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My fiance has 3 sisters. One of them is getting married this year as well. I never see her, she lives 2 hours away. I feel a little strange because we are both planning weddings but we never see each other or even talk talk. Should I just let it go?
How did you do with your fiance's sisters?
I get along just fine with Fi's sisters (and whole family for that matter) but I wouldn't say we are "friends"... His family lives 5 hours away though so it might be different if they lived closer.
I think if you want to reach out and talk to her and become friends then by all means go for it. I wouldn't think it was weird if one of FI's sisters called me to chat, especially if we were both planning weddings.
Not even a little bit. That isn't even an option on your poll. I am not and don't want to be. We are estranged from our families happily (I mean- by choice, but I WISH it was different ;)
My FSIL is a doll, I love her, I'm closer to her than I am to my real sister and thats saying alot.
She's nice, but we're really different. I'm looking forward to knowing her better, but I know FI won't be disappointed if we aren't best friends.
if FH had sisters I'm sure i would be friends with them...he only has two brothers....i'm friends with his younger brother, tho not like friends who hang out on a regular basis though....but they live close enough to where we see/hang with them at least twice a month if not more......
his younger brother has a fiance whom i made friends with as well...so do FH's sister-in-law count??
I love my FSIL - she is Mrs. Magnolia! Very lucky to be marrying into a wonderful family and getting all the help/advice from a former Bee!
You know I think these kind of relationships are hard.. and obviously different for everyone. I'm not close to my FI's younger (and only) sister but I would say we respect each other and are amicable. I've reached out to her several times when I felt like she may have needed some guidance or big sis advice but she's never confided in me. I probably shouldn't take it personally but I do sometimes and it's hard. I think of her as my sister almost but I don't think the feeling is mutual. Not sure what to do now because FI's sister is struggling and in that place where she's graduated from HS but doesn't realliy want to go to college and is out partying? :/
I adore my FSILs. One is actually a BMs for our wedding too! :)
My FI also has three sisters, and one of his is also getting married this year, lives 2 hours away, and we're not that close. It is kind of weird. She is kind of weird about the wedding and her parents in general (kind of immature), and she doesn't really tell us about her plans.
However, his youngest sister and I practically BFFs. We are as close as real sisters. His eldest sister and I get along pretty well, too, though she lives out of state. These two are going to be bridesmaids in my wedding. The other one will do a reading.
I wouldn't let it stress you out. As long as you guys don't actively dislike each other, I wouldn't worry about. Trying to force a friendship might only make it more awkward.
I really like my FI's two sisters. I wouldn't say we're "the best of friends", we're not THAT close, but we get along really well. My FI's oldest sister is also planning a wedding and it's really fun to chat with her about our plans!
My SIL is 4 years younger and in a completely different place. Right now, we bond over rolling our eyes and giggling when FIL does something annoying.
We have become better friends over the years, but aren't really "best friends." I feel that we will definitely get closer as the years go on :) We've decided to include our siblings in the bridal party (my brother is in his and his sisters are in mine) so I think that'll be a really neat bonding experience in a lot of ways. They are great girls.
I also have three SIL's. Well technically 6 if you count the step in laws. lol. But I am really close with his sister who is my same age. We hang out with her and her husband a lot since we are all right around the same age. They are a lot of fun. I am not really close to other two. The one is only about two years younger than me, but she is super religious and I'm not so we just don't really have a lot in common. And the other sister is only 14. The step SIL's are all way older than us so we just see each other at family gatherings and that is about it. I really enjoy being friends wtih his one sister though. I definitely encourage family bonding if you are up for it! I know some in laws don't really get along. But it is definitely not a bad idea to form a relationship with his sisters. Not only will you get a great hubby out of getting married, but you might also make new friends! lol (cheesy I know! hahaha)
Its along story and I will not bore you with the details. The FH has three sisters also that live more than an hour away. They are a very close family, but I always felt that I was the outsider. No one ever called me, and I was always "and family" on cards. FH and I got legally married last year after the death of his ex forced our wedding out a year. Immediately after that they started calling me just to chat, or find out about the wedding. It was a complete 180. When we went down for the holidays, I really felt welcome. We also have had several family weddings in the last few months, and I have always been treated like all the aunts.
Moral of the story: there is always hope they will come around.
I wish we were friends, but we really aren't. It's not that we don't like each other. Part of the problem is me, I'm rather anti-social and probably hard to get to know. It just takes me a long time to warm up to people...even if I like them -- and I do like her. The fact that she lives six hours away and we only see each other on holidays doesn't help.
I'm hoping things will change with time. I really would love to have a sister close to my own age.
FI has one sister. She's the baby of the family, 3 years younger than me and VERY shy. I hope to become closer in the future, but as of now, I don't think she has any interest in getting to be friends with me! Or maybe she does, but doesn't know how to. It's hard to say. FMIL did say that she hopes we get closer when we all go on a family holiday this summer.
FI has one sister and I love her, she's one of my BMs! She has 2 small children so she's busy a lot of the time but we hang out with she and her husband whenever we can!
