Post # 1
So this stems from a conversation I recently had with my Future Mother-In-Law….of course….. We are having a Keys wedding and the GMs are going to wear khaki’s, a Tommy Bahama-type Hawaiian shirt (that Fiance and I pick out), and men’s nicer flip-flops. We were planning on the boys just buying their own shirts and providing/buying their own pants. The BM’s are buying their own dresses, so it makes sense to me that the boys would do the same, right?
Future Mother-In-Law seems to think that we should buy the shirts for the Groomsmen. Aside from the fact that we don’t have the $$ in our budget to buy each dude his shirt, why should we? Is this the etiquette?
On a side note, I personally think Future Mother-In-Law “mothers” her two youngest sons a little too much (2 of our GMs – both are gainfully employed and not living at home). I think she is thinking that she will need to buy her 2 sons shirts for them. And if they were young guys at home, I would be sympathetic towards FMIL’s extra expense and try to work something out with here. But each Future Brother-In-Law earns more than Fiance and I make combined….so they are not hurting for money and can certainly afford the attire. Not to mention they have not once complained about any wedding cost. Sorry – this kinda turned into a vent.
But, back to the issue, I am curious to see what other bee’s are doing about their dudes!
Post # 3
Our ties just came in today! Fi just sent me a pic of them! 🙂
Post # 4
We’re providing vests and ties. They are buying their own pants and shirts.
Post # 5
They buy the suits, we are gifting the ties.
Post # 6
They are paying the rental fee for their suits. The guys all went together to pick the suits and the GM’s and ushers will pay the rental fee on their own.
Post # 7
Our Groomsmen paid for their tux rental which comes with absolutely everything they would need.
I see it as the exact same thing as BMs paying for their dresses so I don’t see why your Future Mother-In-Law thinks that you should pay for the guys (the guys typically end up having to spend less than the girls anyway!).
Post # 8
Oh good! I am so glad I am not the only one who feels this way!
Post # 9
our GMs are paying $100 for tux rental
Post # 10
Uh, no. You’re right in that the BMs are paying, why shouldn’t the GMs? That’s a silly concept to me. We might pay for a tie or other accessory, but when they agreed to be in it they agreed to some sort of cost, JUST like the BMs.
It sounds like she’s just wanting to coddle “the boys.” Whatever. But no. Lol
Post # 11
The guys are renting their own tuxes that Fiance picked out. I see it the same as BMs, too.
Post # 12
Future Father-In-Law is renting tuxes for all the guys. He did this for Future Brother-In-Law wedding so he felt it was only fair. I feel bad for my BMs because Fiance and I cannot afford to buy their dresses. I don’t think it’s really fair.
Post # 13
We bought the suits for the guys.
Post # 14
The only reason we paid for the BM’s shirt and pants is because he is a 19-year-old college student (he’s my husband’s cousin). The other two “GMs” were my young nephews, and my sister paid for their outfits. I think it’s perfectly reasonable for you to expect grown men with jobs to pay for their clothing, especially when they can be worn again.
Post # 15
We’re getting the ties for our Groomsmen, but only because I wanted to be sure we had ties that matched the bridesmaid dresses.
Post # 16
Our guys will be wearing their own white shirts and black suits. FH and I just decided two days ago that we would get their ties – otherwise, the consensus all along has been that that they would get everything on their own, and no one has made a peep 🙂