Post # 1
I’ll preface this by saying that I don’t come from a ethnic background where you invite a lot of extended family and friends and end up witha guest list of 700 people. (not stereotyping, but this is often the case with some cultural backgrounds)
Our guest list is 270 people. Now, to some, this isn’t a big wedding, but where I’m from it is… it will fill the church to capacity and the hall will be ‘cozy’ lol
When people ask if the wedding is big, I laugh and say, ‘well yeah, 270’
Usually I’m met with a skeptical eye or a snarky comment about the size…
I usually end up being defensive, like I have to justify why we invited all our family and friends. Our family is big, and we are close with all our cousins and aunts and uncles (small community, everyone lives close) as well, we have a lot of friends (this isn’t a big problem to have right?lol)
I really want a big wedding. I really want all those people there. There isn’t a single person coming that we don’t know well. No one is invited out of obligation. We’re not having a lavish fancy wedding, just a large guest list! I’m really looking forward to having a big shindig!
Anyone else feel this way?
I think, to each their own. No matter what size wedding you are having, do it because you choose to.
ok. I’m done. 🙂
Post # 3
I feel the same way you do! My list isn’t as large as yours… It will probably be around 150-200 when all is said and done, but many people I’ve talked to (in person, not on the bee!!) have given me the eye roll and said why so big? why so many people?
This is not a big fancy affair by any means. We’ll be on a tight budget just like most other people! We just have a lot of family and a lot of friends that we could not imagine not having with us on the day that we get married!
Post # 4
I say good for you that you have so many people that want to share your day with you and your soon-to-be 🙂
I think most people tend to think big wedding = expensive/lavish wedding and are snarky about that.
Post # 5
After reading over my post, I realized that the first sentence may have come off snarky. I didn’t mean it that way at all. I really am happy that you have so many people that want to join you in celebrating that day. As someone who has the opposite, I’m truly envious 🙂
Post # 6
haha, no problem Tulip. I didn’t think that.
I think that’s how I feel really. Good for us that we have so many people that want to share our day!
Post # 7
You know what’s funny is I got the same comments from people about my ‘big’ 140-person affair and the worst offender was from an aunt who had an even bigger wedding herself!
Post # 8
Absolutely! What we wanted the most was to be able to invite all of our friends and family, and it turned out to be the best celebration I have ever been to! That was our dream, and we were so blessed to be able to make it happen.