(Closed) Are you inviting your boss to your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t invite her if you don’t want to. There is no rule that says you have to invite your boss. You’re also having a small wedding. Have you ever hinted to her that you’re having a small affair? I think it’s rude to make statements assuming that she’s invited.

I invited my boss. I wasn’t crazy about it but his ‘gift’ to people getting married was 5 additional paid vacation days. So I only felt like I had to. If he didn’t give me those 5 days I wouldn’t have invited him. no doubt.

He left right after dinner. I think he didn’t want to drink too much and get out of hand. I said hi to him for a hot minute and then I never saw him again

Post # 4
149 posts
Blushing bee

I am inviting both my bosses. One of them is actually one of my bridesmaids!  But I think it’s a total personal decision so you should do what feels right to you!

Post # 5
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No way!  I try not to mix work (especially bosses) with my personal life.

Post # 7
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MadameTussaud:  Same here!! Plus my DH(ahhhhh first time using it!) used to work for my same company and despises my bosses anyways so it was an easy choice for me.  PLUS I wanted to have fun and have some drinks, I didn’t want to worry about my bosses watching me!!

Post # 8
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I am inviting my boss and co-workers.  We are a small group in the department that work closely together and they are so great that I’m happy to invite them.  But that’s because I wanted to… which it doesn’t sound like it’s that way in your case.  So don’t invite them if you don’t actually want them to share the moment with you.


Post # 9
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will be inviting my boss.  I’m inviting a couple other co-workers, and it’s a small-ish group, so I would feel bad not inviting him.

P.S.  We have multiple work parties involving adult beverages, so I’m not concerned about them seeing me drink.

Post # 10
4433 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m inviting my boss, and my director.  My boss is like my 2nd mother, I love her…she’s sometimes even BETTER than my mother, and that’s a whole nother story.  So I guess i’m bias

Post # 12
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m inviting my boss…. I work for my dad haha. 

Don’t invite anyone you don’t want to. Period. 

Post # 13
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sara_tiara:  I hear you.  I work in a department of four people, 1 supervisor and 3 staff (including me).  I think it will be awkward not to invite the boss, but I don’t really want to.  Le sigh.

Post # 14
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No.. because my wedding is 700+ miles away.. however he is invited to the in town reception

Post # 15
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sara_tiara:  “Oh! I can finally put a face to the voice!”. BUMMER.  She is totally and completely expecting an invite.  Shit.  I would, just because you’re so new and it may put a dent in an otherwise great working relationship in the near future.  The only thing I fear is that she’ll think you guys are closer than you really are.  And I can understand why you don’t want her there…it’s hard to cut loose and be super personal when there is someone from work staring at you.  *shudder* 

I am not inviting my boss but I am inviting a dear colleague.  I don’t think the boss would go or care anyway. 

Post # 16
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, I am inviting my bosses. One of them actually invited me to their wedding. I’m not really inviting many co-workers though I’m not that close with them, but since I work closely with my bosses I will invite them. 

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