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I am 23 and my fiance is 41.
I know it's a pretty big age difference, but it doesn't really bother us.
We met three years ago and we've been together for over 2 years. We will be getting married next April. My parent's were... suprised when I first told them about him, but my whole family LOVES him, and they are truely happy for us. This will be the first marriage for both of us, and we don't have any kids, although I definitely want babies!
Are there any other young bees out there marrying older men? 
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We're only 2.5 years apart so its really no biggie. My BM and very dear friend married a man that was about the same age difference as you guys are. They got married 3 years ago, have a child and are very happy. The same goes for my Aunt, she married my uncle who was 17 years older, they've been married for 20 years. It always perplexes me when others get weirded out by the age difference. Although I'm kinda liberal when it comes to love. As long as you're both genuinely happy, I don't care what color/age/creed/religion/sexual orientation you are. Just that you're happy!
I'm with justlikeheaven - I can't even tell that you guys are that far apart in age...you both look great! Congrats!
My guy is only a year older than me (I remind him all the time hehe...), but my parents were 7 years apart. I don't think it's really that big of an age difference, especially now, but she was 20 and he was 27 when they got married...so it was more apparent when they were younger. They've been married for 33 years though!
Gotta agree with everyone else, I'd never know there was that big of an age gap... you both look awesome!! He's 4 years older than me, not a huge age gap, but when we first started dating I was 19 so my parents were a little wary. Now, I think they love him more than me!
You two look like a very cute couple! My FH will be 39 (never married before, no kids) and I'll be 28 when we get married. I've been divorced and have a daughter who is 3 1/2. Best wishes to you both!!
I would totally not think that there was that big of an age gap! Age is just a number it really means nothing. My FI and I are 4 years 11 months apart. Its no biggie for us!
We are only 6 years apart, so he's older, but I don't consider him an "older man." (Those two words together like that seem to have such a funny connotation!)
You two look great together - I'd never know there was such a big age difference (not that it matters!). :)
My husband is five years older than me but I can't say I've ever noticed outside of conversations about what TV shows we watched as children.
I think age just tends to be a marker of similar life experiences and attitudes, and a high degree of that promotes relationship longevity. When I was about 22 I went on a few dates with guys in their 30s. In the end it didn't work out because we had nothing in common. We were in totally different stages of life and the age gap was partially to blame for that. But if you find the right person, they are the right person no matter what age they are.
My FI is nine years older than me, well technically 8 years and 11 months. ;) I am 25 and he is 34. But he looks super young, like he gets carded more often than I do and he is very young at heart as well (i.e. loves his Saturday morning cartoons). I think it runs in the family though. My brother is married to a woman who is seven years older than he is and my sister is getting engaged tomorrow to a man who is 11 years older than she is.
no he does not look 41 at all! that makes him the same age as my parents (they had me young) and he looks years younger than him!
My FI is 34, so 7 years older. We met while I was still in school, and then went to graduate school, so I'm now just 5 months into my first professional job. That is a big difference between us, he is well established. We are also clearly from different generations. He was a grunge kid, saw Nirvana, etc, when he was young, and saw most of my favorite bands before they were big. That is funny, IMO. I'm very much a millenial: aspiring, a little entitled, hyper well-prepared, etc. He is very gen-x: a little jaded, relies more on connections than credentials, etc. We're happy, though, and well matched.
I agree with pp – your FH does not look 41 ;-)
I’m not so young, but young-ish. I’m 28 and my FH is 44. I’ve never dated anyone my own age, so it wasn’t a huge surprise to my parents when I brought him home. They LOVE LOVE LOVE him, so the age difference is no big deal. It’s funny, FH’s parents had him very young, and my parents had me mid-30’s, so our parents are all basically the exact same age.
The only “issue” we’ve run into is that we need to get started on babies soon, so FH isn’t a new dad to a baby in his 50’s. I never really expected to have kids until well into my 30’s, and feel no real maternal urge now, but I know we need to hurry up a bit.
You are indeed a good looking couple! I am 6 months and two weeks older than my FI. We're pretty much the same age, but I like to tease him and say he's robbing the grave. Or I'm robbing the cradle 
wow, he doesn't look 41 at all! When I was ~23 I dated 2 guys that were ~12 years older than me (both divorced, but the age wasn't really THE issue), and it didn't work out AT ALL, but if it works for you....great!
I am 28 and FH is 38. We get married a month after our 3 year anniversary.
