(Closed) Are you going to your cocktail hour?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Most likely not.  This is the time where we’ll sneak away to do pictures and get ready for the reception.  =)

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Tell her to shove off =)  We are for sure going to the entire cocktail hour, but thats just something we want to do.  Were in new york, and your are right its not very typical.  Most of the weddings we have been to the couple has not been to cocktail hour at all, and theres only a handfull where the couple shows up at the end.

Just do whatever you want to do and dont let other peoples comments bug you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Um, what?

Has your SIL ever been married? Or been to a wedding?

I’ve never ever been to a single wedding where the bride and groom made an appearance before the reception.

FI and I are using our entire cocktail hour to finish taking our bride and groom portraits, and then perhaps take a few minutes to chill out and eat some of the hors d’oeuvres before we head into the reception.

Actually, to me, the whole *point* of the cocktail hour is to give my guests something to do/snack on while I’m soaking in the fact that I’m MARRIED and taking photos lol.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is definitely NOT normal even her in the midwest. Most cocktail hours are used for pictures, at least every wedding I’ve been to that has had one was like that. I don’t think she knows what she’s talking about.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

On Long Island it’s VERY common to be at your cocktail hour so we will definitely be enjoying it along with our guests.  We’ll be taking pictures in between the church and start of cocktail hour and we’re paying for our wedding so I want to enjoy the celebration as much as I can.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I always thought the cocktail hour was to keep the guests busy while the wedding party was off taking pictures.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nope, logistically it doesn’t work for us. We’ll be using part of cocktail hour to take pictures and part to drive to the reception venue. By the time we get there it’ll be 7:00 and our reception ends at 10:30 so we want to get everything started as soon as we get there

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, she’s being silly.

We planned to go to half of our cocktail hour, but between starting the ceremony late, photos running over, and trouble with my bustle, we didn’t get to. Wish we got to a few minutes of it, though!!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Cocktail hour is always my favorite part of weddings, so I convinced FI that we have to make at least some of it. Most likely we’ll come in for the last 20 minutes or so. 

I don’t think your FSIL is right necessarily. At most weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom either don’t come to cocktail hour at all (and are introduced for the first time at the reception) or are there for only a short while and definitely don’t get to talk to each and every guest.  

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Your SIL hasn’t been to many weddings! In Jewish weddings you never do a receiving line. The reason is because there’s a tradition called “Yihud” and my FI and I will be observing it.

For Yihud after the ceremony the Bride and Groom leave first and hide away for 10-15 minutes or so. For us it’s just going to be a quiet time to relish the fact that we are MARRIED and have a few moments to appreciate each other.

Basically, we’re going to make out.  🙂

Then we’ll finish our photos while our guests enjoy cocktail hour, and see everyone at the reception.

It sounds like you planned to do a Yihud without realizing it! We will be greeting our guests at each table during the reception. You can even explain in your program, if you have one, that you’ll be taking a little breather instead of a receiving line.

And, despite what your SIL says, your wedding is about YOU!!

 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Nope, we want to make sure we get plenty of photos in….

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We did a first look so that we could attend our cocktail hour. We spent a lot of money on those hor d’oeurves and we were going to enjoy them. It’s not necessarily the norm for the B&G to be there but we really loved having that extra 45 minutes or so with our guests (we spent a few minutes after the ceremony taking additional pictures but it was quick).

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We did a first look, and I originally had planned for almost all of our pics to be taken prior to the ceremony so that we COULD attend our hors d’oeuvres hour. However, due to very heavy, holiday-weekend traffic/roadway accidents along our route and the fact that our venue was 1.5 hours from my salon, etc., we didn’t get to do a lot of the pics until after the ceremony.

Long story short, we not only missed the entire hors d’oeuvres hour but also much of our reception. I really wish we had been able to at least attend part of our hors d’oeuvres hour and a lot more of our reception. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sister in law needs to mind her business and at her wedding she could make those choices.

I been to a lot of weddings and the majority of the time the bride and groom with good reason don’t come to cocktail hour.

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