(Closed) Are you at odds with your FILs at all? (On WR stuff)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my ffil wont even talk wedding details with us… he doesnt want to pay (no one is asking him to) but he will have an opinion on the guest list being that none of his family is invited… other than that its been smooth sailing… stinks that there is so much clashing…

Post # 4
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wouldn’t necessarily call it clashing, but my Fiance and I aren’t really seeing eye-to-eye with his mother. Let me clarify by saying she is absolutely one of the sweetest women on the planet. She is literally like this little ball of sugar wrapped in a person. So sweet and nice, but she is kind of making things complicated for us right now and I don’t think she even realizes it because I haven’t said anything, but it’s getting frustrating. My Fiance and I wanted to get married at the courthouse here in the next couple of weeks because we are buying a house and for financial reasons, etc, we decided it would be easier if everything were legal first. And we our planning our big wedding day for March 2011. I really didn’t want to have “two” weddings, so I thought the courthouse would be a great idea. We both loved the idea. We also contemplated having fun with it and running down to Vegas for the weekend (we live just two hours away.) However, his Mom and step dad now would like us to do our small civil ceremony (which we weren’t even going to invite anyone to) in their backyard with just his immediate family and mine (parents and siblings.)

It is a nice sentiment for them to want to do this for us, but it is starting to get really complicated and I feel dumb for having two weddings.

I am just starting to get really frustrated with the whole scenario.

Sorry for the vent. LOL

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re not really clashing because they just want us to do whatever we want (lucky, I know!). One thing though, his mom has mentioned us having a slideshow like, 20 times, and we don’t want one!!

Post # 6
1537 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re getting married in Mexico so we’re having the legal marriage done by a Justice of the Peace at our house. Well it was only supposed to be my Fiance and I and two witnesses (his brother and my friend), but I guess his brother opened his mouth to my Future In-Laws because they seem to think they are going to drive 5 hours to come and be a part of it. The only problem is my mother is 1200km (a 16 hour drive) away and my father lives on the complete opposite side of the country. This isn’t fair to my parents and I think if my dad finds out (he’s paying for the actual wedding) he’ll be more than upset.

I haven’t found a way to say “no” to them yet and I’ve been put in a really bad position by my Fiance and his brother. I just simply cannot do this to my parents. I guess I should also mention that my Future In-Laws have been terrible to me and my parent’s don’t exactly like them either, so I think this would cause a huge rift!!

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