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Lol you should wear whatever you want. Don't let old traditions dicate your happiness
The birdcage veils are very pretty and simple!
And yes I have heard that, but thats an old tradition....
p.s. Im an encore bride, and I am still wearing the white dress and veil.
I want to have great hair that day. No veil for me. And I don't care if I'm an encore bride or not..if my look is better WITH a veil, then I'd go for it.
What I WILL wear is a fascinator or fresh flowers in my hair and I wish to do a half up/half down do b/c I have long hair..
I want the longest veil they have! I love the way they look in pictures and I figure what the heck? I'm wearing my hair down with some sort of sweep back so I am not tempted to tuck it behind my ears and I just want the veil - the ONLY thing that will change my mind is if the super duper veil doesnt' look good with the dress I end up picking out. All the dresses I've seen with the veils I LOVE are for skinny girls and this encore bride hasn't seen a skinny day since Jr. High! But if the super duper veil is out of the question, I will still wear a veil - I don't have a dad walking me down the isle, so I probably won't have it over my face - although I LOVE the thought of him picking it up to kiss me after we say "I DO!". We shall see! I think that MAYBE my desire for the veil and dress is that I got married in the JPs garden with two Army buddies in jeans and a top. I wonder if I would care this much if I had the big thing the first time around or if we would just drive up to Vegas tomorrow and get it done?
I going to wear a veil for the ceremony but not the reception. Since I make birdcage veils and fascinators I will probably have something fun for the reception still :)
I didn't wear a veil for my first wedding so will not for my second, honestly I don't like veils.
Things are more relaxed nowadays when it comes to second weddings, if you want to wear a veil then I say go for it. It's your wedding day, so do what you and your FI want.
I'm wearing a birdcage veil, and toying with the idea of a more traditional veil for our reception.
We don't take many traditions literally anymore, so why make a big deal out of this one? A veil is a bridal accessory. Period. Much like a white dress, its purpose anymore is to make you look and feel like a bride.
So decide if you want to wear a veil based on how you feel about it as an accessory. We have so many more things to worry about -- how to be a good partner, plan for the future financially and emotionally, deal with the past, have a meaningful day... parking, food, drinks, etc -- I wouldn't add another one based solely on etiquette.
And if anyone whispers about it, they're assholes anyway. I mean, really, whispering about a veil during a commitment ceremony for people that you claim to love?
Do whatever you want!
I am probably wearing an elbow length veil, pinned to the back of my up-do with a pretty clip for the entire thing ~ ceremony and reception.
I think traditions like that went out with the "must wear white" stuff. It is YOUR day. Enjoy it!
I am not wearing a veil this time. Its not because I am an encore bride, but because I got a beautiful tiara, and with my dress, I think it would be too much. I think as an encore, do what goes with your dress and venue!
It's your wedding, so be sure to to do what you want. If someone has an issue over it, they can deal, as it's your special day!
I agree with Ms. Seaotter and Worsttwinever!
Wear what looks best..forget the old ideas and the days of wearing blah stuff for us encores are OVAH!!!! Can I get an amen?
I'm so glad that we are able to now have the freedom and creativity on our day.
When I first began looking around for encore wedding advice, all I found, I swear, were articles telling us to wear a "smart suit" or a dress more appropriate for a mother of the bride...Now I love suits..but only if that's what you want to wear (I love Miss MaryJane's jackie O look)..and of course who could forget Carrie in SITC with Big?
MJ- I am huge fan of the birdcage veil... and how cute would it be with a suit style that you might be wearing? Then you've got the veil, but it's not exactly the traditional veil and it would be so very chic!
Wear it! Who cares what you're "supposed to do or not do"? If you want to wear it, wear it. I'm all for the philosophy of: It's your day~anything goes. Your wedding is a reflection of your personal style. Good luck & post pics ;)
my hair isn't exactly "short" but I don't consider shoulder length long by any stretch of the imagination LOL. This is my 2nd (his first) and I did wear a long veil the 1st time. It was actually my mom's veil remade to fit with my wedding dress.
