Post # 1
Very curious to hear how many Bees are took/areplanning on assuming their husband’s name. I’m undecided. I have a unique first name and (what I consider to be) a pretty European sounding last name. My FI has a regular old English name, and in my opinion it sounds kinda funny with my first name. Also, I like the idea of maintaining that aspect of my identity. I have already decided my professional name will stay as my maiden name. BUT, I also love my FI dearly and feel like it would be really special to take his last name.
What did you/are you planning to do? Why?
Post # 3
Nope. Too complicated professionally, and it’s always seemed very weird to me that women take men’s names. I would consider both hyphenating, but I don’t think we’ll do that.
Post # 4
I feel similarly. Our names are both fairly long, so hyphenating would be a nightmare.
Post # 5
I still have my xDH’s name, he’s remarried…soooo, i want it gone…sooner the better
Post # 6
@jmaze: Can you not just go back to using your maiden name?
Post # 7
Yup, I’m changing my name legally but probably won’t change it professionally if it proves to be difficult or confusing.
As far as the feminism argument goes, I also got my maiden name from a man, so…
Post # 8
I am. I always pictured myself changing my last name. I think of it as very romantic. Also, my last name is one of the top 5 most common last names for caucasians, so I don’t feel like it’s that special. His is very common too, but I like being old-fashioned in some ways 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I took my husband’s last name, and I moved my maiden name to be my second middle name. It made me happy to retain my family’s name while still fully embracing our family by taking his name.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
I’m planning on keeping my name and using my FI’s last name socially. I have a very unique last name and giving that up would feel like I was giving up part of me. It doesn’t help that my FI has a super generic last name.
I’m not going to correct people for calling us “Mr & Mrs Hisname” and if we eventually have kids, they will have his last name too.
Post # 11
i am taking my FI’s last name because i want to share the same name as him. i come from a small town and it would just be weird if i kept my name and everyone would wonder why. i didn’t know people even did that (unless they were doctors or celebrities) until i joined the bee.
i will definitely miss my last name though- it’s very unique and my new last name is one of the top 5 most common last names in the country (think smith or johnson). my FI would be disappointed if he knew that though..
Post # 12
@jmaze: Same here.
I CAN’T WAIT to have my FI’s last name and get rid of this one!
Post # 13
I am changing mine. FI had very strong feelings about this, and since I don’t have a middle name, we compromised with my maiden name becoming my middle name.
To be honest, I am a little sad changing my name.
Post # 14
Taking his. I like his last name, love his family, etc. I don’t have much of an attachment to my last name. Every time someone butchers his last name (which they usually do), he asks me if I’m sure I want to take it. My name is shorter, but is ALWAYS misspelled and mispronounced, so it’s not like it matters.
Post # 15
I am definitely changing my name. I’m fairly traditional and I’ve honestly never thought about not changing it. I’m even dropping my maiden name completely. I don’t feel that my last name is part of my identity so I feel no attachment towards it.
Post # 16
@vorpalette: That’s funny. I have the opposite problem. My maiden name (and my first name) are constantly confusing people. Life would probably be marginally easier with my FI’s last name! haha.