Post # 1
Just wondering…because my wedding book said they’re not really necessary. Our trouble is that (a) we’re on a tighter budget, so holding it at a restaurant is pretty much out of the question, and (b) we’re flying in from out of town for our wedding and don’t really have a “home” to host it at.
Any ideas on how to get around this? Should we skip the rehearsal dinner altogether?
Post # 3
A lot of people nowadays do not have rehearsal dinners. We had one but I don’t think they’re really necessary.
Since you’re flying in from out of town you have the perfect excuse not to have one.
We had ours at a restaurant/bar and we had pizza, beer and appetizers so it doens’t have to be formal and expensive.
Post # 4
i think its nice to have something if the rehersal is at or around dinner time, since people are traveling for you. could you see if your hotel has a smaller conference room or social space you can use and maybe order pizza and some non alcoholic drinks? those spaces are usually free if you’re a guest (esp if its later in the evening) and it would be very cheap.
Post # 5
we are having one and inviting all out of town guests that may have arrived by then; pizza and beer at our one of our favorite restaurants. Maybe 20 people max (only have a honor attendant and best man). Just an excuse to hand with everyone at a nice casual and fun setting.
Post # 6
@country chic: I’m glad to hear that it’s OK not to have one. It’s so stressful planning things from a distance as it is. I also think my friends/family are understanding about our financial and travel situation.
@bostongirl27: That IS a really good idea. I hadn’t considered it. I’m not sure where we’re staying, but I will look into that. It definitely sounds financially feasible and not too stressful at all.
Post # 7
Our RD is going to be rather inexpensive, under $500. We’re doing it at a local sports bar, they have a few rooms, so they’re closing off one of the rooms for us (at no charge) and we’re just serving apps/fingers foods. We’re not having an actual sit down dinner. We’ll just be ordering food by the tray.. we’re not sure about the drink situation yet, whether it’ll be open bar.. or 2 drinks per person..
Maybe you could see if there is a local bar or sports bar nearby that could do something informal like that.
Post # 8
We’re doing our rehearsal “dinner” in my sisters back yard. Just appetizers! 🙂
Post # 9
@X0JLYNN03: You basically described what we had, except we had pizza too 🙂 We had pitchers of beer and soda so that also kept the cost down. If someone wanted a mixed drink or wine they ordered and paid for it themselves from the bar.
Post # 10
@hopestruck: I do think you need to host a rehearsal dinner for those who are participating in the rehearsal, if the rehearsal will be the afternoon before the wedding. Other Bees have already posted great suggestions for keeping the cost down.
Post # 11
We just ordered pizzas and brought them to the venue right after we were done rehersing, also very do-able at any public park. It doesn’t have to be fancy. I think that if you have people who are coming in, esspecially that you don’t see very often it is nice to do something. More as an extra, thank you so much for traveling and being a part of our wedding, sort of thing.
Post # 12
We are not having one. We don’t see the need and many of our guests are flying in on friday evening and won’t be able to make it anyway, we don’t want anyone to feel stressed about having to show up to that.
Post # 13
It looks like we’ll be paying for ours with a little help from FI’s dad, so to say the least, it’ll be on a budget.
My BIL is nationally ranked smoking BBQ, so we’re thinking we’ll do it at a public park (free rental of covered picnic area), pay for the bbq and food, pay for any decorations, and pay for booze and drinks. it’ll be super low-key and relaxed, which is exactly what I want for our rehearsal dinner; I don’t want to be stressed about this aspect of the weekend. And then we’re hoping to put in our welcome baskets a place for everyone (anyone who wants to come- rehearsal will be people in the wedding only) to meet up later in the evening to have drinks at a bar near the hotel we’re blocking.
I think you should at least go somewhere after because people will expect something…but it doesn’t have to be fancy!!
Post # 14
we are having one but it’ll be at our house and just really low key. nothing big or fancy. Just the families hanging out before the big day. And getting a little face time with Fh before spending the night apart (not really liking that idea but that’s a whole other story).
Post # 15
We had one, but really only invited our bridal party, their spouses and our parents, so just the 13 of us. You could do something casual like pizza, and it wouldn’t be too too expensive.
Post # 16
Well if you’re having a rehersal but not the dinner that’s fine, you could always just order in food to the location your rehearsing at – pizza, burgers, even chinese food. 🙂