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Last weekend I went to visit my best friend and of course, we went dress shopping. We ended up picking out the same exact dress that my mother and I had decided on months ago so we took a ton of pictures.
This morning I was driving my FI to work and I look over and he's crying.. apparently he picked up our digitial camera to take to work and upload some of our vacation/engagement pics and totally, 100% saw all of the dress pictures. And the crying was bc he though I looked stunning. (haha, he'd kill me for telling anyone that).
So good news- he loves it, bad news, he saw it. Ack, I'm superstitious- I don't know what to do... should I scrap the dress and start over?
Do you believe that it's bad luck for the groom to see the dress before the wedding?
*and since we all love pictures, I've attached the dress in question. Minus the tiara and gloves for my taste though ^_^
dress.jpg (66.2 KB, 46 downloads) 2 years old 
that is such a beautiful dress!
and no, i dont think its bad luck because he hasnt seen you in it with your hair and makeup done with flowers etc on your wedding day.... thats when the magic happens
awwwww if the dress brought him to tears why would you even consider swapping? that's a silly old tradition, don't worry about it :)
I would definitely keep the dress if you love it and he loves it! I think it's a silly superstition.
Eh...I think that superstition/tradition is kind of dumb honestly. I took my FI dress shopping with me. I appreciated the moral support. And now he's just as excited about the dress as I am.
Definately keep the dress! Don't little that kind of sillyness keep you from getting the dress you want. It's your wedding day. He was going to see it on you eventually. And besides, you'll look different after it is fitted and you add the hair and all of the acessories.
I agree w/ Melissa - if it brought him to tears, you should ABSOLUTELY keep it.
You HAVE to keep it! Plus it will be different when he sees it on you in person.
Melissa and danadelphia have it right. Definitely keep it!
I really don't see much difference in him seeing the photo and comparing that to a first look before the ceremony- and people do that allll the time now and things turn out just fine for them. If you moved him to tears in that dress, I would say that is a pretty darn good sign!!
aww thats such a SWEET story!! even though i'd be upset if FI saw mine, he would to though, he avoids the room it stays in at all costs!! however, it something like that happened, of course i'd keep it (or go ahead and purchase it, you've fallen in love w/it twice!!) and pics of you in the dress will be NOTHING comared to you in your dress in person!
Actually, my FI has seen my dress photos, too!!! But only while scanning through pictures here on the internet...I quickly cover up the screen & go "YOU DIDN'T SEE THAT DID YOU?!?!?" It's totally my fault for not being careful..but it's happened numerous times. It does suck, BUT at least he didn't see you in it. I'm totally traditional & we didn't even THINK about a first look...but don't worry girl, he didn't see you in it! You're fine! :)
No, don't worry! My FI didn't want to see mine either, and then they came up on my screen saver at home and he saw :( I'm really upset (and so is he) that he saw, but a lot of people even go dress shopping with their FI! I wouldn't worry about it! :)
My FI and I bought my dress together!
He'll forget by the time he sees you on your wedding day, and with hair + makeup + alterations, the effect will be completely different.
I can see why you're upset, but really, it's not a big deal. Plus, he's seen pictures, not you in the dress, nor the dress in person. Even if you were superstitious, I'm pretty sure the saying doesn't cover digital pictures :)
dresses look so much different in person than through the view on the camera! he will still love it!
It stinks but honestly, if it made him that happy then think of how MUCH happier and amazing it'll be on your wedding day :)
Don't worry, keep the dress! It is gorgeous and it won't be any less so now that he has seen it.
No worries!
Definitely keep it! I would be so happy if my FI saw my dress and cried happy/awestruck tears. Such a relief! I'm still worried he's not going to be impressed on our wedding day, 'cause I'm not that impressed myself.
you have to keep it... all my dress options i had show it to him... im getting dress for him so i think he should have a opinion about it... it was by accident but now u know he fell in love with it
Thanks ladies. I KNOW its so silly- but just hearing support from other brides solidifies that fact that it's really not that big of a deal.
