Post # 1
Today, when I was in the waiting room at my doctor’s appt another patient complimented my ring. She said her first ring was a 2.0 ctw cluster with a plain single-shank band and she loved it, at first, but after getting so many negative comments from other people she had her FI exchange it for the .75 solitaire she was wearing. She said she loves her solitiare, but she regrets not keeping her cluster. She asked me if I’ve ever received negative opinions about my cluster and I said, I have, but my heart and mind arent governed by other people’s opioion as it relates to my ring because sometimes other people’s opinion can cause you to make some not so wise decisions. So my questions to you lovely Bees are: Do you e
ver wish your FI had chosen you a different style ring or a bigger stone? If you aren’t happy with your ering, are you going to tell your FI to exchange it for something else, or are you just going to keep it and try to learn to love it?
Post # 3
@SoNLoveWithHim: When I first got my E-Ring which was this time last year…. whoo hoo, I was a little unhappy with the band, it was a plain 2mm band and I have long fingers size 9.5. I put the feelers out with him to see about getting a thicker band and I could tell that would have been a bone of contention because he would have felt like what he did for me wasnt good enough. So I decided to let it go and love my thin band with my 1 cart cushion cut diamond, so where I made up for finger coverage is with my stackable bands.
Funny is, he just asked me a week ago if I wanted a different setting for my solitaire and I told him”no”, I love it the way it is, the thin band gives me so many options with my stackables.
Who new…. Sometimes I think we have to learn to be happy with what we have and be content…. People need to learn to zip it….. we all have different taste.
Now the question is, would the men realy be ok with us changing it out… I think many men would go along with it to make their women happy, but are thier feelings secretly hurt? just food for thought.
Post # 4
After being with my fiance for over 13 years, he definitely knew by now what I wanted. lol! I initally wanted a soltaire but after looking at them in jewelry stores I felt like I wanted something more interesting, so I ultimately decided on a round halo with just a 1ct center diamond. I love it and wouldn’t change it!
I would never change my ring based on the opinion of others.
Post # 5
Yep! I love what he picked out. He did a great job.
Post # 6
@creeative1: I think some would have secretly hurt feelings! Yesterday, when FI and I were at the jewelry store discussing my wedding bands, he asked me if I ever wish I had not told him I wanted a cluster and asked for a solitaire instead. I couldn’t get the words “Hell No” out of my mouth fast enough; not because I got beef with those beautiful solitaires, but rather because I appreciate what he chose for me. Like you said, “…Sometimes, we just need to learn to be happy/content with what we have…
Post # 7
IF my FI had chosen a ring for me, I have no idea how I’d feel about it.
But I have fairly unique taste, and it was important to FI that I love it aesthetically as well as symbolically, so he was more comfortable proposing with a stand-in and letting me choose my ring after we were engaged. For us, that was perfect.
So I know there are plenty of men, though not all, who genuinely don’t care if their FI wants a different ring than the one they proposed with. The most important thing is for their FI to be happy 🙂
Post # 9
I love my ring but the side stones don’t match completely (one is a little longer than the other) and sometimes I wish they were a little smaller to help the center stone shine… you can tell a bit in this photo:
When I joined weddingbee, I realized there were SO MANY MORE options and stone choices and settings and blah de blah. We didn’t shop together and I didn’t do much looking around pre-proposal so now I have such a better idea of what I want…
I have told him I want an “upgrade” and he gets a little annoyed… he tells me I can get an upgrade when he gets a fancy watch he’s been wanting (about $5K).
Basically I shop on eBay and dream about other stones and we’re saving for a house so I doubt it will happen but I love the idea of getting a custom made ring.
I love lots of ring styles and shapes and they all would represent the love we have and commitment we share so I don’t think it will be a big drama or bit of contension when I come to changing my ring… I know it will happen, I’m not pushing it for ASAP but kind of shopping for it for our 10yr anniversary of being together in 2015 -not our wedding anniversary cuz that wouldn’t be til 2022!
I think a girl should be happy! I wouldn’t make him wear something I bought for him that he didn’t LOVE just because I bought it… I’d like his happiness (aka mine) be considered!
Post # 10
I am SERIOUSLY in love with my ring. I spam it everywhere!
Luckily it’s a pretty common design, so I’ve never gotten any negative comments about it! (1ct center with 5 channel-set stones on each side)
Post # 11
My fiancé has let me choose exactly what I want. He’s probably been way too gracious. 😉 but I would have been happy with whatever he picked out if he hadnt given me the option to choose exactly what I want.
Post # 12
@SoNLoveWithHim: I was pretty direct with FH when he first started fishing around for ideas. Said I wanted a solitaire of a certain minimum size. From there it was his doing. I was actually really blown away by the ring he got me. He did great! If I had a say, I probably would have chosen a bling-free band and probably a lower setting as well but heck, a girl can’t have EVERYTHING!
Post # 13
@SoNLoveWithHim: My ring is perfect. I would never want anything else. He knew the style I liked though before he got it.
Post # 14
We went shopping together for rings once so he could get an idea of what I liked but he wanted to be the one to pick it out. I prefered solitaires so that’s what he got me. He almost got me a cushion in a halo, but he took my 2 best friends with him and they convinced him to get the solitaire.
Sometimes when I look on this site and see the beautiful halos I wish he had gotten me a halo instead because I think my solitaire is boring. I know he’s really proud of what he picked out so maybe in a few years I’ll get a halo setting if I still want one and if he doesn’t mind. I would never want to hurt his feelings and I know he’s the type that probably would think if I wanted to change it today that what he got isn’t good enough. Maybe in a few years he’ll feel differently. In the meantime though, I really do love my ring and the thought he put into it.
Post # 15
@SoNLoveWithHim: I am so glad you went that route….because sometimes people including our mates are offended and we have no clue… and glad you love your ring…. At the end of the day, the ring is a symbol of his love for you… not a measure of his love… plenty of peole with big solitiares are divorced and stuck with a ring they can’t sell.
Post # 16
@SoNLoveWithHim: I know my ring is not everyone’s taste and while I haven’t heard actually negative comments, I have experienced some people only saying something like “Wow. That’s really unique” which I know is there way of not having much to say. I’m fine with that. I love my ring because it’s what my FI picked out for me and it reflects both him and how he sees me. Other people don’t have to wear my ring, so I don’t see any point in worrying about what they think.