Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I’m thinking a lot about hairstyles lately. While I know that a lot of the traditions for encore brides are dead (like "you can’t wear a white dress" and "you have to have a small wedding"), I have heard and read in various places that encore brides should not wear a veil. It’s supposed to be a tradition reserved for first time brides. (I did not wear a veil the first time though!)
Do you believe this? Have you heard it? And are you going to follow it?
My hair is pretty short. If I muster enough positive hair growth thoughts, it might make a decent chin-length inverted bob by fall. I’m trying to think of a nice hairpiece or style that will work for my wedding day. I’m not a headband kind of girl, but I’m considering barettes. In the back of my mind though, I’m wondering about a sassy little birdcage veil. The thing stopping me from placing an order (aside from my budget) is that I don’t want to commit an encore bride fashion faux pas.
And yes, I know it is OUR DAY and we can do WHATEVER we want… but I still would like your thoughts on this.
Post # 3
Lol you should wear whatever you want. Don’t let old traditions dicate your happiness
The birdcage veils are very pretty and simple!
And yes I have heard that, but thats an old tradition….
p.s. Im an encore bride, and I am still wearing the white dress and veil.
Post # 4
I want to have great hair that day. No veil for me. And I don’t care if I’m an encore bride or not..if my look is better WITH a veil, then I’d go for it.
What I WILL wear is a fascinator or fresh flowers in my hair and I wish to do a half up/half down do b/c I have long hair..
Post # 5
I want the longest veil they have! I love the way they look in pictures and I figure what the heck? I’m wearing my hair down with some sort of sweep back so I am not tempted to tuck it behind my ears and I just want the veil – the ONLY thing that will change my mind is if the super duper veil doesnt’ look good with the dress I end up picking out. All the dresses I’ve seen with the veils I LOVE are for skinny girls and this encore bride hasn’t seen a skinny day since Jr. High! But if the super duper veil is out of the question, I will still wear a veil – I don’t have a dad walking me down the isle, so I probably won’t have it over my face – although I LOVE the thought of him picking it up to kiss me after we say "I DO!". We shall see! I think that MAYBE my desire for the veil and dress is that I got married in the JPs garden with two Army buddies in jeans and a top. I wonder if I would care this much if I had the big thing the first time around or if we would just drive up to Vegas tomorrow and get it done?
Post # 6
I going to wear a veil for the ceremony but not the reception. Since I make birdcage veils and fascinators I will probably have something fun for the reception still 🙂
Post # 7
I didn’t wear a veil for my first wedding so will not for my second, honestly I don’t like veils.
Things are more relaxed nowadays when it comes to second weddings, if you want to wear a veil then I say go for it. It’s your wedding day, so do what you and your FI want.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on
I’m wearing a birdcage veil, and toying with the idea of a more traditional veil for our reception.
We don’t take many traditions literally anymore, so why make a big deal out of this one? A veil is a bridal accessory. Period. Much like a white dress, its purpose anymore is to make you look and feel like a bride.
So decide if you want to wear a veil based on how you feel about it as an accessory. We have so many more things to worry about — how to be a good partner, plan for the future financially and emotionally, deal with the past, have a meaningful day… parking, food, drinks, etc — I wouldn’t add another one based solely on etiquette.
And if anyone whispers about it, they’re assholes anyway. I mean, really, whispering about a veil during a commitment ceremony for people that you claim to love?
Post # 9
Do whatever you want!
I am probably wearing an elbow length veil, pinned to the back of my up-do with a pretty clip for the entire thing ~ ceremony and reception.
I think traditions like that went out with the "must wear white" stuff. It is YOUR day. Enjoy it!
Post # 10
I am not wearing a veil this time. Its not because I am an encore bride, but because I got a beautiful tiara, and with my dress, I think it would be too much. I think as an encore, do what goes with your dress and venue!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington
It’s your wedding, so be sure to to do what you want. If someone has an issue over it, they can deal, as it’s your special day!
Post # 12
I agree with Ms. Seaotter and Worsttwinever!
Wear what looks best..forget the old ideas and the days of wearing blah stuff for us encores are OVAH!!!! Can I get an amen?
I’m so glad that we are able to now have the freedom and creativity on our day.
When I first began looking around for encore wedding advice, all I found, I swear, were articles telling us to wear a "smart suit" or a dress more appropriate for a mother of the bride…Now I love suits..but only if that’s what you want to wear (I love Miss MaryJane’s jackie O look)..and of course who could forget Carrie in SITC with Big?
Post # 13
MJ- I am huge fan of the birdcage veil… and how cute would it be with a suit style that you might be wearing? Then you’ve got the veil, but it’s not exactly the traditional veil and it would be so very chic!
Post # 14
Wear it! Who cares what you’re "supposed to do or not do"? If you want to wear it, wear it. I’m all for the philosophy of: It’s your day~anything goes. Your wedding is a reflection of your personal style. Good luck & post pics 😉
Post # 15
A veil looks so pretty when the hubby moves it up for your 1st kiss!
Post # 16
It matches my encore (though modified) dress!