Age is just a number. I have never been so in tune with someone how I am with my FI.
7 years apart here; people refrain from saying he looks younger than me... First marriage for us both!
Nobody reacted to the age difference for me, mostly because they don't know until we tell, but some women in his social circles did not hide their surprise.
I'm 23 and my fiance is turning 31...we don't notice anything at all and niether do others...
You guys look great together!
I'm 28 and my FI is 37. When we get married, he'll be 39 and I'll be 29. First marriage for both of us as well.
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Chelsea: I'm with you. You only notice age when you talk about pop culture from your childhood.
I'm 26 and my FI is 31. Five years. It's the biggest gap for any of the guys I've dated too.
I am 23 and my Fi is 29. I started dating him when I was 18 so it seemed a bigger age difference then. My FI is always telling people we are the same age, and I am like NO WE ARE NOT DORK! Lol He keeps forgetting that I am 6 years younger than him. Not much in the grand scheme of things, but age is definately just a number. I feel like we are emotionally the same age. It only weirds me out when he references stuff from highschool and I realize that I was in grade school then. Hahaha...
im 18 and he's 24 but the only thing that makes me remember we're not the same age is pop culture refrences
My FI is six years older than me! We only notice the age difference when we talk about movies and music from when we were kids as well!
Mr. B is 4 years older than me, but you'd never know it when you look at us!
I'm turning 23 at midnight and my FH is 23...so less than a year apart here :)
but I agree with everyone else....you two do NOT look that far apart! and age is just a number :)
You would never know your FI is 41! FH is going to be 36 in June and I am 26. You wouldn't know by looking at my FI that he is 10 years older...nor does he act like it!!
I'm 29 and he's 37..but we're the same with other posters. We don't really notice any difference :)
Any guesses on how old he is, and how much older he is than me? :P (If you do know, you better believe we're going to have baby faced children, haha)
We're 11 years 4 months apart. You guys look so cute together!
I'm 27 and Mr. Veggie is 42 (a smokin' hot 42!). People ask us about the age difference all the time, but it never really crosses our mind. I mean of couse sometimes he'll say stuf like "Oh I listened to that band for the first time in 1984" and I'll say "Hmm.. I was 2 in 1984". And he is definitely closer in age to my mom than me. But we are on the same page. And that's what's most important.
The one way that the age difference has really affected our plans is in planning for kids. This is both of our first marriage and neither of us have kids, but we want to, eventually. Ideally I'd like to be married for a while before having kids. But, since Mr. Veggie is already 42, I think we will start trying pretty soon after we get married. That way he will still be pretty young when our kids are in highschool and young enough to enjoy our grandkids. Wow that's some pre-planning, huh?
Here's a picture of us from New Year's last year, looking pretty sweaty and greasy.
40 is the new 21. i always dated older guys when i was in my early 20s. guys my age (back then) were SO not right for me
You make such a cute couple! I agree w/ everyone...he definitely does not look 41! My FI doesn't look his age, either. He's 35, I'm 22. We've had our struggles with the age difference, or should I say my family's struggled with the age difference. It took them a while to warm up, but now they all love him. 
There is exactly 4yrs 7months and 13days between us. I'm 21 and he's 25 (he'll be 26 in April) I love the age difference. We're practically the same in every way except I don't remember the 80's and he does. lol. ;) Hanging with his friends is hilarious though because I'm the baby of the bunch and they sometimes call me "youngin". It took awhile to convince everyone that it wasn't a big deal when we got together when I was 17 &he was 21 and even more so when we got engaged a year later.
My cousin married someone that was her father's age but when you seem them together you know that it works. I couldn't see her with anyone else. I don't think age should matter when it comes to compatibility and love.
Well hey, you know what they say about men maturing later in life than women. :) My FI is four years older than me.
@Minutiae--such a loaded question! :) I never know when to guess young or old with people. (Although I guess everyone likes to get carded!) How about 30 and 23? And I love the confetti--was that New Year's?
We are not married, but my SO is 36 and I am 24, so 12 years apart. And we both act like big kids. We have fun, and the age isn't even an issue. 
@WeeBirdy: I'm impressed, you got pretty close! Yeah, it was New Year's. My family made all of the confetti that you see. :)
My aunt is nine years younger than her husband, and my great-grandmother was sixteen years younger than hers. My family honestly didn't react much when they heard his age. It's my friends who don't quite get it. Anything past 23 is ancient to them, haha.
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