Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided not to have a head table at our wedding. I don’t really want a bunch of people (albeit, they are my friends and family…but that’s besides the point) staring at me while I eat my dinner. When my brother got married he and his wife did the sweetheart table, which we all dubbed "the kiddie table". It looked rather silly, but mostly because there wasn’t great lighting.
My fiance and I have decided that we will sit with our families. We have been together for five years and friends for nearly 10 and our families have become quite close. We even do our Christmas dinners together! So I’ll have my mom on one side of me and my guy on the other! He’ll have his mom or dad on his side too. We are also going to have the grandparents seated with us. Afterall, a wedding is supposed to be about bringing family together – and what better way than to have our first meal together as an "official" family.
I also wanted my bridal party to be able to sit with their significant others at the dinner. There’s really no need for them to eat dinner at the same table with us – they did their duty at the ceremony! It’s time to eat, drink and be merry!
Any opinions on this? I know that everyone has differing opinions, but I thought I’d see if anyone else is going the same route I am.
Post # 3
We decided to do a sweetheart table, but it will not be under a spotlight, but off to the side of the dance floor. It doesn’t matter where you eat your dinner – your guests are still going to stare – wherever you are. At least your way, you won’t "feel" like you’re the center of attention and it may help you relax.
Post # 4
We are doing a sweetheart table as well. Our bridal party will be seated with their significant others at the table beside us. We will have 2 head tables…one for the groom’s side and one for the brides side, but the way the tables line up, they will be behind the sweetheart table and table #2 on either side will be the bridal party/grooms party with their SO…that way everyone’s happy! I hope! Thanks for reminding me about the whole spotlight thing…I’m not sure if we’re going to actually have a spotlight! But I’m all about people watching me eat! Heck, if I paid for the food, I’m going to eat it! And if I don’t I’m going to doggy bag it! =D
Post # 5
We’re doing a sweetheart table too. We’re seating our small bridal party with their husbands/wives.
Post # 6
I really didn’t want to do a head table/sweatheart table. I am very uncomfortable with being the center of attention and I didn’t want our bridal party to be separated from their SOs. But FI really wanted a headtable. So we compromised.
We’re doing a headtable with our bridal party AND their significant others. Because it’s impossible to do a Looooooooong table, we are doing the two rows kinda head table (i hope that makes sense ). We will be sitting in one row with MOH, her hubby, Best man, and his SO. The rest of the bridal party with their dates/SOs, will be in front of us.
Post # 7
Yeah we settled on having a headtable only b/c we knew that we wouldn’t be sitting down anyway. I orginally wanted a Kings table, which is one large table holding up to 14 people. 6 on either side and 2 at the end but realized that it would be to large and take up to much room. I agree with many about being uncomfortable being the center of attention…but the reality of it all is that no matter where you sit you will be the center of attention.
Post # 8
We had one. Because only three of our wedding party brought SO’s, we were able to seat the SO’s at the table with us, and not have an enormously long table. It was kind of unavoidable, the way our room was laid out. I didn’t feel people stared at us except during the "glass clinking = kiss" portions of the evening, so it wasn’t any worse than any other table would’ve been. We didn’t sit there for long anyway, spent most of our time mingling.
Post # 9
We did our reception cocktail style, so it was open seating all around. Our wedding party got to sit w/ their SO’s wherever and with whomever they wanted. (We reserved 2 tables for our parents to "host" and reserved the seats for older relatives, etc.) We had a sweetheart table which pretty much just served as the designated place to leave our toasting flutes and food (which were magically refilled and replenished by the catering staff, something I could really get used to!). I seriously sat at that table for a grand total of maybe 20 minutes throughout the whole reception. We mostly mingled and danced.
Post # 10
We are having a head table with our bridal party, but we will have people on both sides. We had 3 people each so it won’t be too huge – just 6 on each side.