Besides- I was able to play it off as just one of six that I was considering. haha... at least he likes it. He's so sweet. :)
I had actually forgotten that there even was a superstition about bad luck. I'm keeping FI from seeing me in my dress just because I want him to be blown away when he sees me on the wedding day - and honestly because it's quite fun keeping him in the dark. :) Sounds like you've got "making sure the groom's socks are knocked off" squared away nicely!
you have got to keep it! I agree if it brought him to tears... there is no other dress!
keep the dress - surprise him with something he wouldn't expect under the dress 
You have to keep the dress and that story is priceless - you will be telling it to your grandchildren!
I just went through this yesterday, but it was willingly! I had serious dress doubts and was thinking of getting a different dress. My fiance asked to see the pictures and I caved in, since I'm so used to sharing everything with him and knew that he could help calm me down. He ALSO teared up, so I realized that the dress and my fiance were both keepers! 
I definitely don't believe in any of the "bad luck" stuff! The only reason I don't want him to see my dress is just because I think it makes for a fun surprise. I definitely wouldn't change if he saw it, though!
It's not the first and not the last, and I think it's fine, ask him to forget :) Maybe show him tons of other bridal magazines with all the bridal gowns.
beautiful dress!! i definitely think you should keep it!!
Uh, mine came with me to the sample sale, watched me disrobe, and helped me into my dress.
It's still going to be just as freaking magical when he seems me all done up, dress fitted, walking down the aisle towards him.
Awww that is so sweet that he thought that you looked amazing! The dress is beautiful and of course you should keep it. When you are walking down the aisle, he won't even remember seeing the picture because you will have hair/make-up and look way different!
Keep it for sure!!! My FI already saw pics of my dress too and I could care less. We are going to see eachother before the wedding anyhow so that we can take all pics. Your dress is beautiful btw!!
i was talking to my fiance's mom about the whole dress superstition thing and she said, "well my ex husband never saw me in my dress and we all know how that ended up and my current husband had seen me in my dress and we've been together 20 years." lol.
i have never been superstitious about the whole dress thing. if you love the dress why would you get rid of it? it will be a whole different experience anyway when he sees you in it on your wedding day.
Dont you worry about it all all.. I think its perfectly fine for him to know which dress you gonna be wearing.. my FI seen my dress on the website.. i showed it to him.. if you love the dress and now you know he loves the dress keep it..
My FI went gown shopping with me and he enjoyed every moment of it, saw me in my dress, stares at pictures of me in my dress, and we are planning to take photos before the ceremony on the day of the wedding.. Neither of us are superstitious at all.
Even for the "wow" factor, he thinks it'll be different (even better) when I'll be all dressed up with make-up, hair, etc. It wont' take away the wow factor.
I wouldn't sweat it at all. If he cried seeing how stunning you look in a picture in which you aren't even made-up, yet, just think how he'll react when he sees you on your wedding day.
Also, that's a beautiful dress!! KEEP IT!
He didn't PHYSICALLY see you in it, which is technically the superstition ;)
I say it's fine... plus you brought tears to his eyes when he glimpsed PICTURES of it, just imagine how he will feel when he sees it on your wedding day!
Keep the dress!!! He probably wont remember exactly what it looks like anyways and he is going to think you are a million times more gorgeous on your actual wedding day!!
Don't worry about it! The whole seeing the bride in the dress thing goes back to the old days when people were in arranged marriages and they had to make sure that the man didn't think the woman was too ugly to marry. So keep it and expect some more tears on the wedding day!
I think it's so cute that he started crying. But honestly you should keep it. To start with, by the time the wedding comes around he won't remember the details of the dress. Also, there's a big difference between seeing you in pics trying the dress on without being done up with everything else and seeing you in it on your wedding day looking stunning. If he's crying now, I'm sure he will be overwhelmed (in a good way) when he sees you coming down the aisle ;-)
My dad saw my moms dress and they've been married for 30 years :-) I say keep it, if you think he cried now, wait till he see's the whole look put together!
my fi came with me to one of the stores where i tried on dresses, and has seen pics of *the* dress (though not of me in it). we're doing all our photos before the ceremony. i totally don't buy into the superstition
the dress is amazing....you'll look stunning. i mean he already cried cause you looked so good...wait til you got the hair, the make-up, the nails...
he didn't see nothin yet!!! :)
plus, now he's expecting/fantasizing/waiting to take THAT dress off you! :)
i'm superstitious too...but seriously, you're good.
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