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I know it's silly, but when Fi works at night, I have a really hard time sleeping. Our house is on a cul de sac, but 4 of the 7 houses are empty right now (for sale, being renovated, etc). Our dog is a tiny Boston Terrier, and though considered a suburb, Woodbridge isn't the safest town in the world. We don't have an alarm... Fi's idea of home security is the Louisville slugger by the bed.
Anyone else feel this way? What do you do to feel better?
Even though I like my nights at home I sometimes feel this way. We live in Falls Church (right near Tysons Corner mall) and it is a fairly safe area and we have a pitbull but for some reason I still get a little uneasy at times.
I usually double check all doors and windows and try to watch TV or talk to someone on the phone until I am so tired I fall asleep quickly!
I generally put on some praise and worship music... pick a playlist and play it while I'm falling asleep and just let it play.... It always makes me feel more secure to think on how cool God is and how much He loves me and how He totally kicked death's BUTT... always makes me feel better and helps me sleep =)
Some of my favorite albums are:
Hillsong - Beautiful Exchange and This Is Our God
Chris Tomlin - This Is Love
=)
@PitBulLover: Pit, we're neighbors!
@amnystik: What a good idea!
I grew up in NoVA and never really felt unsafe, even as a little kid when my parents would stay out really late. I guess I just figure, there's no need to waste energy worrying about something that probably won't happen, and if it does, well my adrenaline will kick in enough so that I'll know what to do. Plus, the chances are, absolutely nothing will happen anyways.
A baseball bat isn't going to do much if there are 2 people that break into your house. If someone wants to defend themselves, I suggest the most effective and efficent tool: a gun. Keeps you well out of arm's reach of any potential "bad person", and doesn't depend on your physical strength to give the same result.
My current home security:
Also I think most burglars stay away from cul de sac's because they're not an easy escape, you have to go down the whole cul de sac to get out and if there's an alarm or somehow the cops come quickly you're screwed.
@Miss Longcoat: we are!! I dont think Ive ever been to Woodbridge though, but a few of my coworkers live there!
Sometimes. It's usually the worst when I watch Law and Order SVU or some paranormal movie/show, so then I put on Golden Girls and let my cats lay with me on my bed.
No. It's a good thing I'm not because he's gone almost every single week. I get a little freaked out if I hear weird noises or something but most of the time I'm just fine.
Oh when we first moved here, I couldn't even sleep at night when my husband was gone. I would stay awake all night and then sleep during the beginning of the day.
When hubby & I first got our own apartment and was engaged last year in march 2010 he was on night shift & I also was scared alot & I just got use to it! He is on 2nd shift now so he is home with me at night but he was temp on night shift a few weeks ago and I wasn't use to it at all and was scared again! lol I would sleep in the living room when he was on night shift, helped for some reason. & My fur babies helped keep me company! lol
I'm not scared because I used to live alone, so I'm used to it when he's not here. We have an alarm and guns. My SO isn't into getting close to someone breaking in, IF they did, so a gun is the best policy besides our ADT system.
@PitBulLover: I work in Falls Church at IFH (hospital)
Thanks everyone, for commiserating. It's good to know I'm not the only scaredy cat. :)
I don't get scared. I live in a quiet suburb that is very safe though, so I might feel differently if it was a more dangerous area.
We don't live in the safest city (I've heard the status that we have something like the most seriel killers per capita which might be exagerated a tiny bit) but *usually* the crime stays on the other side of the highway because we have the "Baylor Bubble" with the BPD. However there's been a couple robberies/hold-ups in the bubble this year which aren't comforting. That and I just hate being in dark. Usually I'll turn on a CD or a movie and throw the deadbolt on the door.
It's also nice that my apartment is a block away from the police station and FH's/our apartment is on the 3rd floor.
Another VA girl here. :). My fin ace is on a business trip right now and many of the students/faculty in the neighborhood are leaving for break. It's definitely quiet...which makes me more nervous than when it's loud!
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: Exactly... when it's quiet, you hear every little noise.
@Knubbsy-Wubbsy: I wish I was that close to a police station!
@Miss Longcoat: It's theme for me. My parents' house is a block from from the borough office/town hall/police station (small town). However, I trust the cops there more than the ones near my apartment- most of them are older and out of shape :/
I trust living out in a rural town (that has had 2 murders in the past decade) with less people more than in a so-called bubble in a city with more than that a year).
Okay, worse idea ever. Checked the 15 year comparison of crime. Murder dropped from 25 a year to 9 but narcotics jumped significantly.
@Miss Longcoat: As you already know, I have some unruly neighbors. Sometimes I worry about them setting something on fire or blowing something up. For the most part, the town I live in is pretty safe. I have an alarm system and I got a chain put on my door. Of course, bad things happen. I walked out on a robbery once and a girl was abducted, raped, stabbed 15 times and left for dead at a house literall right across the street from the apartments that I used to live in. Every since that happened, I hate the quiet. I hear everything.
I think some of the the neighborhood stray cats are getting under my trailer, but I'm always slightly paranoid when I hear them that someone is trying to break in.
