(Closed) Are you inviting more people than your cutoff number?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did you invite more guests than your target #?
    Yes : (26 votes)
    59 %
    No, stick with the B list for declines : (16 votes)
    36 %
    Other/Explain : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I did an A and B list. Enough people said no on the A list that we invited the whole B list. Overall we wanted 150 total people and ended up with 160 RSVPs. But our number was not totally strict. Going 10 over was okay for us. And then 6 didn’t show up on the day because of flight issues, illnesses, etc. But I don’t know if you should count on there being no-shows.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Our venue maximum capacity is 150 and our guest list with all of the children and absolutely everyone getting a plus 1 is at 156. I can name at least 6 people who probably won’t use their plus one off the top of my head so I’m not too concerned.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2971 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    we wanted to keep it around 250 guests. we invited a total of 309, i think. but some of those were people i knew wouldn’t go anyway (because they didn’t want to travel or because of health issues or whatever). as far as space went, our number was kinda flexible. 223 people accepted, less than 200 actually showed up.

    i think it’s ok to go over a little bit, but it really depends on your crowd. if it’s pretty likely they will all be able to attend and you really can’t afford any “surprise” extras, don’t go over your limit of inviting only 75. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    Ideally we’ll have 200 people at the wedding. We ended up inviting 260 people, but a lot of those were for family that we knew wouldn’t be attending. We’ve had a little more than half of the RSVPs come in and we’re only at 104 people. A lot of the +1s that we gave weren’t used.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @HeLovesDogs:  When we were doing a DW we had a 75 person limit.  We invited only 75.  It would be a messy situation if we invited more and then were over the limit!

    We also did not do any “courtesy invitations” – so knowing that grandma would never fly at the age of 95, she was not on the guest list and did not get an invitation. 

    So if you have ones like this – you are FOR SURE they would never travel, then I probably would not count them as part of the list even if you sent them an invitation.

    Post # 9
    Member
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @HeLovesDogs:  I’m in the same boat as you.  I think we are at 152 and budget-wise we can reasonably afford 110.  If everyone came we would be fine as far as space in the venue but the extra 40 people will really hurt as far as paying for them! It’s a destination wedding for most people (but just requiring a 4-5 hour drive) on a Friday so that should help I think!

    But yea everyone RSVPing yes is basically my #1 wedding fear at this point!

    Post # 10
    Member
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We invited 190, I do not have the official guest count yet, but I think it’ll be around 140.  So that’s about 75% responding yes, which I think is around normal.  

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Well.. we are having a smallish wedding. We don’t expect more than 60 guests to arrive HOWEVER, we will probably we inviting 100ish – most of fi’s family is 2,000 miles away. We don’t expect anyone to show except his immediate family – but, they had all invited us to their wedding so we are doing the same.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @HeLovesDogs:  I think you’d be safe to invite an extra 5 guests or so, but I wouldn’t do anymore then that.

    I would do the B list and send out invites as others decline.

    Post # 14
    Member
    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Our venue only holds 150 and we have 175 on the guest list. I’m a little worried we’ll be over, but we already sent our STDs… It’ll be REALLY close, but the best thing we can do now is cross our fingers:)

    Post # 15
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    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s a matter of what happens if everyone says yes. If it’s a budget thing and you have to cut the champagne toast or lose an hour of photography or something like that if extra people come, then invite away. If it’s fire code and you aren’t allowed to have over 75 then that’s a whole different story. There are definately weddings where every single person invited comes. So play on the safe side.

    Post # 16
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    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    we are inviting 240 and can afford 180. However, at least 8 members of my family won’t come, 12 will be families with newborns, and there are several invited kids who won’t come. And 10 are international. I would like 160 adults and 20 kids. 

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