We arent best friends, but we are friends. We all live in different states so we see eachother a few times a year. But we do chat on the phone and things like that. We are close in age and all in similar places in our lives, so it makes it a little easier to get along.
If you want a closer relationship, definetly reach out to them. Email and facebook make it sooo much easier to chat and keep in touch, if you arent really a phone person (like myself!). They will probably be happy to hear from you :)
He has two brothers and no sisters. I get along with all of his girl cousins and pretty much everyone he's related to, so I think if he did have a sister we'd get along as well. The problem with him only having brothers is THEIR future wives. One has a fiancee, who I've written about (on WB) in the past.. and the other one doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment.. So I'm hoping he'll date/marry someone I can be BFFs with! lol
FSIL and I do not get along. I really wish that it was different and that we could be friends but I don't think she wants to.
I am very jealous of those of you whou are close to your FSIL's.
DH has 7 sisters! haha but im pretty close with one - she lives in town and is 2 years younger than me and works with DH. we text and hang out but im not so close with the other 6 yet - working on it :)
I would justlet it go if you have already reached out to her and no responses. If you haven't, try to. And then if it doesn't go anywhere, let it go. I really believe SHE should welcome YOU to the family, but if she doesn't then why not try. But don't be too disappointed if you don't have a special relationship early on.
Oh and DH has 3 sisters, and 3 SILs. I'm close with 1 SIL, and 2 sisters. You can't be close with everyone sometimes. All you can do is try.
I have three future sister-in-laws. I probably talk/text them more often then my fiance does. We don't get to hang out often since we are about an hour and a half away and due to schedules, but we talk a lot. They are all going to be a bridesmaid in my wedding
My fiance has one sister and I really like her. But she's ten years younger than me (12 years younger than him) and lives 3,000 miles away, so while we get along well when we're together, I wouldn't really say we're friends. I feel like we probably will be fairly close in the future (hopefully!), but it's going to take some time.
I get along fine, but believe in keeping a safe distance. she will never be a BFF, after all blood will ALWAYS be thicker than water!!
I didn’t see an option for “she thinks I’m the slime sucking scum of the earth."
My DH doesn't have any sisters, thank the lord!!! I've actually never dated a guy with sisters my whole life which is the strangest thing.
On the flipside, my sister doesn't like our brothers wife (our SIL) at all. She's done a lot of things to snub us and while I don't really give a hoot my sister openly doesn't like her.
I used to be really close to DH's younger sister (she's the one that introduced us/set us up), but life got in the way and our phone calls are few & far inbetween...and we live about 12 hours apart. I'm on a good term with DH other sister, but we're not the type to call eachother chat. Maybe an occassional email here and there, but that's about it.
I am great friends with one of my SILs; hell, I like her better than my real sisters! I hardly ever (like once or twice a year) talk to my other SIL. We just don't have anything in common.
I can't stand my soon to be sister in-law she is 17 and has been in and out of juvie and now jail for the past 5 years ( i only met my fh 5 years ago and that was right after she went nuts). I did everything to be nice to her and she acts like she likes me but calles me every name underthe son behind my back. She has tryed breaking me and my fh up many times even setting him up by saying she wanted to hang and he would show up and his ex was their. She also had her friends call me saying my fh was cheating on me with them ( one time he was sitting right next to me and they said he was at their house lol) she is bipolar but her problem is not that because we have seen she plans most this stuff and she thinks the world is hers to control. She even threw a candle at my son who was 6 months old at the time. i don't know how to handle her any more. i don't want her at my wedding but not my choice
We get along. We have know each other for a while, even before I started dating Mr. Dear, but we aren't compatible enough to ever be BFF.
My FI is the youngest of nine... I haven't even met all the sisters. I've only met two and I met them at family gatherings and so now we are FB "friends". Only one of them, though, is coming to the wedding (as per my FI's instructions on invites). My FI's siblings aren't all close and live across the country.
I get along with my FI's sister. He lives out of town with her DH and children. When they come here to visit for the summer, we all hang out and we have fun, and the children love each other. We don't talk on the phone or text each other all the time or anything like that. All in all, we're cool and we like each other. That's enough for me :)
FI's sister is awesome. She lives on the west coast and we're in the midwest so I rarely get to see her, but when she's in town I love hanging out with her. Currently I don't call her or e-mail her for the heck of it, but I'm hoping that we'll eventually get close enough to do that.
FI's sister is just four months younger than me and she's a sweetheart. We're both very silly/dorky and we embrace and encourage each other's dorkiness! I loves her.
I used to long for a SIL, all the guys I had dated before DH never had any sisters and I was envious of others who had SIL's. HOWEVER, now that I have one, I want to give her back to whever the heck she came from!
My SIL and I started off having a good relationship even though there was 8 hour distance between us. However, when we got engaged, she was fine until my MIL got a hold of her, and now she is a mini me of my crazy MIL.
It's a shame because I do think if my MIL didn't destroy relationships then I could have been good friends with my SIL. At this point and time DH and I are estranged from his mother and sister, there is just too much toxic drama that comes with them.
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