(Closed) Are you doing or did you have a dollar dance at your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Are you having a dollar dance or did you have one at your wedding?
    Did not have one : (108 votes)
    68 %
    Planning on having one : (21 votes)
    13 %
    Undecided : (22 votes)
    14 %
    Had one : (7 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am not and boy am I taking heat from it from my mom, my FMIL and my FGMIL. I don’t feel comfortable asking my guests for money to dance with me after they all are traveling at least 2 hours and getting hotel rooms. But thats just my 2c.

    Post # 4
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    33 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t see anything wrong with it. But that’s my opinion.

    Post # 5
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve never seen one and I personally am not doing it.  It seems strange to me, but honestly, it’s probably just because I’ve never been accustomed to it!  If you’re crowd participates in that, I say go for it!

    Post # 6
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Didn’t have one, rarely see them in my circle, but dont’ have feelings about them one way or another. 

    Post # 7
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I didn’t want one & didn’t have one. It’s not the norm where I’m from & would definitely be seen as a gift grab by my circle.

    However, my fiance says they have them at all receptions in his area. I’m hoping our second “reception”/”congratulatory party” will be devoid of one because it’s not our actual wedding (fingers crossed).

    Post # 8
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    5663 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve read on the bee that this is kind of a cultural thing and also depends on where you are from. In Seattle, this is totally weird and I would never think to do it. I did go to a wedding once where they did it and i was like what the hell? It seems totally greedy to me, but again its not something we do culturally or geographically. 

    Post # 9
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    14317 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No way.  I’ve felt awkward the 3 times I’ve seen it, there was no way I was doing it.  It’s also not common at all where I’m from.  My SILs had them, they are in the south and its perfectly normal to them and their circle, but it was still weird to me.

    Post # 10
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A lot of people I know have had a Dollar Dance at their wedding, and I think it’s fine.  It is sort of “money grabby,” but just in a fun, no-harm-done sort of way.  If certain guests don’t want to participate, they’re certainly not forced to.

    That said, it makes me personally feel uncomfortable and awkward, so we’re not having one.  I don’t want to charge guests to dance with me.  I’ll dance with them for free!  Smile

     

    Post # 11
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve never seen one – I’d never even heard of them until the Bee!  It’s not a tradition in my region/circle of friends and family. So no.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Dollar dances are so regional. It’s not the norm in my region, but I’ve been to an out-of-town wedding that had one, and the guests there enjoyed it.

    Post # 13
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think you really need to know your guests before planning a “dollar dance.”  In the States at least, it’s not a common tradition outside of certain cultural circles, and if your guests are not in that circle, they may find it confusing, weird or downright tacky.  As a guest, I know what a dollar dance is but if someone in my social circle wanted to do one, I’d not find it cute or charming at all.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We had it and its more then just the money. Its nice to get to have one on one with your guest. It was also perfect time for one on one pictures. I say go for it, 

    Post # 15
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    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My fiance and I have chosen to do one. This is mostly because every wedding we have been to has had one and it’s always a good time! I think it is definitely a regional/cultural thing from the different topics I’ve seen about it on here so you will definitely have a lot of different answers here, OP. 🙂

    Post # 16
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We were not comfortable with having one, so we opted out. My mom thought we were being ridiculous. *Shrugs*

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