(Closed) Are you incorporating your children in the ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Encore
Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

yeah i am a "single mom" (not so single now that i’m engaged, lol!) so my fiancee is hoping to adopt. so far it looks like it’s going to happen! 🙂

my son is going to be the king of the rings, and we are going to have vows for him to say (he’ll be 3, so nothing too crazy), the sand ceremony, and we’re going to give him his own little ring. we’re going to call it his "family ring", and i’m planning on engraving it. he’s also on the invitations (it says: …bride and groom, along with son, at their marriage and joining ceremony…) Let me know if you want more info on the wording! i actually found a really good site:

http://versethis.com/Verses.cfm?Cat=19&SubCat=48&SR=6

(I’ve already led you to the different wordings for couples with children!). We’re thinking of putting one of the child’s perspective kinds on the STD because I think they’re adorable but a little too casual for us!

Finally, we are having a dance with him, in additional to the traditional (first dance, father daughter, mother son). we are calling it the Mommy/Son (You’re Gonna Be by Reba McIntire) & Father/Son (The Man He Didn’t Have to Be). At first I was worried our guests would get bored, but we are reorganizing things so that the dances are separated a little more than usual. Besides, I am pretty confident that the majority of the girls there (and prob my guy friends) will be having a cry fest (happy cry!) with those songs. They were my support group as a single mom and everything I’ve been through with his biodad (aka spermdonor), so we’re really trying to celebrate and thank them.

Wow this was long and detailed. I hope it helps, though. We’ve been trying really hard to think of cool ideas for little man. Let me know if you can think of any more! 🙂 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

FI and I were just discussing this over the weekend.  We both have two children.  We are thinking that his daughter will be one of my bridesmaids (she’ll be 10 y.o. at the wedding) and his son will be one of his groomsmen (he’ll be 8 y.o.).  We aren’t quite sure about the roles for my two boys yet (they’ll be 6.5 and 4) I’m thinking they’ll either give me away or be the ring bearers.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My FI has two boys and we are going to be including them in the ceremony. They will be escorting their dad to the alter then we plan on having them pour sand with us. I also wanted to do something similar to parental vows with them but given their ages (7 & 12) I think that might embarass them so I am going to pull each one of them aside before the ceremony and do private parental vows with them. I too wanted to make sure that they are included in the entire day.

Post # 7
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

unity sand ceremony between the 3 of us

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I definitely don’t have kids, but I can throw in the other perspective! When both my parents re-married, I was just a BM of sorts. With my mom’s it was so small and casual that I felt plenty included since I was the only BM and all. With my dad’s, it was a huge wedding, I was one of 2 jr BM’s and there were at least 7 reg BM’s. So I guess in retrospect I don’t feel like I was included much at all, but I’m also more sensitive to it because that’s how it’s been ever since. I was MUCH closer to my dad before he remarried. I love all the things ya’ll are doing! I would definitely have loved to have done any of these, and would especially love to be able to look back on them now that I’m grown and understand how much they mean. Ya’ll are great!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

She doesn’t know it yet, but my daughter is going to be my MOH – I’m waiting to get everything set in stone with the date before I tell her.

We are also going to do the sand thing and I’m thinking about doing some sort of ring for her as well.  She will be 13 so it’s tricky with what she will be feeling at that time.

I loved the verse it site – we are doing very simple and nothing formal, so I may have to put it as her asking the people to come.

 

 

Post # 12
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Little Girl is going to carry my train and we’re going to give her a locket durring the ring exchange. We’re also planing a Dad’s dance where Little Girl is going to dance with Dad 1, 2 and 3.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My FH has two sons, ages 11 and 15, and they will walk down the aisle with him. Then after our officiant says his little spiel about marriage, they will join us and he will give a short speech about the importance of family.  At the reception, I will have dance with them during my FH’s dance with his mother.

Post # 14
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

My 13 yr old daughter was a junior bridesmaid, she walked (carried) our 18 month old son down the aisle, he was our ringbearer. We had a sand ceremony uniting our family. I had originally wanted to do the family medallion thing but my husband really wanted the ceremony to be short so I cut it out along with some readings.

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Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Angee, that pic is amazing.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

malheurrose-thanks so much, i have a great pic of my husband who has this hilarious look on his face because he has no idea what is going on, too bad it wont let me upload it!

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