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We're of the same race/ethnicity, but VERY different backgrounds in terms of religion and such. I was raised very hardcore Southern Baptist, his parents don't care. I turned out atheist (go figure), and he's agnostic, so we're great together, but we've had all kinds of issues with planning the wedding, and I get nervous anytime the parents are in the same room. It's difficult balancing between one family that expects a keg at the reception and another that expects communion during the ceremony. >_<

I definitely would have had a hard time had I married someone of different ethnicity. My grandfathers would have flipped. Unfortunately that's part of living in the Deep South. The younger people are pretty laid back about race, *most* of the time, but the older generations are still very racist. It sucks!

I'm biracial- black and white. I have always dated outside of my races but never thought I would marry someone within it. My future hubby is white- the only issues that arise are the disagreements we have because he doesn't understand what it means to be a minority. I am super proud of my race (I identify myself with being black) and I know this sounds bad, but I'm a little sad that our child together will be mostly white and look mostly white because it's like they will be losing a part of my heritage. I have a little boy who is black, white, and mexican (he calls himself "the barack obama that's 3 things!") and I put down hispanic on his school records, but it's going to bother me a little when I just have to check off "caucasian" or "other" for any of my future children.

Stupid I know.

@Mighty Sapphire: I don't really identify with one culture either!  I think our kids will do just great checking the "other" box on SATs-- just like I always did. 

I'm hapa-- Chinese & Irish (mostly), Welsh, English...  FI is part Native American with  Euro-mutt (mostly German and English).

My fiance and I are both Black and of the same religious background. We actually grew up not even 10 minutes from each other and attended the same church without knowing it!

I've dated both inside and outside of my race and while I've learned a lot from all of my relationships, I agree that it helps having a common background that you can both identify with. :)

A Mutt here too! Japanese-Irish mom and Puerto Rican-Lithuanian dad for me and mostly american and culture-less! My fiance is a Lebonese Armenian, here since 13. His parents only speak some english and I am learning the language which is hilarious!

I'm Korean and my husband is white and it's pretty fun teaching him about the different traditions and experiences I had growing up in a Korean household.

There are a few issues that we deal with - there is a significant language barrier between my family and him and also FOOD.  He doesn't care much for Korean food which kills me b/c I LOVE Korean food...I found weddingbee through Mrs. Bee's korean recipe blog  

My husband and I are both originally from Taiwan. I grew up in Taiwan/Canada/US while he grew up in Latin American and didn't come to US until college years. So even though we're from the same race, we are actually pretty different :)

For starters, his Spanish is better than his Chinese. So all of our serious talks are all done in English cz otherwise he wouldn't know what I said.

I'm a true Heinz 57 (Polish, British, German & some rumored French) and my fiancee is Native American & Irish.  My FMIL looks very native with her strong nose, dark hair and cheekbones, but my FH's father was a pale Irish man, so he's a little 'washed out', lol.  He still has prominent cheek bones and jawline though, which I love.  My favorite part?  His smooth pecks!  I swear they stay cut even when he's not working out, and he's not a hairy guy by any means.  I tell him he looks like one of the warriors in Dances with Wolves.

*swoon*

I love that he's a bit exotic looking compared to my blond & blue :)

My Fi is black and I am white.  For us, it is not an issue.  He grew up going to mostly white schools and such (which, in the part of the South where he is from, means something), and we're also both Protestants.  For the most part, this means no cultural issues.  However, his family did not go to the same kinds of schools as the two of us, so that means sometimes when he and I are on the same page about something, his family is not even reading from the same book.

I'm Puertorican and she is half Irish, half Italian. So our kids will know how to dance, eat and drink!

Not only are we both white, but both Irish and German. We were also both raised Catholic, although he is alot more religious than I am. That is one thing we are trying to compromise on and working through in pre-marital counseling.

I'm a total mutt - Irish/German/Native American/Welsh....and I'm sure more that I don't even know about.  My fiance is Puerto Rican - so I agree with El Capataz - my kids will know how to eat, drink, and dance! :-)  Both of our families are very accepting of one another and if I could just learn a bit more Spanish and how to cook some delicious Puerto Rican food, I'd be set!  But it might be better I don't know how to cook like his family....I have a feeling I'd gain about 50 pounds!  It is so good, I don't think I'd ever stop eating!  You'd have to pry the flan out of my hands!

I hear you on the gaining the 50 pounts. I need to start on a diet soon. If you want to learn more about PR cooking I recommend this book: Puerto Rico True Flavors by Wilo Benet. My parents gave it to my FI for Christmas and it has every simple recipe with pictures and enough detail to make them happen.

El Capataz - thank you!  I'd love to try and surprise him with a nice Puerto Rican dish instead of my usual meat and potatoes! :)  His Grandma makes her own sofrito and I'm too embarrassed to ask her for some so I can try a recipe or two.  I wouldn't want to waste it.