It makes me feel good to know that he finds me so attractive since of course, I am my own worst critic!

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