Are you out of your SO league?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Are you out of your SO/FI/DH league?
    Yes : (8 votes)
    12 %
    No : (19 votes)
    28 %
    Equal : (41 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    @oxstardust421xo: That is just awful!

    He thinks I am, but I am not.

    Post # 4
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m kind of the meh one in our relationship, and yet he would say the same thing

    Post # 5
    1397 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We just had this conversation last night, I asked if we were the same if each of us were ranked 1-10.  I gave myself a 7-8 and gave him the same, and he came back with the exact same numbers.  

    Post # 6
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We both think we are out of each other’s league! So I put equal ;-P

    He’s just so damn good to me..I feel sometimes like what did I do to deserve this amazing, selfless man?! And he says he can’t believe he’s landed me and wants to spend his life showing how grateful he is.

    Months ago, I sent him “Out of My League” by Fitz & the Tantrums lyrics for how I felt about him 🙂

    Post # 7
    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    When I first started dating my FI, I thought he was out of my league. He’s handsome, successful, funny, intelligent, charming…the list goes on! I didn’t understand why he’d want to date me when he could date someone prettier, more highly educated, more successful, etc.

    But we have such awesome chemistry that I’ve come to realize that we are just right for each other. 🙂

    Post # 8
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MrsUPS:  Same here, my FI tells me all the time that I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, and that he’s lucky to have me. I tell he needs to have his eyes tested and that I’m just as lucky. 

    Post # 9
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @MrsUPS:  +1! Ditto!

    My FI has never said it but i can tell that he feels like he’s not good enough for me.  He thinks that i can get anyone that i want but i keep stressing that I WANT HIM!  You would think that he would get it after 7 years but…

    Post # 10
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think just based on physical appearances then probably yes – I’m pretty good looking and he’s above average. BUT my FI is extremely smart and has the BEST personality – he is everyone’s friend, so easy to get along with, and can always be counted on. Everyone always talks about how he’s such a great guy. So, overall, as people, I’d say we’re equal.

    Post # 11
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    He also thinks I am, I am totally not.

    Post # 12
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @oxstardust421xo:  reminds me of the HIMYM episode about reachers and settlers and the guys thinking Lilly was the settler and Marshall the reacher (Marshall being out of Lily’s league) but Lily totally thought Marshall was out of her league. 


    Post # 13
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    “in the same league” can be so vague.  in which department?  looks?  intelligence?  success?

    i think my dh are pretty equal in all areas. 

    Post # 14
    483 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @oxstardust421xo:  My FI might say that I am, but even though he isn’t the “type” I would normally go for. I still think he is exactly what I not only want but need. I feel blessed to have such a great guy in my life who loves me and treats me like a queen. Those ppl that think they are better than their SO seriously need to get over themselves. We are like ying and yang different but somehow we just fit.

    Post # 15
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    @aliciaspinnet:  I tell mine that too. Or look behind or beside me like there is someone else standing there.



    @yayimengaged:  Same here!

    Post # 16
    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We’re equal. Of course it’s fine for both to think “wow I’m so lucky to have him/her”, but if it’s clearly one sided like one is better that’s no good. I think both people should think they’re dating “up” or equal. 

    I don’t think it can work long term if someone feels they are out of the league of the other. Basically, that means someone’s settling. Either that builds resentment in the “better” one for wasting their time with someone beneath them or it breeds insecurity in the “lower” one. Sure it’s awesome to score with someone “above” you, but feeling settled for like they could have done better has got to be the worst feeling ever.


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