(Closed) Are you sending an invitation to your vendors?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I won’t be.  If they can’t remember where they’re going they can look in the contract. Undecided

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

no.. our contract is their invitation! HAHA

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… we’ll probably send one to our officient because she’s a friend of Mr. KMs, but not the rest of our vendors. They are not technically “invited guests” so… no.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

No, but I wish I had sent one to the photographer to photograph beforehand because I forgot to bring one day of and since it was a destination wedding I didn’t have any handy.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

The officiant is more of a guest I think to a wedding (because it’s usually someone you know very well) whereas the vendors are not.  I don’t think I’ve heard of sending one to them.  Especially if they were blonde and then thought they were getting invited!  I would stick to the paper between you and them being a contract to make it clear what they are there for.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My photographer specified in her contract that we should send her one. I thought that was strange, but have no issue with it.

Our officiant already told us he doesn’t attend the reception. I was somewhat relieved because it seems rather awkward and then I’d feel like we had to tend to him more since he’d know absolutely no one and wouldn’t be occupied like the other vendors.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Nope, they aren’t guests they are hired professionals, so I figure one should not be expected. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I didn’t send invitations to my vendors either. I think it would be a waste of your invitations and stamps since they know they’re supposed to show up.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I might send one to our photographer just to photograph. But I just sent them an email to ask their meal preference – our vendors get to eat the same thing as our guests. 🙂

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

hmmmm – if you send an invite does he bring you a gift?   you already have a contract, have to pay them and have to feed them – what else do they want

edit: ohhhh, Mikan has a good idea… for pics!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our pastor gave us a 10 minute lecture on how inappropriate it was not to send an invitation to the person who was going to marry you and anyone else that you expected to be at the ceremony.  I couldn’t believe how upset he got about apparently one bride in the past who didn’t send him an invite.  So, I’d maybe think about sending an invite to your officiant, but otherwise, I don’t think it’s required or necessary for the vendors.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

@ lkbphmd, that is totally rude on his part. No one has the right to demand or guilt trip you into giving them an invite.

Unless your vendors are friends who will be attending anyway, none of them need invites as they have contracts with you.

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are lucky enough to have some very talented people in our friend pool who will also be serving as “vendors”.  For example, one is a DJ, one is a photographer, and one is a florist.  Of course, they will be recieving invitations.  They are contributing guests!

If you’re unsure about whether or not to send an invitation…. ask.  Some professionals use the invitation as part of their portfolio.  Many professional bakers will use the invite along with a picture of the cake to showcase their talent to prospective clients.  The same is true for photographers.  Our photographer has an entire wall of framed wedding invites, engagement photos and wedding portraits – it’s her “trophy case”.  🙂  Hopefully, you’ll be getting to know your photographer pretty well anyway – since he or she will be capturing the most intimate moments of your day.  I think it’s a sign of respect to send an invite.

Many folks are talking about their vendors being business associates rather than honored guests.  Regardless of whether you send every vendor an invite, my take is that if you’re only looking at your vendors in a business sense – you might be missing out on all they have to offer, and forgetting how much they are contributing to making this a day you’ll never forget.

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