Since my dress is a short 50's inspired dress I am going to get a small birdcage. Hopefully just big enough to have something in my hair ... but not so big it needs to be "lifted" for our first kiss.
I'm going to wear the veil for the ceremony and might take it off for the reception. You should do what you want since it's your wedding. If you feel more comfortable not having one, then so be it. It's your day, not someone else's. Do what you feel best.
I am wearing a Victorian Tea hat with a bunched veil. I so love the hat. But I will be a 50 year old bride and frankly a traditional veil would look ridiculous on me! Here's the hat! And flowers, LOL
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I am so happy to read all these comments!! My fiancee wants me to wear a white dress even though I would be more comfortable with ivory or champagne just because I know someone will talk about it. I hadn't planned on wearing a veil but when I first went dress shopping over a year ago the sales lady at DB put one on me and both my mom and I were just like, "Wow." The dress didn't make me feel so much like a bride it was just a really pretty dress, but with the veil it was like, " OMG, I'm getting married!!" But, in a good way!
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I might think twice if you were planning on a cathedral-length veil with a blusher. But a birdcage veil would be super cute and totally appropriate!
I'm wearing not only a veil but a blusher--and I'll be 56 on my wedding day. In Jewish tradition, the bride always wears a veil over her face, no matter how many previous marriages there have been and no matter how old she is.
I agree (surprise, surprise) with Mrs. Cheese on this one. It's whatever YOU want and so many traditions are going out the window anyway...why let this one thing hang you up?
If YOU like the idea of a veil, then wear one.
I'm opting for a fingertip veil for the ceremony, and then probably no veil during the reception just for the sake of comfort and not having to keep up with the darn thing...
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I'm thinking about a birdcage veil for now, not sure what I will end up with but it will depend on the dress not on the fact that it's my second time.
I am also wearing a veil. I also wore a veil the first time. I don't see why not!!
I will wear whatever FI wants to see me in. He wont see the actual dress before the wedding but I will run ideas by him. If he wants to see his love walk down the aisle in white with a long veil, he will get that.
I think birdcage viels are adorable.
I'm not wearing a veil-I didn't really want to wear one because with my little ones being there (my twins are going to just turn 6 before our wedding), we will be hugging all day long and I didn't want it getting pulled on or having to fuss with it...besides, FI said he didn't really care for it and I was having a very difficult time to find one to wear with my dress! I'm going for a half up/half down with a fancy barrette.
@bluespurrs...you've already said your I do's, but I just love the tea hat!!!
i didnt wear a veil the first time... so i am definitely toying with the idea this time.. i already know how i want my hair and i think a veil would add so much more polish to the look.. and that is what i am alllll about!
And here wer are at the ceremony, in all our veiled glory. Absolutely no one said anything about it. Of course, it would have been hard for anyone to have figured out what "tradition" would have required in our case, since it was my second wedding but my wife's first.
I am not wearing a veil, and not because of the traditional reasons, I just don't like them, I am going to wear a small crystal head piece.
I want to wear a birdcage veil...with a feather/flower fascinator. Plan to diy all of it!
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I'm thinking a lot about hairstyles lately. While I know that a lot of the traditions for encore brides are dead (like "you can't wear a white dress" and "you have to have a small wedding"), I have heard and read in various places that encore brides should not wear a veil. It's supposed to be a tradition reserved for first time brides. (I did not wear a veil the first time though!)
Do you believe this? Have you heard it? And are you going to follow it?
My hair is pretty short. If I muster enough positive hair growth thoughts, it might make a decent chin-length inverted bob by fall. I'm trying to think of a nice hairpiece or style that will work for my wedding day. I'm not a headband kind of girl, but I'm considering barettes. In the back of my mind though, I'm wondering about a sassy little birdcage veil. The thing stopping me from placing an order (aside from my budget) is that I don't want to commit an encore bride fashion faux pas.
And yes, I know it is OUR DAY and we can do WHATEVER we want... but I still would like your thoughts on this.