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I am not paying for them specifically, but I would like to allot a certain amount if I go over $130 or so in the dresses I pick out.
In a perfect world, yeah, I'd pay for them, but way too broke!
I would love to be able to chip in with the BM dresses, but there are a million other things eating up our budget! My mom will be making the flower girl dress, so I'm paying for the fabric and accessories. : )
I would have loved to have been able to do this, but I just didn't have it in the budget. Instead, I asked my BM to buy dresses of their own choosing from JCrew, which they were all able to get on sale. I felt better about them buying dresses, knowing that none of them had to spend more than $60! We didn't have flower girls.
My sister is my only BM, so I bought her dress. Actually, I bought her two dresses, since she couldn't decide which one she liked best on her. I definitely wouldn't have been able to pay for BM dresses we had a bigger wedding party, but since it's just my sister, I got to spoil her!
We didn't buy the dresses or suits for our wedding party. However, we did our best to be as price-conscience as possible.
In the end, after a lot of shopping around with my girls, I told then they could pick any plum colored dress they wanted, with whatever their own personal budget was, and they could wear any shoes they wanted. In the end, all three of my girls ended up picking the same dress, and they all paid $190 with tax and shipping, but not alterations. So, I didn't need to feel guilty because they could have picked anything they wanted :)
I think that if you're really flexible with what you want your girls to wear, there's no need to feel obligated to foot the bill. In the end, my girls only had to pay for their dresses, travel expenses and their nails the day before (which was optional). They all already had shoes they could wear and did their own hair and make-up.
We didn't and I've never had my dress purchased for me in all the weddings I've been in. We did buy the groomsmen's suits but only because I got a killer deal and an additional discount by using my credit card. I figured it evened out since the guys had to buy their shoes, belts, and shirts (why are men's shoes so expensive?!) but I bought the girls purses, pashminas, jewelry and hair flowers. I would love to have just bought everything for them but they didn't expect it.
I have 9 BMs... there's just no way that's in our budget. I am (similarly to jessie516) giving them some parameters in the Watters maids line and letting them pick their own dresses. They'll be more than $60, but I'm asking them to wear shoes they already own, and hoping that they'll wear their dresses again since they're picking out the styles they like the best. I'll definitely make sure that we take care of our whole bridal party in other ways, however.
We'll be buying suits and jr. bridesmaid dress..I don't have any bridesmaids :)
We aren't....I have other things, both practical and fun, that will be included in their gifts.
My FSIL bought our dresses for her wedding in February. It's a destination wedding in Vegas, so she feels that since we're flying out to spend the day with her, it's the least she could do. I was so touched by her generosity and never expected it. It was totally not necessary but much appreciated.
I've been in two other weddings and boguht my own dress for both.
I'm likely going to make my girl's dress so yes, I'll be paying for them. I told them already to pick out a long navy high fashion dress they'd never be able to afford and that would be my gift to them. That way my girls match, but don't, and I'm probably also getting them earrings to go with it. It was the cheapest route and we all get to look stunning that way.
I really wish I could have, but it wasn't in the budget. Luckily, my one and only attendant is super awesome and wouldn't let me talk her into a cheaper dress I didn't like as much, just to save her some money!
I also wish I could have, but no way do we have money for that. My MOH helped me find a White House Black Market dress that everyone loves and can re-wear again... they ended up being $130, which isn't toooo bad.
I am buying everyone's shoes though, because the dresses are short and I am anal about having matching shoes ;)
my mom bought my sister in laws (if she were going to buy it herself i would have made her buy a much cheaper one), and my sister's was only $30, she bought it herself.
This summer, after making one for myself, I decided to make convertible bridesmaids dresses. I LOVE convertible dresses. That way, each body shape/type can change the dress into something that flatters their figure and stays within their comfort level. I'm buying the fabric and making them myself. A couple girls said they'd pay for it when it's done, but I'm not expecting it. It was MY choice to go this route, therefore I think it should be MY responsibility to take care of this part.
If you choose something that's outside of your girls budgets, I think you should help. But most people understand that if your in a wedding, part of the responsibility of being in the bridal party is buying your own stuff! (Atleast that's how my circle of friends/family works!)
I would have loved to have been able to buy my girls's dresses, but there was no way I could have afforded to do so. I don't have that many bm's (4) but I still could not have paid for their dresses. I did offer to give them some money for the dresses but they all said not to worry about it and that they would be able to foot the bill themselves.
You know, I always thought it was standard for the bride to buy the BMs dresses... until I started getting asked to be a BM every year.
I'm not paying for my BMs dresses. However, their dresses are so fabulous they'll wear this dress to event after event. They picked the dresses out & the price range. :) Actually I am buying my sisters dress, but I told her I get to keep it after the wedding lol.
I gave them their dresses as their gifts. This way, I also didn't have a to add another thing to my to-do list. The dresses were less than $150 each and I only had 3 bm and 1 flower girl (flower girl dress was less than $10). We got them custom made in China.
thanks for the info; thats another thing, if i do buy them i'm not sure what kind of gift i could give them after that. i think i'm going to tell them the color and to purchase whatever they feel best in and can afford as well.
I'm not going to be buying their dresses but I'll make sure they won't be spending too much on them either. The girls I have in mind will all be about 18 at the time (younger sister and cousins) so they won't exactly be able to afford much. I'm hoping things will work out that they can choose their own or have some freedom choosing so that it will actually be possible to find affordable dresses.
I voted 'no', but I did pay the difference for my friend's maternity dress that cost more.
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the BM gowns for your girls? so i know that if i have the means i would love to buy my girls dresses from them...but i'm just wondering how common it is for the bride to buy the BM dresses? what about the flower girls dresses?