I'm a big baby when I'm home alone at night. Which is nearly every night. I can't wait fot FH to move in.
@Miss Longcoat: Growing up in Woodbridge/NoVA I can tell you that certain parts of that town are definitely better than others! Dale City is the worst though, imo.
I am terrified of being home alone. We live just outside Raleigh now in an incredibly safe neighborhood/town but when SO goes out of town for work, I lock everything, crowd three dogs and two cats into our bedroom, keep the tv on and take Benadryl to fall asleep.
We live right outside of PG County in Maryland. Apparently our neighborhood is under night patrol by the police because people buy drugs in PG county and then cross into our county and drive into neighborhoods to find places to smoke/use whatever they just bought. And, well, we all know how drugs can impare one's judgement or lead people to do stupid things.
To answer your question: I sleep with the TV on and the phone beside me if he's gone.
My husband spends about three nights a week away from home and sometimes I have trouble sleeping. I keep a knife taped to the back of our mattress (I know.. sounds a little crazy. I'm a second degree black belt, I know how to use it).
One of the big reasons we decided to buy a condo in lieu of a home is because of deployments. I had a little anxiety about living alone in a house 8 months at a time. In our condo if something happened I'm pretty sure a neighbor would hear me.
I'm terrible about being home alone at night. I don't sleep. It's completely irrational, but my imagination gets the best of me. I leave the TV on playing Pixar movies and Golden Girls reruns.
My fiance recently went out of town for 10 days to visit his family, and I was an absolute wreck getting about 4 hours of sleep a night. By the time he got home I was a zombie.
@firsttimemom: are you in AA county? I am about 10 minutes from Baltimore and all of their crap is spilling out into our area SO and I are looking to move as soon as he knows where he will end up for work no matter where we go an alarm for the house will be on the top of my list
@twentyeleven: Hahahaha... I live in Dale City! Granted, it's on the north end, near Lake Ridge, so it's not where all the houses are soooo close together.
We're not gun people (I had one back when I was dating a cop... it was a Valentine's Day gift) and I know for a fact that I would be too paranoid to keep one in the house. When I had one, I kept the bullets in one place and the gun in another, just in case my nephew was over. I had to get rid of it because it worried me so much.
@miss sparkly cat: NO! We're actually all the way on the other side in Charles! We thought it would be really safe because it's farther away from the inner-beltway violence but I guess not. Granted it could be worse.
Like @Abbyful, we have 2 pistols in our bedroom, one in each nightstand. It's the only thing that makes me feel safe, I know a baseball bat isn't going to do anything because #1 you have to be close enough to hit the person and #2 they probably have a gun. So a gun is what makes me feel safe. Obviously when we have kids we have to lock the guns up but for now it works for us.
I lived in an apartment for over 2 years in a pretty rough city. I actually felt very safe there because it was a 3 family home. I figured someone was always home during the night and could hear my screaming :)
We live in a house now in a nicer neighborhood, but I do get scared sometimes.
@firsttimemom: My husband works in Bowie! I thought Charles Co was pretty safe, but you are right, PG has gotten worse so it was only a matter of time before it started to trickle over :/
@miss sparkly cat: We live in AACO :)
@miss sparkly cat: I live in AA Co. and I totally realize what you are saying about the Baltimore stuff flowing out of the city into the county. It's scary!
I am terrified to be a home by myself at night. I have two dogs but they're babies and they wouldn't be protective of me. When I stay at my BF's house he lives right next to a bad neighborhood. I definitely don't like being in his house alone at night.
I very rarely get uneasy at home alone.
We live in a quiet dead-end neighborhood, we have an alarm and two dogs, and there are currently 3 handguns in our bedside table. I'm more afraid for the person who tries to break in. :)
An alarm system is high up on our agenda. We are getting new windows and a slider put in as I type, but I still think an alarm would be a good option. We don't live in a bad neighborhood, but you can never be too careful IMO
I get a little nervous when I am home alone. When this happens, I make sure all the blinds are closed so that nobody can see in, and I usually hang out upstairs--this way nobody could look in at me even if they tried, and also I can hear if someone broke in and have more time to call for help/hide. I will keep the tv on for company and usually turn on a few more lights than I would have on otherwise. Don't feel bad, you're not the only one who gets scared!
No, but I lived alone for a few years (after college, no roommates) so it's kind of nice to get time to myself sometimes. The only time I remember being scared was when I heard some glass breaking on the street, and wasn't sure it was a window or not.
@MrsSl82be: I have several in-laws that live and work in Bowie! We go to baysox games all the time (only about a half hour drive for us) and it's scary to see how much worse it gets every time we go...
@firsttimemom: that's crazy! he works a couple of blocks away from the stadium, and we've been to a few of the games there
Yup, I'm definately not a fan of being at home alone. At night if FI is gone my dog usually lays near the door in protector mode. I live in a safe neighbourhood but, I've never had to live alone so maybe that has something to do with it?
My dog once scared off a burgler when we were at my parents though so he makes me feel a little bit safter.
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