Post # 1
I am reluctant to invite our officiant to the wedding reception. I understand that this is traditional etiquette however we hired him just like any other vendor. We are not having a rehearsal dinner, it’s a short ceremony. He is an officiant for hire. He’s great but we have no prior relationship to him. What do other bees in this situation do?
Post # 3
We’re inviting our officient to the reception, but he is also the pastor of our church and is traveling 500km to be at our wedding, so yeah lol.
I don’t think you need to invite your officiant.
Post # 4
@NJmeetsBX: We did, but he declined. He had a 6pm mass and my reception started at the same time. He did pop by quickly between the dinner and dance.
Post # 5
We regard our officiant the same as you do, but ours is a Vegas wedding, so I think that sums it up, lol
Post # 6
I’m inviting my officiant but I consider him a family friend (I used to babysit his kids even) so it’s different. I think in your case it is still good etiquette to invite him, but from speaking to some friends it seems they usually will decline unless they know you well. You could try feeling him out to see if this is something he is expecting or not.
Post # 7
When me and my then Fiance went and met our officiant we actually asked him about it. He said he actually prefered not to be there so we did not end up inviting him.
Post # 8
We invited him, and he politely declined. If you don’t have a relationship with him, I’d assume that he would also decline.
Post # 9
We invited the rabbi and his wife. They stayed long enough to eat and left. Fine with me! We didn’t really know him and he didn’t know us outside of our meetings but we wanted to extend the invitation because every other vendor there with us that day was going to be at the reception. Why not one of the men that married us! Our other officiant was my dad so… yeah, he was more than invited. lol
Post # 10
Yes, but he is also my Uncle. So he would be coming to the reception anyway.
Post # 11
I’m wondering the same thing. I’m hiring my officiant to perform our wedding, and we really don’t have a relationship with this person outside of our wedding. I don’t know if she is expecting an invite or if she would even want to come.
Post # 12
We also have an officiant for hire. We asked him, “Is it typical that you attend the reception?” and he said that he does not expect to attend the reception. He’s been totally upfront with us and is paying for his own transport, so we’ll be tipping him and inviting him to the rehearsal dinner. I recommend that you have a check with his name on the front (as well as the rest of the vendors’ tips and balances) to have a bm or relative hand out.
If I were a stranger officiant and being paid to do a ceremony, I’d be perfectly happy to get a handshake and an envelope from the maid of honor.
Post # 13
We are not for the same reasons for you. Also, my wedding planner said that I don’t need to tip him because he is not a pastor at my church or anything, but a hired vendor. He isn’t doing our rehearsal and it’s $250, so I am being cheap and not tipping.
Post # 14
We will be, but he is also a neighbour and old friend. I don’t think you need to invite yours.
Post # 15
We didnt invite our officiant to our reception. We ended up really liking ours but as you said you have hired them to do a job. Much like the person doing your flowers or hair dresser! I think its different if the officiant was someone they have known for years as they were the pastor at your church.
Post # 16
I don’t think you need to. We are, but it’s the pastor of our church.