Post # 1
after seeing/hearing about so any BM’s stuck in dresses they thought were ugly or found terribly unflattering to their figures, i’ve decided that what i’m going to do is pick a designer (say, Jim Hjelm or Priscilla of Boston, because i LOVE their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses) and say, pick whichever style you like as long as it comes in the right color. that way i know that the colors will match pretty much perfectly, which is very important to me, while the BM’s will be comfortable. i think this is a good compromise. can anyone see any flaws in this? how much leverage did you give your BM’s in picking their own dresses?
(i should add that i’ll be paying for a portion of everyone in the bridal party’s dresses.)
Post # 3
I was recently in a wedding where the bride allowed us to do what you are talking about here (the designer she chose was Beloise). It was a really nice idea, but it didn’t work out well in this situation because the styles we got to choose from weren’t great and no one was any happier than usual. For my own wedding, I let my BMs choose any style and any color dress from the J Crew Bridesmaid or Best Man selection as long as it was in the same fabric. I think it’s going to look great–especially since i’m not super into matchy-matchy styles.
Post # 4
That’s what I did. I picked about 20 dresses from DB in cornflower blue and told them to pick whatever dress they wanted.
I think it worked out. I didn’t have any complaints.
Post # 5
Well, my sister let us do this, but the color and fabric on the styles they came in were less than flattering…
I am doing the same and have specified a long, same fabric/color from the Amsale Bridesmaid or Best Man collection. I hope my BMs are happy!
Post # 6
I picked like 10 dresses from David’s in watermelon and let them pick. Everyone seems happy. Ironically enough, the dress I would have picked if I wanted everyone to match…no one picked! So I’m glad I let them pick their own.
Post # 7
I tried to do this and it was shot down by all of them. They preferred for me to pick it, so I did! Hah!
Post # 8
I did this and I’m so glad I did. I told the girls to pick a short dress from David’s Bridal in apple red. Turned out to be a good idea because my soon to be SIL will be about 7 months pregnant at the wedding so she got to choose something she’ll be comfortable in. Also my girls are such different sizes/shapes and have such different tastes that I knew I couldn’t pick something that everyone would like. It seemed to work well!
Post # 9
I have 4 requirements:
– knee length
– not-too-dark grey with yellow accents/accessories
– not too casual, not too fancy
– love it
Yea, I’d rather they feel awesome in their dresses and I’m not too concerned with exact matching colors.
Post # 10
I pretty much told my girls to pick whatever dress they wanted in a certain color (shades could even differ). Somehow, they all ended up picking the same Dessy dress. Haha! My Maid/Matron of Honor just got hers in a slight different shade, so she stood out, but other than that, they all liked the same dress .. and an actual Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (non department store dress) to boot. It was weird, but they all looked beautiful and amazing.
Post # 11
I didn’t have any bridesmaids only an Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister). The only guideline I gave her was to buy a black dress. I let her pick the style and brand. We ended up going shopping together with my mom and found my sister’s dress at the White House Black Market store… I LOVE that place.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m going to let them wear whatever they want, within some parameters. As long as they fit within the wedding colors, are approximately knee-length, and are flirty/vintage looking instead of too sleek or sexy.
Post # 13
I told them I want “seaglass” colors. So this ranges from seafoam to light sage to aqua to celadon. I dont want them to match at all in the style department.. I would love for one or 2 to pick some sort of pattern. They can spend whatever they feel comfortable with. Yea, Im pretty laid back with this. Every 2 weeks or so I send them an email update with about 10 dresses I’ve come across and loved (jcrew, ann taylor, macys, modcloth, anthropologie, and a few “bridesmaid” dresses to round it out). None of them have committed yet but we have plenty of time.
Post # 14
Knee-length and a cooler shade of purple (meaning blue rather than red undertones) were my only requirements. So far, I’ve gotten a lot of “Will this work?” emails from them, but no one has actually chosen a dress.
Post # 15
it’s interesting to see everyone’s replies. i’m kind of curious to know if there’s any correlation between formality of the wedding and amount of leverage given to BM’s to choose their dresses. the reason i really want the shades to match is that we’re having a formal wedding AND i absolutely HATE the sight of clashing ‘similar but not close or different enough’ shades right next to each other. it’s just something that’s bothered me all my life. if i saw that every time i looked at my wedding pictures, i’d cringe.
Post # 16
Blue, any length but floor or miniskirt, haha. That was really it. No preference in blues, either and i didn’t care what color shoe. 2 of my girls wore PINK ones!