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One thing that I've learned in the few years that I've been married is that it's important to always be nice to each other!
Sometimes this is easier said than done... like if you're stressed at work or because of family. It can take some real effort to find your "happy place" and be nice to each other even if you're not feeling so great yourself. It's always worth it though, of course.
How about you - are you always nice to your SO? Is it super easy... or is it ever hard? I'm curious to hear how other couples make sure to keep the nice vibes goin'!
I always try to be nice! Although sometimes it works better than others. Mr. M lets work affect his mood towards me much more than I let it affect mine towards him. But when he is cranky I quickly remind him that I was not the one who made him have a bad day. That usually works!
I really make an effort to be nice to my fiance. I'm a big believer in karma-what goes around comes around. And I was in a relationship with a guy a few years ago and I wasn't so nice. I didn't like who I was and ultimatley ended the relationship.
But I do have to say, this is the best relationship I have been in and it's not very hard to try to be nice!
*And Woo Hoo!!! I'm a Bumble Bee*
For the most part, yes. But, I'll be the first to admit I've got a bit of a 'tude. I'm half Italian and half Irish...what do you expect? :)
I find it easy to be nice to him because he is super nice to me! Plus I know him better then he probably knows himself... LOL so I know when he is in a good mood or not. I.e. I know that when he's be gone for four days flying that all he wants is to get out of his uniform and eat dinner in front of the tv. So I try not to steer to far from that by making plans away from home, etc. Also, he is just normally an upbeat person. So it makes it super easy for me.
I try to be nice...
But I find that Im annoyed alot.
Thats cuz Mr.Flamingo is a big big big big big complainer. Did I say BIG?
so, ya... its ain't all lovey dovey.
We fight, we argue... and we arent always nice.
but at the end of the day... we cuddle, and love eachother.
We aren't mean to each other, but we do pick and joke and poke fun at each other fairly constantly. Though we've been doing it for seven straight years now and it's just how we are! 
The only thing I really pick at him about is making sure he wears the appropriate clothing for the appropriate occasion- I'm old school southern in terms of my manners, so most restaurant visits call for business dress clothing (I'm in dresses and skirts about 90% of the time, sooo 
) and he's a nice jeans/sneakers guy so he can get fussy about it!
I try to be nice...but I also happen to be pretty selfish. So the two clash a lot. :) I would say he is definitely nicer to me than I am to him. I'll have to work on that!
Cute question--and an important one! I tend to have spoiled only child moments and I can be petulant, too. But then I see how sweet and patient he is with me, and my bad mood flies away immediately. His happiness is my biggest priority and vice versa. We just try to remember that we're on the same team.
We try to be nice to each other, but sometimes we slip and get angry with each other or are sometimes just downright mean, but we both are very quick to cool off and within a few minutes, we're hugging it out.
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one day, early on in our relationship i was being snarky to then BF and later on i said to myself i treat my friends & coworkers more politely/nice than i the man im in love with and that was so unfair to him.
since then ive tried to be more patient and relaxed (he drives me wonko about so many little things like just changing the channel on the freakin remote-heheh, obviously it still annoys me). i dont always manage it but saying sorry is not something im afraid of saying when i need to
We are nice to each other the majority of the time, but I have to admit we do get a little snippy with each other when we are stressed or grumpy. Overall, though, it feels like we are nicer to each other now than we were during the wedding planning, that's for sure!
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ya, this question is interesting, I was just thinking about this bc I really do want to be nicer to FH but I have no patience, like none. And so I get snippy and short with him more than I should and he then gets upset or reacts to me and it can build from there. So I am trying very very hard to have more patience and be nicer (I even sent him a drunken text this weekend promising to be a better fiance, ha!)...
I try to be nice...but sometimes he makes it really hard (and when I'm holding back and holding back, he just seems to keep PUSHING, like he doesn't realize that it's bugging me). =/ He's always nice to me, though.
We make a conscious effort to be nice to each other. And we've been together long enough that if one of us is taking out a bad mood on the other, we get called on it. I don't understand couples who are always snarky to each other and think it's ok - this is the person you love most in the world, shouldn't you be the nicest to them?
Theres just a certain couple of days every month I'm not exactly nice to him, but I warn him that I'm going to be a ***** ahead and he doesn't let it get to him. I feel bad because he is ALWAYS so nice to me. Other than that we are always nice to each other.
