Post # 1
I’m reading mixed opinions/advice on this topic. We’re getting married at a church neither fi or I are members of. We’ve met the officiant a couple times, but definitely are not close with him. Are we supposed to extend an invite to the rehearsal dinner? Is it rude if we don’t? Help!!
Post # 4
Probably not in that situation. We invited our officiant and her husband. She did come. She also stayed for dinner at the wedding. She was very very nice to me throughout the planning process, and wasn’t a church member or anything, just an officiant in the area.
Post # 5
I think you should ask. My photographer has requested that she attend so that she can meet the wedding party and speak to them… for her she has some points she wants to make sure they understand and that everyone is on the same page for the picture process. Perhaps your officiant might want to make a request or points for the wedding party before the actual time. He may just have pointers like “make sure you don’t do this” that would be helpful to hear before time.
I wouldn’t just send an invitation to it as he may feel pressured to attend but instead to just call him up and ask him if he had anything to cover at the rehearsal.
Post # 6
I invited mine because he was at the ceremony rehearsal (dinner was right after). I think you should at least invite him. It might be a good chance for him to get to know you guys as a couple so he can personalize your ceremony. It might make the difference between your typical normal/generic ceremony to something really special. Everyone raved about ours. I think it was because our officiant got to know us and didn’t just ‘show up’
Post # 7
Our officiant is a very good friend, so yes, he will be invited. But I think if its a hired officiant, they are sort of treated like any other vendor so they wouldn’t be included
Post # 8
Our vicar travelled quite a long way for our wedding and so we put him up in a hotel for 2 nights. We had a bbq at home after the rehearsal and he came to that and to the wedding reception. We also invited his wife who we didn’t know so well but she didn’t come.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Yes, you should. Everyone who participates in the ceremony at the rehearsal should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. He will probably decline. Both times I got married the officiant declined for the rehearsal dinner and the wedding even though I knew the second one pretty well.
Post # 10
Can you give a little more information about how you picked this church/officient? Is it a family member’s church, or is it just somewhere that is beautiful for your wedding?
In my case, we have two officents. My uncle, who will be invited, and a second priest who is the pastor at the church we are getting married in. Even tough we don’t know the second pastor well, it’s my parent’s church and the one I grew up in, so we are inviting him.
If it was a church I had no association with other than where I was getting married, I would probably not invite them.
Post # 11
We invited our officiant and his wife, as well as all of our musicians and singers and their spouses (if applicable), to our rehearsal dinner.
Also, my DH is a pastor, and we are almost always invited to couples’ rehearsal dinners.
Post # 12
@kat912: We did. She is just a local officiant, not someone we knew prior to this process. However, she lives 45 minutes from the venue where we get to have the rehearsal and dinner is immediately following. So I figured it would be polite to extend the invitation. Don’t know at this point if she is planning to join us.
Post # 13
We didn’t, and it isn’t customary for Catholic ceremonies.
Post # 14
We did. I think even if we aren’t course we would have invited him as he was a part of the rehearsal.
Post # 15
@kat912: i am not inviting her. she is not my friend, she works for me.
Post # 16
@kat912: We invited ours becuase she was at the rehearsal. We also thought it was polite to extend an invitation for dinner.