Are You Doing a Bouquet Toss? Why/Why Not?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t want to because I hate the idea of dragging up any single women to catch it. At the weddings I’ve attended, it’s always a begrudging small group of awkward women either really young or really old. So we’ll be skipping that. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not doing it because I find the whole practice degrading. I just don’t have any single girlfriends with the desire to stand up infront of all my family and our friends and wrestle around for the “hope” they will be the next to marry.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not doing it. Most of our guests are married and even when I was single I never participated. It was all so awkward and forced. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

My reason to not toss my bouquet is probably selfish,  but at least I’m being honest!  Heck no, I’m not tossing my beautiful bouquet that I spent around $100.00 in materials from Michaels,  Walmart, JoAnn’s  Fabrics, and I want to keep it for sentimental value.  Maybe, that should have been the first reason! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’ve caught a bouquet twice but won’t be throwing one. Is that bad luck? I just don’t feel like carrying around a wad of flowers for 4 hours only to throw it away in the end. Plus I’ll need both hands for holding mimosas.

That and I also do not care for the idea of calling all the single ladies to stand in a group and fight over some flowers to show how badly they want to be married.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Cynderbug:  I won’t be doing it but I’m having a very small non-traditional wedding. Even if I was doing the big traditional thing I wouldn’t do it though.

As a guest and when I was single I never participated and I hated when I was forced to. I think it’s degrading. I know some women find it fun, but I feel like it’s spotlighting people who are single and making it seem like they are “soooo desperate” to get married (like *me*) that they’ll fight each other for a bunch of dying flowers. Ugh I hate it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I didn’t do it, in 1977, when almost everyone did. My daughters (2013 and 2014) aren’t doing it. In the last few years, I’ve only seen it once. Bouquet tosses are always on TV blooper shows; fights, bouquets ripped apart, screaming, someone popping out of the top of their strapless dress …

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No Way. I always feel like it’s awkward and slightly….icky. I don’t know. Plus my bouquet is a few hundred bucks, I would like it intact. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I didn’t because everyone at my wedding was taken except for maybe like 4 or 5 girls, so I figured it’d look dumb. We also didn’t do garter toss or mother/son and father/daughter dances. Didn’t really follow tradition on a lot of things. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cynderbug:  Ditto what Skittles131:  said. My first wedding we didn’t do any of that. Nobody likes it except people making fun of it. I hate that junk.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Cynderbug:  Haha I caught a bouquet once (well.. a girl and I fought for it, I won 😉 it was funny/joke fighting though, not crazy desperate scrambling!)

My then bf caught the garter at the same wedding too.. everyone thought it was a sign.. we broke up a year later lol

I’m not a huge fan of it anyway so I won’t be doing it!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Cynderbug:  Wow… I was going to do the bouquet toss but now reading this thread I wonder if I shouldn’t… I pretty much was just thinking to entertain guests but I don’t know if it’s really worth it for that. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not. I don’t think it’s entertaining, and at my wedding theirs not that many single girls so would be sort of silly. 

@nawella its your wedding! If you like it, go for it. Half of the weddings I’ve been to have done it, I don’t think theirs a right or wrong answer, just whatever you’ll have more fun with 🙂

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