Post # 1
I have 8 bridesmaids so I simply cannot afford to pay for everyone’s hair/make up and nails. I also wanted to get them the jewelry they wear at the wedding and a few non wedding related gifts. I was thinking of just picking one of the three services as part of their gifts but I want everyone to look their best/similar at the wedding also. Should I just make the services available if they want it, knowing that the BM’s have to pay themselves? Or should I just suck it up and put it on my credit card?
Post # 3
Don’t put it on your credit card if you can’t afford it!! The bride is not responsible for paying for her bridesmaid’s hair and make up unless she requires them to have it professionally done. I just sent an email out to my girls and asked who wanted hair and/or make up and provided the prices of each so they knew that I wouldn’t be paying for it so it was up to them.
Post # 4
I didn’t pay for my BMs’ hair and makeup, but I also didn’t require that they get it done professionally. If you are dead set on professional services, you need to pay for it. Since you can’t afford it, just give them the option of paying for hair/makeup themselves or doing their own.
Post # 5
@Moose1209: Did the BM’s that choose to get it done look more “uniform”/put together then the girls that didnt? Maybe ill just pay for pedi’s the day before so we can all bond and that is the cheapest service out of the three hehe.
Post # 6
Im not paying for my BMs hair, makeup or nails. Im not requiring them to get any of the above done, but all of them are going to get their hair done and I imagine several of them will get their nails done. I dont think its necessary to pay for these things. They will most likely look their best on the day of and it’s okay to say that you would prefer them to wear their hair up or something like that.
Post # 7
I’m not paying, but I also don’t care what type of hairstyle they have. I told them the price if they decided to book it, but emphasized that they could do whatever they wanted.
All but one chose to have it done (the one that’s not getting it done, will be getting ready at home, since she has 3 kids).
Post # 8
I will probably have a spa day for my girls, but I don’t have that many. Hair and make up I will be doing myself so I’m not really paying for that. So the spa day will just be a fun girls day out and will make up for that fact.
Post # 9
I am paying for the nails. I never even thought of them getting their hair done professionally, but when I let them know I was booking the nails they all asked for me to book them a hair appointment (which they are gladly paying for). We aren’t doing professional makeup.
Post # 10
Hair and make up, yes. Nails no. But that’s pretty much the done thing here. It sounds like you wouldn’t have a problem with it, you’re obv being quite generous with them anyway!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I wasn’t planning on providing anything for the girls (budget is tight) but I wasn’t going to demand that they get anything professionally done either. They can show up looking however they want.
However, the boy’s SIL is a hairdresser and salon owner and was going to do my hair for free. She and I worked out a deal that if I create a website for her salon (she doesn’t have one now), she’ll do my BM’s hair, too. I only have 3 of them.
Post # 12
I wanted to do a spa day… but with potentially haveing 7 BMs (haven’t officially asked them yet) I think that’s a bit much.
Post # 13
jaglynn, if some of your girls get hair/make up done and some don’t, it wont affect the “uniformity” of the bridesmaids. Ive been in tons of weddings (seriously, ive been a bridesmaid 14 times) and i’ve never thought there was a noticeable difference between the girls whom were done professionally and the girls that did their own. This is especially true of makeup.
but i’ll add to what other’s have said that if you “require” it..you should pay for it and yes, its going to be really expensive. If its optional, then allow the girls to decide whether they want to splurge or not.
Post # 14
Thanks you ladies! I also dont want anyone to feel left out. I can imagine my MOH, myself and my mom getting professional services and the rest of the bridesmaids just sitting there waiting? Does everyone show up to the bridal suite done or do we get ready together. Sorry I’m obviously new to this and I’ve never neen in a wedding.
Post # 15
I’m with you jaglynn14 – I’ve never been in a wedding and I’ve only been to…4? Maybe? Anyway, I was going to have everyone get ready at the bridal suite – try to make it fun. I only have 4 bridesmaids, so I’m going to try to do a spa day the day before and just have my hair done the day of. While I’m getting my hair done (in the bridal suite) they can be getting ready & partying..probably
Post # 16
I have 6 bm’s. I am paying for their hair/makeup I am not paying for their nails to get done. I spoke with a fellow WB bride and she had her girls get their hair/makeup done at the salon by an apprentice. They don’t charge the fee of a regular stylist and they are up on all the styles since they’re working their way to become a stylest. In the end she wished she had her hair/makeup done by the apprentice as well, LOL
If you have something like that near you I would totally look into the pricing.