Are you happy now that you’re married?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Do you regret it?
    Yes? : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No? : (10 votes)
    25 %
    Wouldn't change it for the world! : (29 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    11740 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ll be honest here – nothing changed for us other than my name.  We already lived together, had joint finances, and had life goals.  We had alredy ironed out all of our issues.  I was happy then, and I am happy now. 

    This isn’t to say I don’t love being married, just that in my head, nothing really changed for us.  I wouldn’t go back because the legal significance is important to me.

    Post # 3
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nothing changed for us. Our relationship was already awesome (which I think is essential, pre-marriage), we already had lived together for years, had a daughter, careers, a house.

    My name changed, and we were a little more broke, but otherwise, life returned to its same normalcy the next day!

    Post # 4
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    abbie017:  +1, We already had a house together, joint accounts, etc., so it’s just made things easier for us (i.e. taxes, health insurance, etc).

    Post # 5
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nothing changed. We had already lived together since buying our house a couple years ago, so we didn’t expect anything to change. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Dude fix the question on the poll to match the thread title. Otherwise you’re asking “are you happy?” someone votes yes, then they realize they just voted “yes, I regret it”. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    588 posts
    Busy bee

    Nothing changed for us. I didn’t even change my name. We lived together before marriage – had for many years – so no aspect of our relationship changed post-marriage. I’m glad we did it – it was nice to bring our two families together, but *we* were already family. The wedding/marriage certificate didn’t change that.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    BluebonnetBride:  +1 The poll is initially confusing. 

    Nothing changed for us other than my last name. We are buying a home soon, but we did live together for 5 years before marriage. We have combined some of our finances, but not all of them. Oh and we officially designated each other as benificiaries on everything (before it was just on a few things).

    Post # 10
    Member
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    My FI and I lived 2 hours apart while we were both in school. I graduated in December and moved in with him after our wedding in January. A lot is different for us. Different name/titles, I am living in a different city, we now have joint accounts, and we are living together. It has been amazing to transition into a married couple. We are traditional and I am glad we waited to live together until we were married. It has been very fun and exciting. I don’t feel like I have really learned anything new about him as we have been together for 7 years.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wasn’t unhappy before. We didn’t have any issues that needed to be solved. And certainly didn’t think marriage was the answer to relationship issues.

    No regrets on gettinv married.

    Post # 13
    Member
    588 posts
    Busy bee

    oxstardust421xo:  It’s confusing because “Are you happy now that you’re married?” is above the poll in huge letters, which sort of makes you expect that’s going to be the poll question.

    Post # 14
    Member
    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    oxstardust421xo:  OMG I am SO sorry to offend you. I MUST have thought you were a gentleman with my rude use of “dude” but CLEARLY you are not. 

    And yes it’s confusing because your thread title  asks the opposite question. Yes, it’s possible to figure it out but just a heads up the next time you make a poll.

    Post # 15
    Member
    4834 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not much changed, but we couldn’t be happier. Honestly, we didn’t have many issues that needed to be fixed, even before we were engaged. We have been together for 5.5 years and the only thing that has changed is that we have gotten closer and more like a family after being together so long, getting engaged, and now being married. We have been through a huge transition year- I finished my PhD, we moved across the country for a job, he was unemployed for two months, then I quit my job and was unemployed for a while- and are still super happy and love being married. I would never think that getting married (or having a baby) would help fix any underlying problems….

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