Are you freaking kidding me?

posted 3 years ago in August 2013
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think demanding the deposit back same day from someone with a family emergency was a bit dramatic.

Why don’t you just have a family member get ordained online and marry you? Cheaper and more meaningful.

It isn’t the end of the world I promise!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m sure you’re panicking right now but it will work out. Recently, my pastor was supposed to marry a couple in my church, and was instead rushed to the hospital that same day. The couple worked something out and the wedding went on. It will be ok

Post # 7
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3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

go get married at the court for the paperwork, then have a friend or family membee officiate at the actual wedding. Write out a script for them to follow ame make it perspinal by writing your own vows. we are doing something similar. The majority of people don’t even need to know you went to the court unless you want to tell them.

Post # 10
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Sweetg1rl084:  oh boy. I understand the panic, but echo sentiments of pp….please continue on with your planned wedding ceremony, have a trusted friend or family member get ordained online ASAP and have them perform the ceremony!!!

Post # 11
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2454 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You still have three weeks. This isn’t the worst thing that could happen. Apologize to your fiance. 

Post # 12
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8909 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Where I live you can get someone ordained through the Universal Life Church online for free immediately. Check with your county clerk.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We got married at City Hall for immigration reasons.  At our reception, a friend is going to officiate our vows and it will be the personal things we want to say to each other in front of friends and family.  I know it’s not what you envisioned but the personal touch can be kind of fun!

Post # 14
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3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sweetg1rl084:  haha oh my I just realized all the typos in my post! stupid iPhone! sorry and hope it works out!

Post # 15
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873 posts
Busy bee

I think people are being a little unfair. i would TOTALLY be freaking out and way over dramatic about that. You will be ok, in the end you will be married and have your day but man, that is a really rough one to deal with!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

The first thing I’d be doing is callling that officiant back and apologising for being such a horrible person to him. He wasn’t dropping you for no reason and he seemed apologetic and reasonable considering his family emergency. I hope you never have someone being a cow to you when you’re having a family emergency.

 

Three weeks before your wedding is plenty of time to find someone else. The second thing I’d do is get some perspective- no one has died, you aren’t out any money and you have three weeks to sort something out. You can be upset and stressed, sure, but getting  stroppy with the officiant and threatening to call off the wedding is completely unreasonable.

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