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That is horrible! I dont understand why people ask that. I would never ask anyone that preggers or not just incase!
People are morons. It is NEVER okay to say something about a woman being pregnant unless you are absoultely positive that is the case. I don't understand people who do this.
You don't ask a woman about her pregnancy unless you see a baby coming out of her. End of story. Boys are dumb.
You definitely handled the situation better than I would have. The second time around I would've been just a little bit snarky. Good for you for keeping your composure! It is obvious that the guy is an idiot. Hoepfully he is better at making sandwiches than he is with making small talk.
I can totally feel your pain. I got asked the same thing about a month ago! So hurtful! :(
That is really really rude! Yeah, you definitely don't ask that unless the woman announces it.
Even though I'm small, the way I'm built actually makes me look pregnant. I'm surprised people don't ask me!
Last year I worked at a bar where 3 of the female staff got pregnant and left over the span of a few months. I just happened to quit around the same time and gained a bunch of weight afterwards. I was in one night for a drink and one of the 'concerned' regulars was shocked that I was drinking when I was 'with child' as he put it.
I was pretty tipsy and, no longer required to be nice to iodiot customers, gave him a piece of my mind haha. I doubt he will make that assumption again!!!!
Whoa - that is completely ridiculous. Honestly...who says that?! Some people are so rude. Good for you for not flipping out at that person!
Ah! That's so rude. Some people have no couth! I've been asked that before. Last June I was wearing a long summer dress and a girl asked me if it was because I was hiding a baby bump. Wth? She was like, "no, no, you're really thin, I just thought maybe that is why you chose that to wear?". Who asks that? I barely knew her, she is the friend of a friend. So dumb.
4 or 5 months after I had my son I had dropped a couple pounds (just a couple) but was feeling really good because I had gained so much. That day someone asked me when the baby was due.....I laugh now but at the time I was so hurt.
People have said the same thing to me. My little sisters aren't even close to being chunky like me, but women in my family just have a little pooch and people have make comments like this to them as well.
Some people's children....
A few months back my friend's 4 year old foster kid poked at my stomach and asked if there was a baby in my tummy. I said, no honey, I'm just fat and I smiled at her. She had no idea. I thought it was cute but if an adult asked I'd assume they were a moron.
Wow......please ask these people if they were raised in a barn and have no manners?! Wtf. It amazes me.
Clueless man! Try not to study it too much and feel too bad some people have no tact.
Ran into a former boss of mine a few months ago. Yes, I have gained about 40 lbs in the 2 years since I last saw her. She asked when I was due. Told her I was just fat. Her response? "But I"m a nurse! I know a pregnancy belly when I see one!"
At this point, people are staring as we were at a fundraiser. I went and bought a funnel cake because lets face it, if I didn't "eat my feelings" I wouldn't be so fat!
Asking once is bad enough, but twice?! I have a (female) friend who works at a Preschool, and says she often asks women if they're pregnant because normally they are. I told her that I think it's rude and I've been asked if I was pregnant, and it hurt my feelings. I hope she won't be asking that question anymore.
I feel you - I was getting out of my FH's car (to fix my engagement ring, no less) when the valet asked me. My FH said 'well, I mean, the empire waist on the dress means you can't see your not-fat belly'. Um... thanks? haha. I guess we just have to laugh it off. I also once had someone in line at Costco tell me I 'look like I have a healthy appetite'. I'll let someone else blow up at them :)
Slap. Him. In. The. Face.
I don't usually like violence, but that guy needs to learn some tact.
@Gemstone: Hah! I totally agree with you. This guy needs a swift kick in his rear...
@2PeasinaPod: Yep. Some people need that little extra to teach them a (valuable) life lesson.
Ugh. I'm not a very large person, but my stomach is close to the surface and expands a lot so I get food-baby pretty frequently. Also water-baby if I chug a big bottle of water. Oh, and beer-baby with extra carbonation! I haven't been asked if I'm pregnant in years, but it happened twice when I was a little heavier and since then I've been terrified.
