Are you having any pre- or post-wedding events?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are having a rehearsal dinner the evening before with bridal party, immediate family and aunts/uncles/ first cousins, which also includes almost all the out of towners. This way there’s more time to visit with those who came so far! We won’t be having a brunch the day after, but I’ve been to a few weddings where there was a breakfast the day after but they were generally destination weddings. Hope that helps!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We will have some kind of rehearsal and maybe dinner depending what time it’s at, but nothing after the wedding. My FMIL asked if we were going to plan something and I am not at all interested in having to wake up and be ready for a certain time the next morning!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m not sure what we’re going to do, but for my brother’s recent wedding, my parents had a small informal get-together at their house on Thursday evening, as all of our relatives were getting in on Thursday.  This was nice because my brother and his FI got to see everyone in a relaxed, informal setting (as the rehearsal dinner had more people (friends, etc.)), and then they didn’t have to worry about getting ready for a brunch the day after the wedding, when they were exhausted (as were the guests).  It worked well, and I’d like to do something similar for my big day.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re just having a really informal rehearsal dinner the night before. FI and I are leaving for Chicago the next morning (get ready > breakfast > bank > quick stop at home > Chicago), so there’s no way we’re going to want to hang out with other people, haha.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Our wedding isn’t destination, but its about 2-3 hours out of town, so everyone will be traveling and staying the night on Saturday.  On Friday night, we aren’t doing a rehearsal.  But, we are encouraging everyone to make it a weekend trip and will be doing a welcome reception at the hotel.  It will just be drinks and light snacks, from 7-10.  As of now, we aren’t doing anything on Sunday, but that may change, we’ll see!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our wedding was Sunday and Monday was Memorial Day.  We had our rehearsal Friday and had everyone over for tacos and beer on Saturday.  Monday slept in and had lunch at the hotel and let everyone else get out and enjoy the city. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

We are doing a destination wedding, and we are hosting Easter dinner for all of the guests on the Sunday before the wedding. Then on Monday and Tuesday, we have organized tours in Rome that anyone is welcome to join us on, and Wednesdy and Friday we have some more casual “exploring the towns” type stuff planned. The wedding is Thursday. I think we will also do a little farewell breakfast on Saturday before everyone breaks off- some people heading to the airport, others are heading to other destinations.

 

 

 

As far as paying for stuff goes, we are paying for the Easter dinner and farewell brekfast. All of the tours in between, people are responsible to pay their own way if they would like to join us, but it is there as an option, since many people from our families haven’t really traveled before.

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did a welcome dinner the night before (we didn’t have a rehearsal because our ceremony was short and straight forward) as well as a thank you brunch the morning after.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Skittles131:  Ours is a “half” destination wedding. It is near my fiance’s hometown, but it is in Ireland – so a different country for everyone on my side. 

Because of this it was important for us to do a few events. We live far away from his friends and family so we watned to make sure we had more time with them and wanted to provide a good time for all those traveling. 

 

Wednesday night beforehand we are doing a boat ride/cruise on a lake. 

Thursday night beforehand is the rehearsal dinner

Friday – WEDDING!

Saturday – Day after. Gathering at a pub for lunch with live music. We are not paying for food on saturday and we negotiated with the pub to have live music in exchange for bringing lots of paying patrons. 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Only the rehearsal and dinner the night before.  Just with the bridal party and immediate family only.

Post # 13
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

In retrospect, I would have loved to have done a brunch the next morning, but we hopped an early AM flight to Maui for our honeymoon instead.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Skittles131:  We are having a welcome dinner in lieu of a rehearsal so we could invite all the out of town and in town family.  We are getting married on a Sunday, so no post-wedding events.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Ours is a semi-destination wedding (at least half of the guests are traveling 4 hours by car or a plane flight PLUS 1-5 hours by car).  So we’re doing a hike and swimming afternoon on Thursday, a family members brunch Friday late morning, a welcome dinner BBQ for the whole guest list Friday night, the wedding and reception saturday, and a bagel breakfast on Sunday.  

We’re really trying to keep costs down, but it didn’t seem right to ask people to travel across the country to a middle-of-nowhere place for only a few hours of events…

Post # 16
mswallabyBee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@Skittles131:  For us a brunch the morning after would’ve totally broken the bank. So when we reserved a block of hotel rooms for our families and out-of-town guests, we chose a hotel that served free breakfast (woohoo!). We met everyone in the breakfast area at a designated time the next day and got to visit more, without the pressure of it being a formal event and without having to foot yet another bill.

We had a rehearsal dinner for our families, the bridal party, and out-of-town guests the night before the wedding, immediately after our rehearsal at the venue. We hosted the event at a relatively fancy restaurant because we wanted something special for all these people who were shelling out $$$ to attend/be in our wedding. BUt I don’t think a fancy rehearsal dinner is necessary at all – you can order some large pizzas after your rehearsal dinner and most people should be happy campers.

I think the most common time for a rehearsal for a Saturday night wedding is on Friday night, i.e. the evening before. That should be easier for most of your family and wedding party to attend – a Wednesday or Thursday night might be tougher with people’s work schedules and childcare. Make sure to figure that in!

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