Post # 1
My SO and I have chosen not to have children and we get crap for it. We don’t want to deal with everything that comes with having a child. Some people have even suggested “there’s no point” in getting married since we won’t be having kids. We can’t be the only ones getting married but deciding to stay childfree. I am curious how common it is so please respond to the poll. Thanks 🙂
Getting married on our 10 year anniversary 7-4-14
Post # 3
We have a child and plan to have another, but I don’t think that makes us more of a family than a couple who chooses not to have children. Some people really don’t understand the childfree mentality, and it really sucks that they’re being so silly about you getting married without planning to have kids. Families come in all different varieties.
Post # 4
There’s no poll.
We have chosen to be childfree but we realize our minds might change down the road.
Post # 5
We don’t want any bio children, will adopt if we are able to afford to live our lives in the way we desire and raise kids.
Post # 6
We want kids eventually, but none right now. I used to never want kids and I was called selfish for it. People can be pretty judgmental about other people’s decisions not to have kids, unfortunately.
Post # 7
@bunnyharriet: I totally got the “then what’s the point in getting married” crap just the other day! Ummm….maybe because you love the person and don’t want to be without them?!
I’m from a HUGE mexican family so of course I’ve gotten loads of crap about not really wanting to have children. We have considered adoption and know there’s a possibility of us changing our minds, but it just amazes me how people put so much effort into telling you how to live your life or go about your marriage!
Post # 8
I added an option for adoption.
I agree that people don’t think you can be a family of two. Everyone says we’ll change our minds but I know I won’t. I’m getting sterilized in 2013 and have never wavered in wanting to stay childfree.
It’s odd but people seem to get offended that I don’t want kids. It’s not like there’s some little cherub waiting in the wings who will never experience life on earth because I’m not having any children. People also seem to think I am forcing my SO to want to be childfree too. We didn’t discuss children until 5 years into our relationship and he said he wanted “at least one” and I told him I won’t be having any. It was a point of contention for a few months and then he agreed that being childfree is better for us. I didn’t force him to think that way and we’ve both been in agreement about it for more than 3 years. I don’t understand why so much judgment comes from not wanting children. It’s odd.
Post # 9
We have one Dirty Delete who will be 8 in a few short weeks (!!!), and plan to TTC #2 (FINALLY!!!) on the wedding night, and however-long-after until we get our BFP, lol.
Post # 10
Darling Husband and I plan to have children. We have both always wanted them.
Post # 11
I have always always always known I have wanted children. Neither of us have any yet, but we are both super excited for the day when we will. Darling Husband has baby fever almost more than I do now that we’re married!
That being said, I know a lot of couples who don’t want and never will have kids.
Post # 12
We’re in the process of deciding. It wouldn’t be on my radar if not for my mid-30s age. I think I want to be a mother, but the childfree by choice logic makes SO much sense to me. I’ve also heard the no point to marriage if no kids line. I disagree 100%.
Post # 13
We’re leaning towards no kids, but things may change.
Post # 14
Right now we are leaning towards no children because of his family genetic issues. Adoption might be an option… but even then, I have heard horror stories. So we thought about a “snowflake” baby…but apparently Obama is going to stop the funding for that….so I don’t know…
I married him because I love him…not so that we can have children…so I disagree about there being “no point”. My grandmother asked me the same thing actually.
Post # 15
Currently, Darling Husband and I are undecided on whether or not we want children. We talk about it often but have not been able to come a definite decision either way. (there’s no poll option for that).
When we dated and got married we both agreed that we wanted children but in the last year something changed for both of us and we are no longer sure. I think the better our relationship and our life gets the less we want to ruin/change it by having children. I guess that really tells you where our head is at if we look at children as detracting from life and not adding to it. Maybe our views will change in a few years.
Post # 16
@Regina Phalange: I hear you on this – I used to not want children but now with SO I do want one or two. Of course, now that this is the case I get “Oooh, NOW you want kids, is the world coming to an end?” Um, no, before I didn’t have any desire to pro-create with another human being, and now that I am in love with SO, I do. Get over it, people.