(Closed) Are you intending to have kids,already have kids or are you staying childfree?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Please pick one of the following that pertains to you and your spouse. Thank you.
    I have a child/children and will have more. : (45 votes)
    9 %
    I have a child/children and will not be having any more. : (16 votes)
    3 %
    One of us is childless but the other has children. : (15 votes)
    3 %
    We both have children. : (3 votes)
    1 %
    We have chosen not to have any children. : (65 votes)
    13 %
    We will see what happens. if we get pregnant then we'll have one or more. : (46 votes)
    9 %
    We plan to have children together but have none right now. : (295 votes)
    60 %
    Our children are grown and moved out. : (2 votes)
    0 %
    We are choosing to adopt. : (5 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We have a child and plan to have another, but I don’t think that makes us more of a family than a couple who chooses not to have children. Some people really don’t understand the childfree mentality, and it really sucks that they’re being so silly about you getting married without planning to have kids. Families come in all different varieties.

    Post # 4
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    There’s no poll.

    We have chosen to be childfree but we realize our minds might change down the road.

    Post # 5
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee


    We don’t want any bio children, will adopt if we are able to afford to live our lives in the way we desire and raise kids.

    Post # 6
    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We want kids eventually, but none right now. I used to never want kids and I was called selfish for it. People can be pretty judgmental about other people’s decisions not to have kids, unfortunately.

    Post # 7
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @bunnyharriet:  I totally got the “then what’s the point in getting married” crap just the other day! Ummm….maybe because you love the person and don’t want to be without them?!

    I’m from a HUGE mexican family so of course I’ve gotten loads of crap about not really wanting to have children. We have considered adoption and know there’s a possibility of us changing our minds, but it just amazes me how people put so much effort into telling you how to live your life or go about your marriage!

    Post # 9
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We have one Dirty Delete who will be 8 in a few short weeks (!!!), and plan to TTC #2 (FINALLY!!!) on the wedding night, and however-long-after until we get our BFP, lol.

    Post # 10
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Darling Husband and I plan to have children.  We have both always wanted them.

    Post # 11
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I have always always always known I have wanted children. Neither of us have any yet, but we are both super excited for the day when we will. Darling Husband has baby fever almost more than I do now that we’re married!

    That being said, I know a lot of couples who don’t want and never will have kids.

    Post # 12
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re in the process of deciding.  It wouldn’t be on my radar if not for my mid-30s age.  I think I want to be a mother, but the childfree by choice logic makes SO much sense to me.  I’ve also heard the no point to marriage if no kids line.  I disagree 100%.

    Post # 13
    10565 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We’re leaning towards no kids, but things may change.

    Post # 14
    2903 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Right now we are leaning towards no children because of his family genetic issues. Adoption might be an option… but even then, I have heard horror stories. So we thought about a “snowflake” baby…but apparently Obama is going to stop the funding for that….so I don’t know…

    I married him because I love him…not so that we can have children…so I disagree about there being “no point”. My grandmother asked me the same thing actually. 

    Post # 15
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Currently, Darling Husband and I are undecided on whether or not we want children.  We talk about it often but have not been able to come a definite decision either way.  (there’s no poll option for that).

    When we dated and got married we both agreed that we wanted children but in the last year something changed for both of us and we are no longer sure.  I think the better our relationship and our life gets the less we want to ruin/change it by having children. I guess that really tells you where our head is at if we look at children as detracting from life and not adding to it. Maybe our views will change in a few years.

    Post # 16
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Regina Phalange:  I hear you on this – I used to not want children but now with SO I do want one or two.  Of course, now that this is the case I get “Oooh, NOW you want kids, is the world coming to an end?”  Um, no, before I didn’t have any desire to pro-create with another human being, and now that I am in love with SO, I do.  Get over it, people.

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