Post # 1
Are you fighting for the right to go to bed the night before your wedding? Anyone else running into obstacles since there are so many people there to see YOU? Or do you not care and are planning to stay up all night?
My FMIL is hosting the RD and just told me she’s putting together a bus tour of Philadelphia for after the dinner. Very nice idea and I’m sure a lot of people will enjoy it, but I”m trying to find a good way to tell her I won’t be joining everyone. The dinner probably won’t be over until around 9:30/10:00 at which point I was going to slip out gracefully while all the youngsters shifted to the next bar. I am a troubled sleeper to begin with and need at least 8 hours in order to not be a zombie..
Post # 3
I’m glad you posted this because I am stressing about a similar thing. I’m dreading the days leading up to the wedding because there will be so many friends and family from out of town that I feel like I have to spend time with or maybe help them get around in the area. I am a total mess if I can’t just relax and be by myself for a while. I’m already totally anxious about the day, and the thought of not having much alone time beforehand to chill out is worrying me.
Post # 4
I’m planning on exiting the evening after dinner to hopefully get plenty of shut eye as the following day will start early and be uberly busy. Meaning we’ll be up late to dance the night away. A bride needs her rest!!
Post # 5
I know what you mean. Your wedding is going to be a long day and you need to have enough rest or you are going to be dragging by the end of the day. People will understand you leaving to sleep.
Post # 6
thats rather late to start a bus tour i would suggest she do that as a day after wedding thing . i dont know that anyone is gonna wanna stay up that late.
just simply tell her your tired and well need your sleep that night before the dinner even starts
Post # 7
Meh. I’m excited to hang out with people the night before but I’m definitely going to bed by midnight. I’ll drink and take a pill to zonk out and pound some coffee in the morning and I’ll be fine. We’re having people in town friday night join us after the RD for a little party at the hotel so I’ll be able to see everyone in one place and then peace out of there (and just have to go upstairs to bed) after a few hours.
Post # 8
Totally agree, you need your sleep. I’m the same way, if I don’t then I’ll be a mess and look like hell and feel like it too! I’d really try and tell her as soon as possible so it’s not a last minute surprise for her if she’s expecting it. You need some extra beauty sleep to prepare for the big day coming up!
Post # 9
I agree! For some reason my mom thought I’d have one of my BMs stay with me in my hotel room the night before the wedding. Um. No. I want to sleep. If someone stays with me, I’ll be up all night chatting!
As soon as the rehearsal dinner is over, I’m outta there!
Post # 10
No, after dinner we are going to leave, and the whole group of us are staying at my mom’s house… I’ll have a bigger problem sleeping cause I’ll be so excited!!!
Post # 11
I am planning on sleeping in a suite with two connected rooms with my ladies the night before. Hopefully we;ll be able to wind down and go to sleep at a decent hour. My wedding is in the early evening, so i won’t have to be up at sunrise or anything.
Post # 12
I’m definitely worried about this because we’re hosting the rehearsal dinner at our house, where I’ll be sleeping that night! We are going to have to have a designated time to kick people out and lead them on to a bar to continue partying there or something. I’ll try to beg off going along.
Post # 13
You are all right, I am telling her now, well FI is telling her that we both won’t be attending the tour but to still arrange it if she wants to.
I feel like the bride always just disappears towards the end of the RD, but most people don’t notice b/c they’re doing their own thing at that point. I was really hoping that would be the case for me too, but looks like I”m going to have to fight for it..
Post # 14
What a good point! I definitely want to get lots of sleep the night before, because the wedding day is going to be a looooong day!
I would just politely bow out early – I am sure people would understand!
Post # 15
While a lot of your guests are there to see you, they like to see each other as well! Don’t feel obligated to go out late unless you feel up to it. Most importantly, be sure to get in a quiet moment with your FI. It will calm you down for everything to come the following day. FI and I stayed until the end of our rehearsal dinner, went to a friend’s house to practice our dance, then went back to FI’s apartment where a number of his friends were drinking and hanging out. I stayed for a little while, then went back to my friend’s to sleep (my mom gave all of the beds at our house away to family from out of town). I slept through the night and was ready to go after a nice breakfast. Don’t overwhelm yourself, but be sure to take in as much as you can of your wedding weekend 🙂
Post # 16
Um, hello, you gotta be up early the next day! OF COURSE you want to sleep. Not party =]
Get up, have coffee, a nice breakfast, etc.