Post # 1
I just ordered a bouquet of tulips to be shipped to FMIL for Mothers Day. I couldn’t quite convince myself to have the message say, "Dear Mom"…so I ended up with
"Happy Mother’s Day!
Anyone else tyring to ease the transition by seding a card, flowers, or a gift? It still doesn’t feel very natural to me–I but I’d like to have a close relationship with my FMIL, and I know it will take some work.
I think my fiance is getting his mom a card from just him, but I wanted to do something to let her know I care about her and appreciate her raising my wonderful fiance! She’s going to be my only mother figure within 2,000 miles after we’re married, so I hope we get closer when I move out there.
Post # 3
I was going to…but then I found out my FI and his sister are giving her a nice cocktail ring for mothers’ day…and I couldn’t find a good enough FMIL card. It’s awkward. HOpefully next year my FI and I will just go in on something. I can’t afford to send her a bunch of flowers from just me, plus my FI is already getting her something.
And she JUST threw me a shower, so I did send a box of chocolates. I don’t want to overdo it. Next year maybe it wont be so weird once she’s actually my MIL.
Post # 3
I’ll be getting her a card, same as my own mom – since my FI won’t even bother. We get along fine, but there’s really no huge importance to many holidays for her.
Plus…I’ll be working. Can’t do much else for them.
Post # 4
My FMIL’s birthday was just last week so we sent her a basket of goodies. For Mother’s day, I believe my FI will be ordering flowers for her, from us. She loves flowers and is very appreciative of what she receives so I know they will make her happy!
BTW — This really isn’t for easing the transition. I have been quite close to her since I met her years ago.
Post # 5
We each handle gifts/events for our own family, so he’ll be getting his mom something and spending the day with her while I’ll be doing the same for my mom.
Post # 6
I was just debating this. I think my FMIL would think it was weird if I sent her something from just me (we get along great, but she is not terribly sentimental). I think I have been tasked with sending her flowers from FI though, lol.
We do joint gifts to family members already, but stil….
Next year, I will jump on the mother’s day bandwagon for her!
Post # 7
My FI and I bought cards for both of our moms, that say from both of us. We are both close to each other’s moms, so it wasn’t weird to think about doing it that way. We also are having a BBQ at my FBIL’s for FI’s mom and my mom. We all get along really well, which is a blessing!!
Post # 8
We’re going out to lunch with FI’s whole family….and getting her a card and a book from the both of us. Then we’re going to dinner with my whole family and getting my mom something from the both of us. I’m not close to my FMIL but I’m trying my best!
Post # 9
We sent her flowers signed:
We love you mom!
Hubby, me, BIL (he wanted to throw in b/c he had no idea what to get her)
Post # 10
I hate stuff like this…honestly I do…I will tell you why
With my family we have never been big on giving my parents gifts, a gift on Christmas, and maybe a little something on their birthdays (always a card though) is what is expected, nothing for valentines, nothing for mothers/fathers day etc.
However with my Fiances family they buy gifts for EVERY occasion! and as much as thats not a big issue its the fact that both his parents have everything and more! they’re the hardest people to buy for since they dont end up using or really appreciating anything you buy them (I think at this point my Fiances dad has every iPod known to man x 2 because we all just keep buying him iPods…or iPod gadgets…) his mom buys herself stuff all the time and when we dont know what to buy we either buy her clothes or perfume (which she returns the clothes no matter how much she likes them because there is a standard on how much she money spends on her clothes, and she will never wear the perfume – which is also kind of hint because we HATE the only perfume she wears)
Its so frustrating, my fiance and I almost had a fight last night before bed about it. he was like what are we getting out moms I was like "IM GETTING MY MOM A CARD AS PER USUAL AND WHO THE F$%# KNOWS ABOUT YOUR MOM SHE DOESNT NEED ANYTHING!!!" (may I also add I am PMSing and rediculously emotional at this point in planning…ha ha)
so if anyone knows of what to get the mother who has everything I would greatly appreciate it (PS, flowers wont cut it, as she doesnt really like them either)
Sigh, happy mothers day to all the other amazing apperciative mothers out there!
Post # 11
@Chantellamus: Maybe a gift certificate for a mani/pedi? Massage? I’m sure she does stuff like that for herself, but a free one wouldn’t hurt her.
Post # 13
Umm… somewhere in-between. Right now she’s still FMIL, and I don’t usually do much for my own mom, so FI and I were out shopping together and we each bought our moms separate cards. I’ve put mine in the mail and am encouraging FI to get his momma’s in the mail today so she’ll get it by Saturday!
Post # 14
My FMIL and I are pretty close so I think I’m going to take her out to lunch on Saturday and probably get her a card filled with some scratch-off lottery tickets. She always sends us (me, FI, FSIL) cards for everything (Vday, Halloween, birthdays, etc) with lottery tickets included. I thought she might get a kick out of it. Her only daughter, my FSIL, just moved 6 hours away so I think she might be feeling a little sad this mother’s day.
Post # 15
We just send flowers to his mom and grandmother from the both of us. Nice and easy 🙂
Post # 16
My FMIL and I are not that close since there is a major language barrier between us, but I will probably get her a pretty bouquet of flowers. I brought her some on Easter and she really like them.