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I'm a little torn...these can be 'cute' traditions but they can also be kinda awkward sometimes too.
Are you doing these or a variation of them? If so...why? If not...why?
I did both and it was a blast. The twist I had with the bouquet toss, was I had 5 mini bouquets made, so 5 lucky single ladies caught the blooms.
People were surprised and I laughed... knowing what I had up my sleeve.
I'm thinking we may sub in an "Anniversary dance" or whatever it's called in place of these...
We are not doing them. Neither of us enjoyed doing them at other people's weddings so we are not going to make our guests do it. Instead we will do an anniversary dance and give the boquet to the couple married the longest.
We'll be doing both. Not many of our friends will be married, we're a young couple and one of the firsts from our respective circles to get married. My bridesmaids have already told me I better do a bouquet toss, and others have mentioned wanting to catch it. Plus, it's an opportunity for funny pictures!
I'm not so excited about the garter toss, but FI really wants to do one. He hasn't had many requests, but that was at the top of the list, so I'm going with it.
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No way. Our wedding is more of a party than a wedding anyway. We're not doing most of the wedding traditions, but especially NOT the garter and bouquet toss. I hate them.
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We have opted not to do them they just don't fit our personality plus there will not be alot of single girls at the wedding. For the few that are there I will have flower and note at their seat from me.
I tossed my bouquet, but had all the women get out on the floor, not just the single ladies. Then, if a married woman caught it she was supposed to give me advice and if a single lady caught it she'd be next to get married. My DJ suggested doing it this way because I wanted to do it, but was worried there wouldn't be enough single ladies there and/or they wouldn't want to do it.
As for the garter, I wore one, but we didn't do anything with it at the wedding. I wore it more just as a keepsake and for my husband to take off later, in the privacy of our own home.
We're using a, oh geez what's it called... a fall apart bouquet? There won't be many single people, so I'll throw a bouquet that will fall into 5 parts, and each will have a cute charm on it that could apply to anyone, not just a single gal.
We aren't doing either one. Most people coming are family and they are all married. Our few friends that we are all inviting are also married, the two single people (one guy and one girl) it would be mortifying I think for them! Then again we are having a small wedding. Sometimes I think it just only works if the group is very large or you have a moderate amount of people there who are single.
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Yep, we're doing both because the majority of the guests will be unmarried. (Like Opus, we're probably the first to walk down the aisle). We're planning on having flameless fireworks to be fired right when I do the toss.
We're not doing either one, I've always felt awkward about them at weddings. We will be doing the Anniversary dance though.
Yep, we did... but we had ALL the ladies (even the married ones) get out on the floor. Same with the gents.
We didn't do either of those. They just weren't our thing. Also, we a small wedding with only 3 single ladies, so I thought it would be weird to single them out.
I am planning on having a garter and bouquet toss but since the majority of the guests are my family I thought I would do a variation of it. We will probably attach a gift card or something to both the garter and bouquet for the "winner". This would be much better than seeing an uncle putting a garter on a niece (eek)...
We won't be doing either. I think the bouquet toss would be fun, but we don't have enough single ladies! And I have just never been a fan of the garter thing. No thanks. :)
I didn't have either at my wedding, and no one even noticed or asked me about them! After the reception was over, my husband's aunt came up to me and said, "I just now realized that you didn't have a bouquet or garter toss! I was having so much fun, I didn't even notice!" I took it as a compliment :)
I'm actually going to do something similar to what Miss Bruschetta is doing :) We are going to throw multiple bouquets & garters and attach lottery tickets to them! Its not going to be just for the single laides & guys though, we will announce whoever wants to come out and try to grab them can!
I've always dreaded getting called up to catch the bouquet. It's so awkward and makes the majority of the single ladies uncomfortable. Given that the single girls are in their 30's, we thought it best to forgo the tradition. If anything, I think people will be relieved!
I did the bouquet toss and I think it was a lot of fun. All my single ladies were game to be a little silly!
I didn't want to do the garter toss, but my DJ and photographer didn't get the message, despite me telling them. So they sat me down in a chair and made my husband crawl across the dance floor to me. It was pretty cute, but I was like, "Umm hello, there isn't anything up there for you to grab! What is the point of this?!". I definitely have an annoyed face in all those photos!
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Nope. We are only going to have a few singles-we are the last of our friends to get married. We probably will do the anniversary dance.
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Nope, we nixed that early. As a guest, I've always felt super awkward during the bouquet toss. And I feel like the garter thing can get really tacky (I would be mortified for FI to be rooting around under my dress in front of my entire family!)
Nope, I personally hate it. On top of that, there will only be a small handfull that will be single - I can only think of 4 right now, 2 being younger teenage siblings. We may do something different, like have all the woman (single, dating, married, etc) gather to catch the bouquet as good luck or have it separate when thrown. As for the garter, I don't know. I personally want to keep my garter and I don't really know of any alternatives to the standard garter toss to single guys. And definititely not doing the reverse garter up the leg with the two who catch the garter and bouquet. To me, that's just tacky and inappropriate.
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i don't think i'm doing either..my sister is trying to talk me into it.
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Not really. We're doing the anniversary dance for the marrieds to give the bouquet away, and FI still wants a garter toss.
FI is excited to be pulling the garter off with his teeth (I told him hands or teeth, not both!). ;)
We decided not to do it. The awkward factor didn't really matter in my choice (though my mother in law was begging me NOT to do the bouqet toss). I mostly decided not to do it because we have use of our venue for what seemed like such a short time that I didn't want to waste it doing these 2 traditions that no one seemed that into, anyway.
I'm not doing either. I want to keep my bouquet and I don't feel comfortable having my FI up my skirt in front of my whole family (as someone above mentioned).
I'm not sure about the boquet toss, though I'm thinking probably not (I want to keep my boquet myself), but we're definitely not doing the garter toss. That's just awkward :-P. Since when is having your husband stick his hands up your skirt and throw your undergarments at single men a fun idea? :-P Nope, not my thing...
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We aren't doing them either, just not our style.
I did go to a friends wedding where she had a break-a-way bouquet to toss, and each flower had a "message" on it. It was really cute!
no, won't be that many single people there, besides my brothers. We're doing the anniversary dance
I'm not a big fan of either, honestly. The garter toss makes me a little uncomfortable and I don't like the suggestion that every woman wants to catch the bouquet and thus get married. I don't mind them, though, so if they make you happy, then you should do it!
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I'm lucky my FI is willing to be the center of attention long enough to marry me. The garter toss would definitely be pushing it. I would do the bouquet toss if people wanted it, but our female guests are generally already married or do NOT want to catch it.
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We didn't have a lot of singles at our destination wedding, plus I wasn't crazy about the idea. Just not us I guess.
now that i think about it...
we were going to just do a bouquet toss... but i change my mind after reading these. i remember feeling awkward each time i went out on the dance floor during weddings... yes family, i am STILL single. no, i am NOT dating anyone. no, there's nothing wrong with me.
We didn't do it at our wedding. When I was single, I never liked going up there. I always thought if the bouquet came towards me I would swat it down. Plus we had a destination wedding and there were only three single girls there.
the garter toss seems a bit tacky to me. i dont think my asian grandma will appreciate my husband going underneathe my wedding dress in front of her...i also dont want any single female guests to feel obligated to do the bouquet toss either.
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