Are you getting both parents a gift? Just the moms? What's standard protocol?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We havent a clue about this either! FI comes from a split home and has had a very distant relationship with his dad the past few years (who hasnt been involved in wedding planning at all). We are like do we still get him a gift?

We were thinking of getting nice picture frames or jewelry for our moms, and my dad/his step dad/ possibly his dad nice beer mugs or money clips. none of the gifts are super personal. We really just couldnt think of anything else. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I absolutely got ALL parents gifts, the dads deserve one just as much as the mom’s do. There’s no standard of what you should do but a common theme is a framed photo. I did various items for the different parents.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Both DH’s and my parents are still married to each other, so we got them each a really nice framed photo of them at the wedding (pretty standard from what I hear).  Then we also got the dads gifts that weren’t related to our wedding at all (sports memorabilia type things as both our dads are into sports) and I got the moms the same swarovski snowflake necklace I got my bridesmaids (our wedding was in December).

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I also have a question! It may be a silly question but…are these gifts given to them before or after the wedding?

Post # 7
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Newbee

We’re giving the all the parents photobooks from the wedding and writing something special in each book as a thank you. So those will be after the wedding for us anyways. What do you get parents that have everything?

Post # 9
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Busy bee

We are giving each parent a framed photo afterwards. 

My mother has been a godsend with helping out with everything. I am taking her with me the day before the wedding for a secret spa day!

 

Post # 10
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Newbee

regit45:  Probably ranging between $30-60, depending on how many pages you do. But I’ll have to double check with my sister in law, she did those for her wedding and everyone loved them.

Probably going to write my folks letters for them to open on the day of. Don’t know what my fiance has planned for his folks.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

On the day of the wedding I plan to give my parents and my FI’s parents a card, just thanking them for all their help and support not just with the wedding but over the span of our relationship. I’ll also be putting together a custom photo album for each one, I’m requesting the photographer do ‘siblings only’ and ‘family-specific’ photos, so that they can each have a custom album not just with all generic photos of my FI and I, but of their children and family members as well.

Beyond that, I have absolutely no idea.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re getting both sets of parent an album. Pricy, sure (almost $400/each!) but they both contributed a lot to our lives and wedding. plus we couldn’t think of anything else for his parents, ha! We’re giving them IOUs at the rehearsal dinner. I also am giving my mom, dad, as FMIL an embroidered hanky the day of in the morning from me alone.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

regit45:  I hadnt planned on doing “gifts” per say unless they were planning on giving a contribution for the wedding. In the beginning stages we told our parents we were paying for it ourselves…. and no one said anything about “oh well you know we’ll be giving you a little something”….and I did 100% of the planning myself (with my DH on the sidelines going “sure – sounds good – fine” lol) so I just planned on giving all the parents a nice card and maybe some flowers just as a “thanks for being there and all the support over the years”, but not a gift gift specifically because of the wedding. In the end it was a LOT more hectic then I thought it would be and I ended up just doing cards.

I did however make photobooks after we got our pictures back using myPublisher. I have my parents done, but I still need to make IL’s …..(I kind of geared each book towards each “side”…so my parents have more of my family, and his parents book his family….we had a LOT of pictures and its so hard to choose it would have been way too big putting equal amounts lol.

Works out to be like 30 bucks a pop with the discount coupons I keep getting via email (60-75% off) and they are really nice 🙂

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

regit45:  We are getting my parents/fi’s parents and my aunt and uncle a gift. our ceremony is in my aunt and uncles backyard. We are getting my parents (who are fronting the wedding) a voucher/gift certificate for this really ritzy botique hotel in one of their favorite cities… we got my aunt and uncle the same type of thing… we are still trying to figure out something for his parents…but we were thinking something along the lines like a handmade frame (with a picture from the wedding) or something like that…

 

lets bounce some ideas off each other!

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