Post # 1
Are you making these invites? If you are, are you and your fiance the ones paying for the rehearsal dinner?
My fiance’s family are hosting the dinner. I had some “you are invited” fall themed invites I bought last year that my mom told me she would use for the shower. Then she decided not to use them. I thought they would be good for the rehearsal dinner. My mom saw my FI give them to my FMIL so that she could fill them out and mail them. Apparently FMIL rolled her eyes.
Should I not have asked her to do the invites? Was that supposed to be my job? I just thought since they were hosting the dinner that they would want to do them. Maybe I was wrong!
Post # 3
The person hosting the dinner should be in charge of sending out the invitations.
I ordered ours from WeddingPaperDivas but my FI’s family paid for them and mailed them.
Post # 4
I made the invitations because my mother in law didn’t care. My FI paid for them. But they cost about $30. I love FedEx (formerly kinkos).
My grandmother said that when my uncle got married, the bride did them for her and she was grateful because it was one less thing to do.
My MIL was happy too.
But some MIL’s are different. If you have one that is very proper and likes the top of the line from Crane or has a very specific vision for this party…let her take the reigns. Officially, she should be doing the invitations.
Post # 5
I don’t think she’s very proper. She hasn’t had any input in the wedding at all nor has she cared to. I’ve tried to bring up things while I’ve seen them over holidays the past year but they change the subject quickly or never offer any help. I think she just rolled her eyes because she probably would have rather not had invites at all. She probably thinks people can just find their way there on their own. But I would like people to have invites so they know what time the rehearsal begins, and where the dinner will follow after that. Plus we need to let people know who is invited. We aren’t inviting every out of town guest, only people who are directly involved in the ceremony or are close relatives like brothers/sisters/godparents/grandparents.
Post # 6
I’m an encore bride and we are paying for all of this ourselves. I bought some very pretty and very inexpensive computer paper with a fall design on it-our rehearsal dinner invites will be simple and easy to make. I’m doing a fancy script font (that is also easy to read-some of those get hard to read when they are all swirly) for the invites, folding them up and putting them in matching envelopes. We are going pretty casual for our rehearsal dinner-I believe the current correct phrase is “resort casual”?! Most of the guys are wearing polo golf shirts with dockers & I’m thinking of wearing dressy capris with a short sleeve twin set. It is still pretty warm here in October (70-90) and can be humid.
Post # 7
Hmmm… should I send out invites? I never knew this. Fiances family is hosting it. So far it is his mom and dad + siblings and my parents + sister and flower girl + her parents.
Post # 8
I’m not even sure I’ll be sending out RD invites. I’m probably going to spread the word via word of mouth as I’m trying to keeps cost down. Hopefully this isn’t TOO much of a faux paus!
Post # 9
I am working on the RD invites but that is because I offered. I have enjoyed working on our wedding invites that I couldn’t stop the paper madness! My FI’s parents are hosting the dinner and will get the final say on the design. My FMIL is really easy going and would have probably gone with anything in regards to invitations.
Post # 10
@lisalulu: where did you have your rehearsal dinner in SB??
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We are paying for everything, so we are sending out the RD invites ourselves. I plan to order from Wedding paper Divas because they have some super cute options that include a photo. Since we haven’t even done our e-photos yet, I am excited that we will be able to use a pic for the RD invites.
As to your situation, it could be that she felt you were intruding on her part of the festivities?????? Just a thought. Normally the host is the one who does the invites.
Post # 12
I have just finalized the details for our RD invite. Just one more thing to get out of the way!! They are pretty cheap, printed at home on cardstock. But I am jazzing it up with some glassine envelopes and cute paper punches. We have about 45 people coming and I have been to a couple RD where we were clueless until the last minute about what was going on so I plan on sending them a month before the wedding. They will be addressed, stamped and stuffed by the end of the month and I won’t have to think about them until next April!!
Post # 13
The only people invited to the rehearsal dinner are the people who are in the wedding. Since they already know, they don’t need an invitation. But I did send out an email to let them all know.