- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I am 42, have been married before. I married for my first time for all the wrong reasons. I married at 21, and by the time I was 26 it was over.
This time is different. I recall a time when myself and my fiance were still dating. We were at work, sitting by ourselves. And out of the blue he takes hold of my left and and does this gesture of putting a ring on my finger. The emotionally charged feeling that came from that moment,is one I will never forget. My reactrion was my face turned completely red (I am dark skinned, I don’t blush ever), and it felt like this current of electricity went through my entire body. I was so surprised by his actions, and tears came to my eyes. I was 37 when that happened. I have never before had something so completely take my breath away.
I have known my fiance for some years now, we started as friends/co-workers. We have always had a respectful relationship, even when we were just friends. I knew sometime before he did, that I was falling for him. We started dating, and have not looked back.
He too was married before. And the marriage for him was meant to last forever. When it was over, it was devistating. I remember him telling me that his only reservation about moving from friendship to dating, that I too would break his heart. I made a promise that day, one that I still hold very close to my heart. I would never ever crush him, and I will always keep that promise.
He finallly did propose in 2008. We have been engaged for 5 years. Although we wish we were married already. We both equally agreed to get all of the other important things done first. We decided that we would get my kids out on their own, and then plan our lives together. Which in the end, has worked out for the best.
I spend a lot of time here on the bee. Reading up on how all this wedding stuff works. And I guess the reason I post this is because I see so many posts about the wedding, and not to much about the marriage. Sometimes I think that we lose track of the reason behind a wedding. We seem to lose track of the person who is taking our hand for the rest of our days. The wedding is a celebration of two people in love, the marriage is about committing to that one special person for the rest of your life.
For me personally, I just cannot wait to be his wife. I cannot wait to cross this new threshold together WITH HIM. I feel like I have waited forever for this man, and sometimes even the wedding gets in the way.
So where you you land on this issue? Do you spend more time consuming over your wedding day? Or the life that comes the day after?