We are very nice to each other :) When I read the question for this post I thought I had read it wrong and re-read it, but now I see what you're saying.
I try to live by the golden rule of treat ppl the way your want to be treat, so OF COURSE I treat Mr Frenchie they way I would want him to treat me :)
He is nice to me 99.9% of the time. I am nice to him about 90% of the time. I have a short temper, I always have. Little things bug me, even though I try not to let them, they do. I try not to take my wedding, work, commute, etc. frustrations out on him, but I don't always succeed.
yeah we are always nice to one another, we try and stay as positive as we can in certain downer situations.
but...hmm and aI qoute lol I did say to him after he said something stupid the other day "I am going to beat you after were married" lol...yeah...Im nice to him
Interesting topic. In fact, it's one of the reasons my last marriage failed- as it was ending, he admitted (and apologized for) not treating me with respect, and besically being rude. For 8 years.
Being nice, and being treated nicely and with respect is very big in our house. There's not any reason to be mean or rude. We both certainly have days/do things that make it easier said than done, but we both went through a lot to be in this time and place.
Often, if I feel I can't place nice, I go sit on the porch and take a time out. Keeps me from saying something rotten.
We are definitely nice to each other. I notice it the most when we're around a few certain people (our future roommates, for example) and I notice that I'm being more snarky than usual because I'm adjusting to how they talk to each other. It's going to take a little work to not fall into their patterns of talking, but I always feel so bad after I realize what's going on that I try to make up for it and will really pay attention to how I'm talking to him when we're all living together (and maybe get everyone else to be just a little bit nicer, too!) He's always nice to me, which makes it even worse when I realize that I'm being a little snarky.
We've both been so nice to each other since the wedding that I'm sure we'd gross people out with our lovey-doveyness! I don't know what did it, but Mr. Bunny has been SO FREAKING SWEET to me since we tied the knot. *le sigh*
I try to be nice back and manage OK.
It's hard sometimes, but I make a concerted effort. I'm not the patient type naturally. I have definetly found that I am quick to admit when I'm being unreasonable or snippy and apologize. It helps that he stays level headed intead of escalating the situation.
But most of the time it's real easy to be nice because he's so darn wonderful!
I try really, really hard to be nice to my husband. I know that I reap what I sow. My intent with our marriage is to always try to act as if we never stopped dating. To keep the same care I treated him with when we were first dating.
I cringe when I see couples snip at or be rude to each other in public; I feel they have lost not only basic respect but also some of the magic of their relationship. Like, I still thank my husband every time he cleans the kitchen. Yes, he's supposed to do that and it's not like it's a favor to me, but it's a matter of acknowleding his contributions to our relationship so that he keeps on making them happily. When he does the same for me I feel validated and motivated to be a better wife. I try to never start taking people or actions for granted. It's usually not very easy, but being nice is important especially when he's not on his best behavior.
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FI is the nicest person I've ever met, not only to me but to everyone else that crosses his path. I never thought I wasn't nice to him until my mom said to me, "You're way too mean to B!" That really made me stop and think about the things I say to him. While I might think they're all in fun, he might not always take it that way.
I've really been working on trying to be nicer to him; I'm pretty sure he's noticed.
cute question.. and i agree an important one at that! we are usually very nice to each other on a day-to-day basis. however, when i'm stressed because of work or anxious about something i can snap at him and not be sooo nice.
(But at the end of the day when i say my "i'm sorry i wasn't nice earlier" speech his response is always "thats ok i understand" and it makes me appreciate him even more.)
We try sooo so hard to be nice to each other, and we almost always are. We are always nice to each other in public, and if we're at home & someone gets upset, we take time to cool off.
But sometimes... he drives me crazy lol. I think its because he is the youngest of 2 with a doting mother, and he's used to getting his way. I'm the 2nd of 4, with a not-so-doting mother, and I'm used to making group decisions, where everyone has a say. But we are getting better together, which I think is the whole point of marriage!
