Are you doing a garter toss?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Are you doing a garter toss?
    yes : (41 votes)
    21 %
    no : (137 votes)
    72 %
    undecided : (13 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    3653 posts
    Sugar bee

    Nope. We’re not throwing anything. 

    I haven’t seen a garter toss in years. The last time a very large gal caught the bouquet and then none of the guys would go out on the dance floor, since they didn’t want to put the garter on her leg. So sad … 

    Post # 4
    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I did and it wasn’t awkward. 

    ETA: but we didn’t do the putting it on the leg of whoever caught the bouquet. That would be awkward. 

    Post # 5
    6457 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree that they are a little awkward. Especially when he sticks his whole head up her dress. 

    We decided not to do it- partially because I find it awkward and partially because we didn’t have many single males at our wedding.

    Post # 6
    1168 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Lily_of_the_valley:  No. Our DJ didnt recommend it. In our area it is getting phased out and replaced. The idea of ANYONE going up my dress in a ballroom full of on looking people… is just NOT something I ever want to experience. 

    We are doing an anniversary dance, I feel its classier. Basically married couples are asked to come up and dance. The DJ will say “people married less than 8 hours sit down” (bride and groom), “people married less than 5 years sit down” 

    the last couple standing– the longest married couple then gets presented with the brides bouque. We are having a boquet made up for this and having a bottle of champagne for the couple. (Likely FI’s grandparents).




    Post # 7
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We still haven’t decided if we’re going to do it. At first I was like HELL NO because I had only ever been to weddings and heard of weddings where the groom sticks his head up the dress and takes the garter off with his teeth (oh my god my parents would die) but now I’m hearing that it doesn’t have to be that way. If there’s a better way to do it then we might go through with it.

    Post # 9
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Yep. We did. And we kept it totally clean too. My husband sure as hell didn’t take it off with his teeth!

    Post # 10
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The last wedding I went to I was one of TWO not-married ladies! So they made me try to catch the bouquet… Even though I was engaged!

    I think the tosses are fun if there’s lots of single people! Less fun when everyone is already married.

    Post # 11
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We didn’t do the garter toss because we didn’t have enough single males but I did throw the bouquet.

    Although truthfully, I found the though of my husband going underneath my dress in front of 200+ guests really off putting.

    Post # 12
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re doing both tosses and inviting all people who are single, engaged, or married to participate. Also, FI definitely will not be climbing up under my skirt. I doubt anyone will even see much above my ankle/mid-calf. 

    Post # 13
    1266 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m doing it, but the guy who catches the garter and the woman who catches the bouquet will get fun prizes rather than having to awkwardly interact with each other.  We’re thinking either alcohol or a gift card.

    Post # 14
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We are not tossing anything.

    My bouquet costs money, I am not going to throw it to women who dont want to catch it only to watch it get ruined. Waste of money. Peple sggest the fake route, but I hate fake flowers. People then suggested doing a smaller bouquet, again wasted money to watch flowers get destroyed. Small unnesesary expenses add up quick.

    A garter is an undergarmet, its meant to hold up stockings, only no one wears stocking any more, anyways, I digress. I don’t want any type of an undergarmet throw infront of any member of my family. My grandfather is a retired minister, and I dont need my fiances grandparents seeing undergarments being thrown either. No offense to those who do the garter toss, to each their own, but in my eyes in trashy for ME to do this. (Trust me, I wont judge you if you do this tradition because some people find it fun, just doesnt work for me/us) Not to mention a garter toss actually was done as proof on consumation of the marriage, i.e for guests to prove that you had sex on your wedding night (back in the days when guests followed you into your wedding room) a piece of clothing was taken from the bride as proof, and the person who has the item gets good luck. Creepy, weird and old tradtion is just not for us.

    Post # 15
    795 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No i find it awkward and dislike it. Will do a bouquet toss and nothing else. 

    Post # 16
    5432 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    Nope, we both find it awkward. I’m wearing a really pretty Florrie Mitton garter, but we won’t be tossing it. I’m doing a bouquet toss though (:

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