Post # 1
This is honestly something I never really thought about, but now that we are three weeks away from our wedding everyone keeps asking if I am changing my last name. I’m not super attached to my name but I also really don’t like the sound of my name with his. I am thinking of keeping my name until we have children, and then I might reconsider. I also just renewed for a ten year passport without thinking, so it really would be a pain to change it at this point (haha). Just curious about what people have decided to do?
Post # 2
I never really thought about this myself either until after we got married – I just kind of took it in the traditional sense as a given. I did change mine, and I think it’s nice as makes you feel like a complete little family unit, however I do regret not giving it more thought.
I miss my maiden name very much so! My husband is not Western by birth, so I now have an unusual surname which doesn’t really go with my name. That being said, I look to be the only person in the world with my name which is a unique thing! Definitly give it some thought 🙂
Post # 3
I will be. I do not want to be attached to this name anymore. The more I think about it, it is very weird feeling to give up the name I’ve had for 31 years, but I don’t like my family. When he talks about my being his wife there is such pride, there is pride when they say they are part of their family. I want that. I don’t care how big of a pain it will be to change all the documents.
Post # 4
musicluvr325 : glad you found a great new family and a name to be proud of 🙂
florence555 : Thanks for your input! I am just so conflicted about this. It would be great to have the same last name as my husband, but on the other hand it bugs me that I am expected to make the change and not him. And I really don’t like the sound of our names together… my first name ends the same way his last name does and almost rhymes so it would sound funny 🙁
Post # 5
I was planning on changing it but we moved right after the wedding and I didn’t want to change it while I was job hunting since all of my references know me by my last name and I didn’t want there to be any confusion. Now it’s been 8 months since our wedding and honestly, changing it just seems like a hassle. I changed it on Facebook and I’ll go by his last socially but legally I’m thinking I’m just going to keep my last name at this point.
Maybe when we have kids I’ll reconsider.
Post # 6
I can’t wait to take his last name <3
Post # 7
I’ve wanted to change my name since I was like 10 years old. I was raised by my maternal grandparents and would’ve preferred to have the same last name as them. I have no desire to be attached in any way to my dad’s family.
That said, I’ve been married for 4 months and I still haven’t gotten around to legally changing my name. It took 3 months for our marriage certificate to be issued. I only had about 6 weeks of my degree left at that point (now there are only 12 more days!!), and I just didn’t want to worry about all the paperwork and document changes when I was already super busy.
I use DH’s last name socially, which is fine for now. One of these days I’ll tackle the paperwork.
Post # 8
What I discovered when I got engaged is that I’m a lot less traditional than I always thought when it comes to marriage. I do not plan to take my partner’s name. I didn’t give our child his last name, either. I love my father and want his name to continue.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2017 - State Park
I am not changing my name. I can remember being about 9 years old and thinking it was a weird concept. I never stopped.
I don’t think of keeping it as “my family name”. It’s just my name. It’s been my name for 30 years, it’s my identity. Yes, we are a couple, and that’s important. But I am also an individual. This is my name, and keeping it doesn’t make our relationship any less significant.
I wouldn’t change my name, no matter what. But what adds to my current especially strong stance is that I have an extremely common first name (and middle name for that matter), but a very unique last name. He has an extremely common last name. It’s bad enough differentiating between all the Sarahs around my life, I don’t need to end up on the no-fly list too!
I’ll be Sarah Uniquename until the day I die.
Post # 10
A year before I met FI I was serioulsy considering changing my name, for no reason other than I like what choosing a new name signifies: taking on a new identity, a new role, a new mission. I thought it was empowering to choose my own name.
I went as far as filling out the paperwork and was saving for the court costs.
When I met FI, he disagreed with me. He thinks a name is something you should receive from others. He had a lot of thoughtful things to say about it. He helped me pick out the one I wanted. But he disagreed with the idea and told me “let me know before you change it.” In this way he guaranteed I would not go through with it, because even though he didn’t tell me not to, I realized I respected his opinion too much.
I’m going to change my name to his … since that is my choice, I am happy. Since it is a name I am receiving from him, he is happy. 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2017 - Cottage
torontobride28 : I renewed my passport for 10 years too, just last year. Ugh. But I am taking his name. And I will order a new passport. The reason that im taking his name is that we both want our future kids to have his name. I am not particularly attached to mine.. and I want to have the same name as our future kids.. so I am changing my name.
Neither of us wants to hyphenate or our kids to have hyphenated names. And we dont want to make a new name either.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
As a kid, I always thought I would change my last name. Now that I’m an adult about to get married, I really want to keep my name. I’m a teacher, I have 3 degrees in my name, and we’re not having kids. I love my FI’s last name, but most people don’t pronounce it correctly (whereas I have a very common last name), and I can’t think of any reason to change my last name other than to follow western tradition. With that said, I wouldn’t be offended or mad if someone called me Mrs. FI’sLastName; to the contrary, I’d actually be happy, but I’m not legally changing it.
Post # 13
I changed my last name but it was hard for me to do as I’m attached to my maiden name. I dropped my middle name & made my maiden name my middle name.
Post # 14
I kept my name. My husband’s last name is actually very similar to mine, so hyphenating would look ridiculous. Plus, I’m all about the easy route. Less paperwork. 🙂
Post # 15
I don’t like the sound of my name with his either, but I changed it. It actually meant a lot to him that I did, and on top of that we have two kids and it is easier having the same last name as them.