I keep a list of inappropriate responses. Like, REALLY inappropriate because that's just how I am. Though I guess "no, I'm not pregnant. Why do you ask? are you?" could work in the right situation.
Gosh, what the heck is wrong with people? I've been around plenty of people that I've wondered about, but there was no way in hell that I ever ask them if they were pregnant.
I've gotten really fat since I've graduated from high school, and people ask me all the time, probably because tons of girls in my high school class have babies or are pregnant now. Everytime someone asks, I have to resist the urge to say something like, "Yep. And the daddy is your boyfriend." But I don't. I stick with my now standard, "Nope, I'm just a fatty." ;D
@mogget: Haha the "no, i'm fat" response usually works pretty well for me too. I enjoy seeing people fidget afterwards while they try to recover. :)
Aw man, that totally sucks. Before I had a breast reduction I worked at this cafe that required us to wear full-front aprons. My boobs stuck out so much I always looked pregnant. I was asked at least twice a week when the baby was due. When I gave them the icy stare, followed with "I'm. Not. Pregnant." in my best "if you don't move along I am going to punch you in the teeth" they would always look appropriately chagrined.
I never EVER ask people about a pregnancy unless I've heard first hand that they're pregnant. I don't care if I can see a leg moving around in there, I aint saying a damn thing. It's just common sense.
Geez that reminds when a friend of mine and I were going to get our nails done years ago in the college days. We went to our favorite place, where the techs didnt speak much english. As my friend was getting hers done the lady gestured to her by rubbing on her stomach and saying "baby? baby?". My friend began rubbing her own stomach and said with an evil smile "beer. beer."
People can be so rude!
this is yet another example of why i wish i had one of those acme spring loaded punching bag guns.
My boss's assistant has access to his inbox and saw an exchange between him and a colleague during a business dinner with their wives. Keep in mind this was blakcberry to blackberry while they were at the table.
Boss: Is your wife pregnant?
Guy: No, just fat
Boss: Really? Oops, don't tell her I said anything
Guy: Are you kidding?!?
Personally, I can't decide who's more wrong, my boss or the guy, but at least they both agreed to keep it to themselves.
I'm a size 4, but the way my body is shaped I tend to have a pregnant looking belly if I wear any empire waisted item. Which is everything nowadays. I get asked probably 4 or five times a year if I'm pregnant. It's always by men. They're stupid.
I usually just give them the stank eye and make them feel really uncomfortable.
I was at a wedding with my SO, and it was open seating. This older couple sat at the table with us. After talking politely for about 10 minutes, she asked when I was due. I just looked at her and said, "I'm not pregnant." She felt horrible and apologized. My SO laughed. I shot him the most evil look and we left the reception. I asked him in the car, "Why did you laugh?" He said that he was just trying to make her feel better. I said, "That's great, be concerned about the perfect stranger's feelings, but not your own girlfriend's. That's fantastic." He apologized, but it was still a day or two before I was over his reaction. Some people think that they can say whatever they please, just because of their age!
My little sister has also gotten it, too, and she is very petite. She just happens to carry her weight in her belly (which is where mine is, too). I never, ever ask if someone is pregnant. I wait for them to share the news.
Oh, and one time, my dad and I were out to eat at a local restaurant. We were sitting at the bar and some of his clients happened to be there. They hadn't seen me since I was 6. The one guy shook my hand, poked me in the belly and said, "Wow, you resemble your old man!" I was too shocked to say anything, which was probably a good thing because I would have slapped him one! I asked my dad if he heard what the guy said, and he didn't. Which, he was talking to the other person. He would have said something if he would have heard that remark, so maybe it's better that he didn't.
Ignore him Ha how good is he,works at a deli wowwwwwwwww what a life huh
@Entangled: I am so curious about these inappropriate responses. Care to share?
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I went to the deli down the street for lunch a couple months ago and the guy at the counter asked me when my baby was due. I was shocked. No baby here, just fat thanks. Fast forward to today, same guy is working there and he says, "So, did you have that baby yet?" Seriously?! NO. No baby. When did it become ok to assume any woman with a tummy is pregnant?