This is a really interesting question, in my opinion. I would love to say, yes I'm nice to him ALL the time ... but I'm sure there are times when I'm not the greatest. I've never said mean things to him, "you're stupid" "you're annoying" etc. I think that is very very wrong. never ever put someone else down in that way -- but, I'm sure I could do a lot more things to go out of my way to actually DO nice things. One thing I find myself saying to my girlfriends or guy friends who are in bad relationships or just starting a relationship and are questioning things ... I always say, "he may not be mean, but is he nice?" To me being nice -- sending flowers (yes it's cheesy but it works!), calling to make sure you got home safe, texting and asking how your night out with the girls is going, remembering your favorite TV show time and not calling while you're watching it ... just little things like that, that make a guy "nice" ... it just means they were thinking of you when you weren't around.
I really, really try to be nice, but when I get stressed (which happens a lot, as I'm working full time AND running a business on the side...), I get very snippy for no reason, and very mean :( He's very patient with me.
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We are almost always nice to each other. Sometimes he get stressed from work, and sometimes I PMS, though. We NEVER name-call; that's just poison in a relataionship! Our pastor's wife one told us "Praise in Public, Correct in Private," and I always try to keep that in my head. I'm the one more likely to correct him publicly, so I try hard to keep telling myself this before I open my mouth.
I always make it a point to be nice. I hate that sometimes the person you love you say the most hateful thing to and I feel like we shoudl be beyond being spiteful. So if i'm so heated and angry I *know* i'll say something absurd just to hurt him, i tell him i need to cool off and i walk off. Yes, i walk away, but i come back. I just need to breathe and rationalize and then i'm good and can discuss why we're upset. We have the "it hurts me when..." not "your'e so stupid! don't you know by now?!" kind of arguments. Minimal though.
I do get crabby/snippy/short with him when i'm extra stressed, but he always handles it like a pro. Seriously, it does not phase the man. 30 minutes later i apologize for being a B and he just goes, "it's ok i know you were stressed" and he tends to hide out when i'm doing stuff so he's out of my path of crazy frustration =]. He knows it's not HIM, but the situation i got put in (IE trying to book train and hotel rooms for a business trip THAT DAY that should have been done weeks before...yeah no fun)
I have come along way, but yes I am, very nice to my DH because no matter how stressed he is or angry about something, he has never, from the day we started dating, taken anything out on me or said something to hurt my feelings. I use to be a bit snappy, pesimistic etc and since he is there, he would get the grunt of my feelings even if it had nothing to do with him and one day I realized, dont know what made it hit me, it was not fair to him whatsoever. He is my bright spot through any day and can make me feel different about any negative situation so I do all I can not to take things out on him. He is so positive and drama free that it has helped calm me and really cease the silly drama in my life. Plus, it helped being around and seeing how my sister treats people bc she is 100 times more snappy, rude etc and I just realized I never want to be like that. The disrepect that is shown to friends, family and even her FI is gross and as much as I love her and we have all told her, she just does not get it. I just could not imagine treating someone that way.
I'm usually always nice to him, I'm always just so happy to see him or be around him that I can't help myself. But when I'm on those emotional rocker days (PMS) I get short or things that he does tend to annoy me much easier. In that case I just stop talking and either sit there silently or do other work until I cool down.
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I think we're nice to each other...in everyday ways & BIG ways too. I cook, he cleans, I shop for our necessities, he keeps track of our expenses, I come up with the big ideas for vacation, he gets the tickets & accomodations. I think we try to split the everyday stuff down the middle, which in itself is being nice. But then they're the BIG things: I'm patient & supportive about his career: nothing is pie in the sky & everything can be done. He's supportive & cooperative about my faith - coming to mass & willing to jump through all the hoops to be married in the Catholic Church.
I'm excited that we get to spend the rest of our lives being nice to each other.
I try to be but I'm really bad about taking things out on him. I feel so terrible that he's the one that gets the gripes but I get it from him as well occasionally so I guess it evens out. I usually go to the gym after work so the endorphins and feel-good hormones are flowing. And that helps alot.
Mr. Fisher gets the star treatment! lol, I cook for him, clean, do laundry, take care of our fur babies, take care of the money, let him get stupid things (a broken motorcycle and he's never worked on one before?). He has an arsenal of lovey dovey names he gets called and everything.
FMIL always teases me that I'm straight outta the 50's. I even pack his clothes and such on vacations...it's kind of gross now that I say it out loud.
I am always nice!!! ok - maybe not all the time but when I'm not being nice he knows I'm joking. He is amazinly nice :)
it's so great to share the same sense of humor :)
Surprisingly, yes. LOL...I can get moody and mean occasionally, but he keeps me balanced =)
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